Was looking for everyone’s opinion.
What would you do in this case?
We recently moved into a new house a few days ago. This is now the third night here.
I know I have not been getting enough sleep.
The reason is because in our old house we had dark curtains in the bedroom and my body would wake up naturally after a good nights sleep.
Here in the new house we have blinds and only blinds.
In the morning the morning light seeps through and I feel like I’m waking up not feeling as well rested.
I spoke with my wife about installing curtains in one bedroom and she is against it. She said it will take a little while for us to get used to it.
I’ve tried closing the blinds upwards and downwards and nothing seems to work.
She is totally against me drilling holes in the wall for the curtains and is getting upset that I keep asking.
What would you do?
She also noted that it doesn’t bother the kids. I don’t want to ask the kids so that they start thinking it bothers them when it doesn’t.
I’ll compromise. Today I’m going to buy a sleep mask and see if that works for me.
HaH! I can totally relate! We have blinds too, and if even a smidgen of lights seeps through, I am awake at the crack of dawn. I have worn a sleep mask for years now, and it does the trick.
Hopefully the sleep mask will work for ya. Good luck!!
That is what i would do. I have never been in any relationship where there is 100% agreement. Over the years, i have found compromise seems to keep all happy
Sit down with your wife and just listen: (Step 1) Start with the question, “Help me understand why you don’t want to install curtains in our bedroom.” Listen to her response. Do not judge or react. When she is done speaking, repeat back to her, what she said - so you say, “It sounds like you are thinking _______.” (Step 2) Then ask her, “What else is important to you about this?” Listen to her response. Do not judge or react. When she is done speaking, repeat back to her, what she said - so you say, “It sounds like you are thinking _______.”
Repeat step 2 as often as it takes until you understand all of her reasons. Be completely open and non judgmental.
When she is done, thank her for sharing with you, and tell her you are grateful to have her with you, and for you guys to work through all the parts of this move (which is a lot of moving parts) together.
The mask sounds like a good idea. My wife wears one. (Which is pretty intense because we have blackout curtains in our room. I think my wife is part vampire.)
Thank you I’m totally getting a sleep mask today.
Most stores are closed as it’s Canada Day here but I do believe Walmart is open.
Definitely getting one. Thank you
lol maybe I’m also a part vampire.
I love complete darkness when sleeping.
Strangely enough even in the old house I would wake up naturally at 6:30am but felt more well rested.
When I’m officially up here it’s around the same time but I’m pretty sure the first light and crack of dawn is about an hour or so before 6am and I’m probably tossing and turning during it so impacts my sleep.
I will compromise and invest in a mask.
I will also sit my wife down and ask. I tried that recently with the hustle and bustle of moving and we were both just running around cleaning and moving stuff and she didn’t respond in a very nice way.
She has been super stressed recently and so have I so that conversation didn’t go well. But I’ll let things settle before bringing it up ever again and will invest in a mask.
I am the same in the sense I pick crappy times to ask things. I then get upset by the response. We’ve been together 11 years and I feel like we’re only just starting to really figure each other out.
My wife likes the dark. I don’t love it being completely dark in the morning as i already struggle to wake. If it’s blacked out I could probably sleep for 24 hours straight
Get one w 3D coverage! Like a thicker layer around the eye socket w/o pressing on the eye ball. This thing saves my ass in summer. Plus its got Bluetooth speakers! Best 18€ on Amazon I ever spent!
It’s a question, an important one, because in a constructive relationship of equal partners, in a situation of evolution and change - which this is - it’s important to understand, with empathy. The result is a stronger, more productive relationship, and a stronger, more productive self.
There are no drill shades out there. They fit into the window frame and aren’t very noticeable when open. No holes in the wall and more coverage to block the sun. Win, win!!
Totally agree blinds can FRO.
I’m going to look into the 3D ones.
It was Canada Day today so everything was closed but tomorrow I will be getting the eye masks. Thank you
Because my wife owns it too with me and all the rooms have blinds and main floor has all blinds too. When I asked her she said she doesn’t want holes in the walls and that if only one room has curtains it would look a little strange.
If I do it anyways she will be upset.
I am a morning person but just not as soon as the light breaks.
More like 6:30am but here we have the first light around 5am and that’s too early for me.
