My mom happened to call me last night by accident. She butt dialed me. We rarely talk in the evenings or for that matter unscheduled. The fact of the matter is because, like all my other relationships, interactions with me need to be scheduled (unless of course they were people I drink with) because i didn’t want to talk to people while I was drinking or recovering.
I had not spoken with her since before I stopped drinking (3 weeks ago). I told her last night on the phone that I had stopped and even though she tried to hide it, she started instantly crying. We never talked about my drinking. She said shes always trusted my judgment but she has been worried about my drinking for a long time and that she is so very happy about my decision.
What are people saying to you, good or bad, now that they know you’ve given up alcohol?
Nothint but good things. My brother was in town for work from SC, he and my mom’s came over and had lunch and hung out for like 4 hours. He was quite happy to see me and the family in such a better spot, he had fears about the foster care fucking up the kids in some type of way. It was a genuine pleasure to hang out and shoot the shit like a regular human lol.
My mom never fails to say how much we’ve grown and how much better we look, always pouring on the pride that we came through the forest and got back on the trail.
Every day I wake up and I am thankful for the second chance at life that I have been given, even if no one noticed or said anything nice I’d still feel good because I know what it took to get here and how much further I still have to go.
Keep trudging that road to happy destiny friend, we makin it 1 step, 1 day at a time.
Everyone I know tells me they’re proud of me. Some people avoid me now. I think the change I’m making makes them realize they need to change too. I also have a few people who I do not trust because they use and they seem to want to sabotage me. I have cut out all the toxic people and have started making new friends in meetings and in my iop group. It’s definitely lonely, but I know it’ll get better if I keep coming back.
Everyone is happy for me. Usually they ask who I got pregnant, what law did I break, did the doctor tell me to quit…its hard for them to think that I had enough of that life and finally quit.
Everyone is proud of me, but many also say they could “never” do it. But it’s cool, it’s my road to walk not theirs! I’m happy with it and that’s really all that matters to me.
My family are so immensely proud of me, though they never really knew how bad my drinking was, I had caused problems but they were few and far between so it was presumed a rare thing. I had to tell them everything then they have watched me grow again I’m so thankful for their praise and support
I just told a friend what I went through with detox and the just off it, he’s really surprised I was able to say one day I was going to quit everything. He seemed really surprised, I got out of it before I got really really bad.
I havent told alot of people yet, but everyone that ive told really support me and are pretty surprised, nothing but good things. I havent had someone talk trash to me yet, those people I always kept out of my life so if they start now they know where they will end up on my list, the bottom of the list or even off of it.
Only my husband knows and honestly I don’t think he takes it seriously. But not because he thinks I can’t do it but because he thinks I don’t need to. He’s a “normie” so he can stop drinking for a week without a second thought. He doesn’t understand that I have second thoughts most of my waking minutes.
I think most people don’t think I have a problem. They all probably think I drink too much and that I’m obnoxious when I do but I think they all think I can just stop.
People really don’t know what it’s like unless they also suffer with addiction.
Yes or they have seen it or have lived around it. I’ve had a few friends ask “so when are you going to start drinking again?” My answer is as soon as I accomplish all my goals. I just leave out the part that one of my goals is to never drink again. Haha.
Haha that’s clever. What I thought you were going to say was that you’re always going to have goals and alcohol gets in the way of all of them. I guess that’s especially true for that goal
I knew I had to quit if I wanted to accomplish my goals. I put them off everyday… Too much borrowing time from the future and accomplishing nothing but poisoning my body and my life.
I think with sobriety you find out who’s important in your life and who’s not. Some have offered accolades and support while others have no desire for your sober company. Oh well, moving on is difficult sometimes but staying put could be devastating. I’ll choose my well being everytime…now.
That sabotage thing is interesting right? I’m on a few other communities for giving up alcohol and that one pops up everywhere. You know I look at my own behavior and how I always encouraged people to drink when I was drinking. I never thought I was being a peddlers of poison. I just saw myself as someone encouraging people to have a good time. It’s so funny to be here looking at my old self and realizing now why bartenders love me. I was selling alcohol for them. Investing in giving me free drinks was like paying a clown to toss a sign in front of your business. Holy shit I’m legit realizing this as I type it. They were paying me to sell their product to everyone around me.
