My husband drinks as well. It was really hard when I was first getting sober. I blamed him a lot for me drinking. Then someone on here reminded me that he wasn’t picking up that drink and pouring it down my throat, I was and that I was 100% responsible for my sobriety. That really resonated with me. So, I started going to bed real early and staying sober. Going for walks at night and staying sober. Going to fitness classes and the gym at night and staying sober. Basically getting away from the booze and him til I built up some sober muscles and had some sober tools. Also, no wine allowed in the house. All sorts of liquor here and beer, but it doesn’t really tempt me. Wine did. A lot.
I had to learn to separate what I could control…my drinking…with what I could not control…his drinking. Once that clicked in my mind, it helped. It was hard and uncomfortable at first, but I spent a lot of time alone in our bedroom and pushed thru.
My husband is a wonderful, kind man…
.and he loves me as I love him. I had no intention of losing my marriage, but I stepped back from it for awhile to focus on getting myself healthy and it has helped our marriage a lot. Only you know the heart of your marriage and your husband.
There are a lot of threads on here about living with someone who drinks, I put together a post with some links to threads…
Does your partner still drink? Some threads you may find helpful
I hope you find this helpful. I know it is frustrating. Keep working on YOU. 