I’m so scared of what is going to happen to me. When I think I’m doing good I give in and drink. My heart hurts, my head hurts, I say things and post on on social media, I message people things I regret the morning after. I lie to the people I love and say I’m sober and they are happy for me when really I’m dealing with health problems. I dream of what I will look like and feel like if I’m sober and healthy. I make plans, and ambitions that I don’t make a reality . How can I make sobriety a reality ? How do I give myself a great normal life without alcohol in my life?
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In order to come out of it you need to let go of the fear. The unknown can be good too, though our mind tells us otherwise. It’s supposed to do that, it’s how we were created to stay alive.
You are just another person, no greater, no lesser than any other.
You can do this @DeeCierra27
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There’s two questions here. With the answer to the second one being dependent on what happens with the first one.
To become sober you have to not take that next drink. You need support around you and help to have the determination to not take that next drink. You can find that here. There’s lots of articles on ways to quit drinking. There’s lots of people who can be mental support to help you not drink. It has to come from you though. You are the one who has to not take the drink.
. Can talk to a family doctor, you can talk to other resources to help you quit also again it all comes to you you not taking that drink. The more that you can mentally get in your head that you do not want to drink the easier it will be for you. Lots of threads on the site on how to help yourself become sober whether it is on your own or if you have the help of an organized in person or online group like AA. All this information is on the site.
After you are sober you will begin to find your normal. Most people prefer their sober self over their drinking self. This is what you have to look forward to.
It’s a Relearning process of seeing that you don’t need alcohol in your life to have whatever it is you think you’re getting from the alcohol.
Again, most people after a certain while prefer themselves sober … mentally and physically.
The community support here will help you a lot. And you will be able to read other peoples stories and see how becoming sober affected them.
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One of the biggest things ive had to learn in sobriety is patience, ive literally had to re learn how to be patient…nothing in sobriety happens quickly…there is no longer any instant gratification for things but as ive gone along ive realised that when good things do happen in sobriety they are tenfold because those moments are actually real and clear. I dont like the word normal…life is different for everyone…everyone is their own person so forget whats normal and do what feels right for you…to do that you need to be able to feel and not numb those feelings with booze or drugs…dont be scared of how you feel good or bad…accept the feelings when they come, deal with them best you can and have faith in your sobriety that however good or bad it might seem that you are mapping out a new sober life for yourself, so you stay sober just for today and then repeat.
My love to you 
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After a while of drinking, you can really start to forget yourself and at least for me, I was pretty much always hungover or drunk or obsessing about when the next drink might be, I had no idea what normal was for me anymore.
Recovery really is a journey and at the beginning a lot of it is more specific, daily, how to not drink, but as you get a handle on that it becomes more abstract, wider, how do I want my life to be. You can rediscover hobbies, discover new things about yourself that you masked with alcohol. A program like AA, Recovery Dharma, SMART can really help you learn how to live without alcohol. Sometimes we also need therapy or counselling to deal with how you want to live as a person.
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The answer is simple: You say “no” to the drink that matters…the first drink…forever, and then you get after building the life you want to have. Figure out where you want to be in 5 years, what it will take to get there, and then get after it.
Not saying it’ll be easy…but the plan is simple: imagine it, do it.
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