You’ve certainly got your work cut out for you. You do, however, seem insightful, experienced and skilled enough to make this run at sobriety a successful one. Whatever success looks like for you. Congratulations on your new role! Be yourself and I’m positive you’ll dazzle the recruiter. What’s involved in the pre-employment test? Wishing you every success.
Pre-employment drug test…
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I’ve been there before. It’s nerve wracking, even when you don’t have any substances in your system. Turning up and taking the test is in your control, the rest is in their hands. Best of luck!
For me its just the rage…
I’m easily angered but I’ve pretty much mastered it…
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So I have been struggling with a sweet tooth all the sudden?! I have noticed that I crave sweets in the late evenings 
I have def put on a few pounds lol (side note I have never had a sweet tooth in my life)
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Well done on finding ways to cope with your rage. What have you noticed that adds fuel to the fire? What tools have you found useful to tame it?
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That’s an interesting change in your life. I’m not a sweet tooth either, but I do love to eat. This is something I need to monitor this early on sobriety. How late do you hit the sweets? What sweets do you enjoy?
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Well, sorry to be blunt…
But the thing that enrages me the most is stupid people. No disrespect. Idk how else to explain it. But I’ve learned to be able to put myself in other people shoes and not just see my side of it. That was a huge step foward for me. Also, I stopped getting mad at things I can’t control. I’m able to take a step back before the rage takes over and ask myself a simple question. “Am I able to to anything about this right now, or ever?” If its a no, I let it go. Might take a bit but it happens. Took me years to be able to pinpoint this and deal with it…but im not gonna lie. I still fail at times and the fire isnt easly put out I just remember that I am human and we make mistakes. Not just I, But others as well. Get me?
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No apology needed. You have your challenges just like the rest of us. Learning empathy in moments that trigger your anger is a commendable skill. It takes lots of practice and patience. Combining it with self awareness about what you can or can’t control gives you a powerful set of tools in your kit. They seem to be helping so far. Finding what triggers you, then finding what helps would be a natural path with setbacks along the way. You wouldn’t be human without mistakes. Learning from them seems to be your strength. More power to you. What would you consider a stupid person?
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The loneliness and judgment of changing… I only have support from you all and my therapist. My family don’t treat me like they care to help me or even themselves. I mean that in every way of healing too. It hurts to be so isolated in a home full of people
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@Ngozij thanks for sharing. Feeling judged and isolated is common for people pursuing sobriety. It really sucks! Having unsupportive family who don’t share your views on being sober is a heavy burden. Wanting change for your family is natural, but they need to want it for themselves. It seems time to devote that energy into your own journey. Who knows, your example may encourage them to get help too. The fact that you are seeking support through therapy and coming here is a great step. Keep checking in, chatting, reading stories, especially when times are more challenging. Attending meetings is a solid way to build strength to continue. Keep it up, you’ve got this!
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Got a good point there. 
. Lol I would hate to insult anyone by explaining that. That itself would make me a stupid person whatever you think goes in that catagory, goes there 
. Biggest one for me is how people drive. I just dont understand. But that’s fine. I can’t control people so I dont worry about it…as much.
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Poor drivers really grind my gears! Where I live, there’s a large retired, elderly population. I’ve had many close calls while driving around town (maybe it’s me?), mostly with elderly people not indicating, not driving to speed or conditions, or not knowing how to negotiate roundabouts (there’s heaps of roundabouts here). There’s my rant. I should take a leaf from your book and stop being angry about what I can’t control. Thanks for the therapy!
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Well it does come and go, but when I do crave- they are intense! And it usually hits around 7pm/8pm. And it can be 11pm and my brain still thinking of something sweet 
the amount of times I run out to get a milkshake lol. It usually sweet like icecream or chocolate. So i have been trying to eat, like frozen yogurt, keto brownies, low sugar i replace reg sugar with coconut sugar cookies, there they granola bites I have from costo that help. I have read that it the brain trying to replace one dopamine with another (like alcohol with sugar) But who knows lol
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HA! what gets me is each state has its own driving styles/types of people, and i just feel like there are so many reckless drivers. Why is everyone in such a hurry! And lastly my biggest pet peeve are people who drive under the speed limit on the highway! Like dude get off the interstate and take back roads. Do you know how unsafe it is to go under the speed limit. We are all driving at a speed we think you are driving at, it quite scary going 70 and coming up on someone going 50
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I feel you on this, no offense to the elderly but i 100 percent support re taking driving test at 80 or something to see if you can still drive safely. I work with the elderly population and it so incredibly sad when the keys are “taken” they feel so much loss of indepedence and trapped. It really sucks butttt that being said, 90 percent of them I work with should NOT drive.
@Ngozij That sounds incredibly lonely. We are here for you! Check in, read around, respond. Have you thought about joining a meeting? I personally feel that sobriety can feel isolating at times. I am so sorry to hear your family is not being supportive. That must be challenging but maybe you just need to focus on you for right now and your healing journey, hang in there 
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Most people crave sugar when coming off alcohol age i think the reasons are two fold. One all alcohol is made from sugar/carbs and contains sugar. Whether wheat, corn, patato, honey, rice, apples, grapes, etc. The root of alcohol is sugar. The second reason you already got on the chemical release. In brain imaging scans done it has actually been shown that the brain reacts or highlights the exact same areas of the brain as cocaine.
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Yeah I’ve never taken one so yeah
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What i want to know is on what metrics do you define someone as stupid. Is it iq well if so there are so many low iq people that are Savants and have mastery beyond most experts in one particular area. Maybe we define it as someone with autism well then go watch elon musk because he has autism and is highly intelligent. Is it someone who isn’t good at a particular field well I’ve seen a meme where there is someone teaching music theory proclaiming it’s not rocket science and someone teaching rocket science proclaiming it’s not music theory. This sentiment is also true amongst people in the same general field like science. Did you know most Nobel prize winners in the field of science believed in nonsense in some other scientific field outside of there speciality. For example the person who finds the cure to cancer might fully believe the earth is flat. At the end of the day we are all human and we are all smart in some ways and stupid in other ways.
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Thats literally why they put sugar in all processed foods. Keeps us hooked to the junk. And when does the sugar craving die down? At what point does it ease it up? Could also be hormonal, had a baby 4 months ago and my sweet tooth never disappeared entirely since i was pregnant.
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