What do I say to someone who says to me “what is a stupid chip on an app going to do for you?” “It’s not like it can do anything.”
For me. I wanted to say. It gives me hope. A reminder of how hard I’ve worked to get to this 7th Day. That every agonizing day of torture that I’ve been through has got me THIS far. And makes me want to try that much harder for another day of being sober. Haven’t you seen this torture I’ve been going through? Don’t you want to be happy for me that I’ve made it this far?!
But I don’t. I said nothing. I just stood there weak, fragile and wanting to cry. Walking away feeling pathetic, like nothing I’ve done so far has meant anything.
We know it makes us feel good to see that chip. I was basically alone when I started my recovery and no one irl to share it with. Everyone here knows how hard you’ve worked to get that first week of ODAATs. It was brutal for me and I loved every little on line celebration I could get.
I’m doing this to make myself feel better. Some normies and friends just don’t get it. You just keep doing you and come here to celebrate any day of sobriety you want. Each day sober for me IS A BIG DEAL!!
If somebody sais that to me I’ll say wtf do you know and walk away. They clearly have not paid addiction or my life journey any thought and it’s not my job to educate them on either.
You do want you need to do to keep yourself sober. What other ppl think is none of your business.
As I started to process my feelings sober I was pretty fragile and wanted to cry quite often. It’s ok. Let the cleansing tears happen. Its not like I could have stopped them anyway. It’s all a process and it can be very emotional for quite awhile.
People that act that way are miserable, weak, and insecure on the inside, and they feel better about diminishing others accomplishments. You ever here the saying misery loves company. Like Eric said, come on here and celebrate your days, hours, minutes with people who know how hard your working.
People who have never experienced addiction simply dont understand how things are for us so their words come from a place of ignorance…dont take what they say personally because you know what youve been through and how hard your working for this and that is all that matters. We all understand here, i for one am beyond proud of you
Here in the southern U.S., we would say, “Shut your piehole!”
But seriously, they don’t understand. We do understand and know how much it takes to get to 7 days. You have a ton to be proud of!! You are not weak or pathetic. You definitely may be fragile right now. Be gentle with yourself and keep on keepin’ on. You are doing this!!! Congrats on your 7 days!!
People who react like that may have many reasons…. Jealously, fear, suspicion or their just jerks
Only people who have had to fight to get sober will really understand and you will soon realise who is really there for you. My mum will never understand what I went/go through but would never say something like that but an old “drinking buddy” may have. You get you choose who stays in your new life.
You should say just exactly what you did in this post. They are indeed mileposts of our sobriety journey, and something to feel proud about. It’s a big accomplishment.
Ok, this is a bit out there, but I REALLY struggle with confrontation. When I get worked up, I can’t find the words. So when people say things that piss me off, instead of mumbling I… just… stare at them until they awkwardly change the subject.
Weird? Yes. Unnervingly so.
Some things shouldn’t be dignified with an answer, and the comment that person made to you is on the list.
Sounds to your DOC isnt the only thing you should quit. Anyone that is truly in your corner would never say something so ignorant.
I am on day 3 and i cant even imagine 7 ! I hope to make it . It is agony but it is kind of a challenge with myself . See which one of my sides win . So far the real me is on top .
I get reactions like this too from my own family… I keep a lot of what I am feeling to myself because of this, but it would be nice to share this type of stuff with someone who will listen… which is why I am here
Rarely does a question like that need an answer so I like that you said nothing
There’s no need to justify yourself the proof of your hard work is right there on that chip.
A little chip which may not mean much to the uneducated questioner but to some of us
it’s the difference between life and death.
Keep fighting the good fight mate
Wow… how unsupportive of that person to say that to u i loved receiving my milestone “chips”. Its something we should be very proud of. Its not easy being in recovery and that persons comment to u was sooo unhelpful. Im sorry u had to experience that.
I have come to learn overtime that i have to be very choosy with who I share my recovery stuff with. Some people can be rude or ignorant, and some just dont understand. I have shared openly with others in the past and it has backfired in my face. Now i dont bother sharing anything with these individuals. But the people who do “get it”, i openly share my recovery with like people on this forum
the proof of your hard work is right there on that chip.
i loved receiving my milestone “chips”. Its something we should be very proud of. Its not easy being in recovery and that persons comment to u was sooo unhelpful. Im sorry u had to experience that.