What is the hardest struggle for people when they have been sober for years and how so they deal with it ?
Word! The first couple og months I struggled with the drugs,old friends,old habbits,and all the things related to staying sober. But as time goes by,more and more it’s about life’s “normal” struggles. The hardest thing about drug related issues,as time goes by,is if you think; I’ve done good, i’ve been sober for å long time now. I got control… I deserve å break… I think that is a hard one,and also dangerous when u have been clean for a while :-/
I must admit I’m looking forwards to having that length of time sober knowing I’ve faced a multitude of life’s scenarios and dealt with them.
For instance, my neighbours keep inviting me to their BBQs that they have at weekends every now and again with their friends who are all heavy drinkers. In these early weeks of sobriety I don’t feel strong enough to say “sure, but I don’t drink” and then be able to be honest enough to say why. Instead I keep making random excuses and then have to go away for the evening so I’m not in. Give me a couple of years so I can stand up confident and proud “Nope, I don’t give a shit about your BBQ you’re all obnoxious drunk idiots”. OK I’d word it slightly differently 
I agree with the other posters— it just gets easier over time because we have learned other ways to handle stress and other ways to celebrate. Picking up a drink is no longer a coping mechanism I employ. I’m at 3 years and 10 months sober. It’s not a struggle. Not drinking is easy because I phased it out as an option long ago. I have zero interest in drinking again.
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