What drinking does to coping emotions

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I want to first say this is just me being observant, not fact.
I went to a Halloween party last night and as we were walking out we walked out to a fist fight between to guys and a group of girls yelling and screaming. For the first time in my life I was sad, scared, and worried for them.
I know this is important to recognize because I have ALWAYS been a fighter. Probably not a very good fighter either being that I am small, and usually would fight people bigger than me.Also that I was almost always drunk.I can’t count or even recollect how many fights I’ve been in.
Some justified most of them absolutely not.
You know what?I didn’t care. If I would have been drunk I would have picked a fight with one of those girls egging on the fight I’m sure.I almost did sober.
Most of my fights have been sticking up for others, or sticking up for myself.
Anywho
I am sitting here eating on my lunch on a rainy day which always makes you think more and I realize how dangerous those situations truly are, and the inner healer in me doesn’t like how scary and ugly fighting is.Ill always stand up for others but the drunken veil that approved of every unnecessary fight is gone.
Another thing is my anxiety for all the what ifs, fear of death, fear of war, ect. Is not completely gone but I am finding ways to cope with it. Can’t control everything, or everyone and that’s okay.I am praying more and I know my next step needs to be going back to church, that’s where I feel the calmest.

I realized how much drinking stops my ability to think logically, to process all those feelings, and search for a way to heal from them, and to actually allow yourself to use the tools you have found.
Just thought I’d share this.
Has anyone noticed a change in their coping ?

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@Oliverjava
That is awesome, such an amazing feeling walking through nature.Its so calming.Im glad you have found some different outlets as well.:blush:
Have you noticed people acting amazed by your change of attitude towards things?I know my parents have finally noticed after 2 months.
Change is good.

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I couldn’t cope with anything when in drank and I drank to ‘cope’ but know now that I could not cope with anything whilst drunk (i was drunk all the time) nor did I have any control of my emotions. Since stopping drinking my emotions have slowly resurfaced and I have found new ways to cope with them. Talking about how I feel to another person always helps instead of bottling them up. Talking things through and hearing what you are saying helps to make sense of what you are feeling. I work the aa 12 step programme (i know not everyone does but it works for me to help manage my life) I don’t worry about all the things I used to and I’m alot calmer and rational. Things still piss me off (im only human!) But I deal with them as and when they arise. Nothing is ever as bad as I sometimes think it is and if something is out of my control then I let it go, makes life alot easier :blush:

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@Oliverjava what a good feeling!
As a dog lover I would say their opinion is very trustworthy!lol :yum:
@Jojo
It’s amazing what comes back to us once we stop drinking…and being able to actually handle things better feels so good.i always thought people were full of shit and there’s no way that the answer to my inability to cope was to first stop drinking…yet here we are .:blush:

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