What would you do if you had your significant other lied to you after you ask them nicely not to do something but yet did it anyway

What should I do because I know a lot of people would probably say it’s not a big deal grow up and move on but it’s a bit challenging when my significant other decides to do the very thing I asked him not to do let me explain

A few years back when we met my now husband introduced me to my know mother-in-law I thought everything was fine until my know husband went into the other room she decided to tell me how much she truly did not like me etc.

That’s just a little piece of it because I don’t want to go really into it but the crucial part I need you guys to understand that this woman did not really give any room to even get to know me before telling me theys hurtful things to the point she even told me I’d never be a good mother so on and so on I never understood it but it happened never In the whole entire time I was with my know husband she made it quite clear she did not like or care for me

But make this make sense please when I tell you all this that this woman does not say anything or does anything that I said when my know husband is in the room

but anyway long story short I told my husband right after we had our first child I do not want someone like that around our child I don’t even want her to have pictures because in all honesty she’s not all innocent, and she said hurtful things I just don’t want that kinda behavior in our children’s lives and he agreed and he said he’d never do something like that especially if I say not to

But the other day our child brought his phone to me and you all know how children can be they press buttons and it goes to things well long story short I thought the text messages was from me because the other day my husband asked for some pictures and I reminded him please don’t shere any pictures with your mom he says he promised so I sent them and that’s what I thought the texts messages thing was on me well come to find out it wasn’t it was his mom and he’s been sharing more than just one picture that I sent him the other day so long story short I caught him in a lie I asked him about it multiple times gave him so many chances to admit to it but he never did he just kept on lieing and telling me he didn’t until I told him I know he did it stop lieing to me so he finally did so I ask him what dose he have to say for himself and all he could say is we’ll hunny there’s something’s that should be said and there’s something that shouldn’t be said and he just kept on saying that and nothing else I’m just so hurt and lost for words what do you guys think I should do

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That’s a tough one. I think you guys should see a marriage counselor. I really think any advice other than that probably isn’t gonna be very helpful.

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yep, you need professional help, this is highly toxic and spiraling. at first you can up your boundaries, communicate clearly, ask and listen to get into the whys and patterns. not to accept it but to gather information and get the picture. protect yourself and get help asap. hugs :people_hugging:

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