Im in a 6 month rehab… my new room mate just got out of a 30 year prison bid… hes smoking spice saying dont tell anyone… someone else said something to me about it. So i sent an email to my councilor… hope i dont get stabbed lol
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I feel like @MrCade might have some insight on this type of environment. But I could be wrong.
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I haven’t been in your situation. What I can say is that the “Four Absolutes” that the 12 steps are based upon are absolute purity, unselfishness, love, and honesty. Doing drugs in a rehab and recruiting you to lie for him, this is about the opposite of honesty, nowhere near absolute honesty.
In AA, we talk about “cash register honesty” - being honest when others are looking and the consequences of dishonesty are pretty certain. This is what the roomie was violating. Spiritual honesty, which is recognizing and acting to keep your values consistent with your behavior is what you practiced.
Snitch is a jail term. You might want to think about replacing that in your vocabulary. Being congruent and sensitive is not a negative thing, you deserve recognition for the courage it took to follow through on it, and for the way you maintained your character.
Bravo to you, brother.
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Having never been to rehab, I can only offer my opinion and support, for what it’s worth.
When it comes to our sobriety, all bets are off.
That’s not “snitching”, that’s fighting for your life.
Whatever code you might think you violated is meaningless when compared to your health and well being.
I know it happens all the time in rehab, but when a person continues to use, in that setting, they are putting their DOC before your recovery. They’re placing a higher value on getting high than the cost of you relapsing. It’s completely unfair, damaging and selfish.
Your roommate violated you. That’s unacceptable.
Without question, you did the right thing.
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Many moons ago when I was in a sober living house I came home to my roommate smoking crack in the bathroom. In the moment he was too high to talk to, but the next morning I made it clear that would be the last time for that or I would go to the house manager because I wasn’t putting up with that shit. About a week later it was the same situation so I reported him. They kicked him out. I don’t have any regrets about what I did.
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After doing 30 years he doesnt know anything else and probably deep down wants to go back. In recovery you need to remain top priority, you need him out of there
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