Been off pills for 48 days now & I am struggling recently for no obvious reasons. Just wondering how some of you are successful during the weaker days and even though I haven’t felt so clear minded and good, why do I feel so temped day in day out. Trying to remind myself of the Cons but it’s draining me constantly thinking about a relapse. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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It kind of figures tho doesnt it that something that youve done for a long time day in day out takes a long time to shake? Its what your body and mind have gotten used to, weve literally trained it to do that…once our DOC isnt there anymore weve got to find ways to fill the gap until those things become our new normal instead…we have to create a life that we dont want to escape from. All of that takes time and perseverance…work on yourself, get to know the person you are again without the pills…what makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing? I wrote actual lists of these and have them on my phone…i think the biggest thing is to do exactly what youve done today and reach out to fellow addicts here when you are struggling, its hard getting and staying sober but you dont have to do it alone, we are here for you and we all get it, welcome to the forum 
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Thanks a lot for the advice it makes a lot of sense. I am going to try to write down some goals etc to maintain focus, cheers!
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Maybe not so much future goals because its better to try and take each day one day at a time and not look too far ahead in early sobriety but things that you can do each day in general that make you happy and that you enjoy doing are great to write down, also a list of things that you are greatful for is good too.
There is a documentary called ‘stutz’ on netflix that is a good watch…its not exactly addiction focused but good for tools for dealing with life in general, i found it really useful early on in my sobriety
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Oh yeah suppose, that’s a valid point ha
Thanks a lot I’ll check it out after work 
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One way to think about it is your actions right now make who you are tomorrow or even later today. If I drink now I will be the hungover mum, the unprepared worker. If I stay sober now, I show in my actions that I prioritize being a present mum, a dedicated worker.
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And I felt like sobriety was really just becoming a part of my regular life around the 10 month mark. I slowly had stopped checking my time, stopped feeling like I was battling. I was just cruising (still with ups and downs, but more stable).
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I agree with this i too hit a point around that time where i felt asthough i wasnt having to fight every day to not cave, sobriety was becoming my new normal…all the old habits had been replaced by then
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Hi! Welcome to the community! Congrats on your 48 days🎉. We have the same DOC and I’m day 45 therefore at this point I don’t have valuable words of wisdom, I just want to say I know it’s hard but I believe we got through the hardest part, the very beginning days when you would give anything to just be comfortable in your own skin, those days for me, the physical stuff far outweighed the mental. I know it’s not easy and you did it!! There’s a quote I love, “I have never heard of anyone regretting getting sober”. We just have to get on solid footing again and we will, all we can do is protect ourselves and build a better life in the process. Sending strength your way!
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I couldn’t fully get sober until I put 100% effort into a sobriety program. Feeling good and reminding myself of the things that happen when I drank faded after a while for me. I felt good and then I got cranky or sick. I started to forget consequences or rationalized them away.
It takes work to set a life on a different course when it’s been heading the same direction for years. I needed lots of outside help to do that.
I wish you success on your journey. Blessings on your house 
as you begin.
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I am almost 7 months sober I think making it 6 months was a bit of a turning point for me. Dont get me wrong, the temptation and the urge exists urs just easier to manage. Congrats and good luck
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Hey Sean, how are you doing today?
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I am doing good thanks for asking. Been writing things down and setting some new goals etc. Glad I reached out on here yesterday it really helped a lot. Today has been easier I am very grateful.
How are you?
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So happy to hear that! Keep on keeping on my friend! I’m doing ok, this morning has been a bit of a struggle actually but my mood is starting to lighten and still lots of time to make it a good day!
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