Hey guys, this is my second swing at this. I relapsed at 70 days. Just became to my knowledge a static of relapse. I’ve been miserable these 100 day sense. This really isn’t something I would usually do, but I’m beyond tired of feeling like a failure. I just want to be a better version of myself the person I was for those 70 days. I’m reaching out, we wouldn’t all be here if we weren’t some the same right? Please share with me how your doing, and how your doing it. I would greatly appreciate any feed back. Thanks
Yours truly,
I can do this…
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What works for me is using this app and visualizing what I want out of the day vs how the day can run me. Take it from someone that has done a fair share of things and relapsed I come back here and focus.
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Have you ever been to AA or anything?
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Hi Kristie. I’m on day 7, tough night last night with the thoughts saying it is ok to drink, but the thoughts dispersed after told myself I have done a week tomorrow.
Counting the days is a helpful thing for me maybe. I think I will find day 9 hard, unless I go to the cinema or something for my self care. 8th day easy as have an AA meeting. Wishing you good luck and good recovery. 
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Welcome. Be among friends. I felt the same as you, just sick to my stomach of myself.
Today, I am doing pretty OK and am three years and a bit sober. Honestly, the last few days, I have made some mistakes at work, had some home stuff go wrong, and am feeling a bit rubbish, but I can still hold my head high because I am sober, and I can deal with my mistakes because I am sober.
I did it (getting sober) by keep trying things, until I hit a combo that stuck. I joined websites (wasn’t enough), read quit lit (wasn’t enough), took meds (wasn’t enough), finally got my ass to AA (it could have been SMART or Recovery Dharma, but a program of recovery with a plan and peers) and that was finally enough. What have you tried so far? What could you try now?
Here to support you.
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Thank you so much. I definitely need it. My addiction started 13 years ago with the loss of my two brothers, sense I’ve kinda just used it as crutch. (Never my intentions). I don’t drink daily, but the 3-4 times a week I drink enough for two people. I have only tried quitting at home. I’m open minded to AA it’s just not something I’ve tried yet. Maybe it would be helpful.
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Thank you so much! Means the world to me!
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I was not thrilled to go to AA. I was not “that bad”, I wasn’t a “real alcoholic”, I might meet someone I know. I tried online meetings to get a feel for them. And some I didn’t enjoy or see the point of, but I kept at it. In the end, it was “speaker” meetings that I first felt at home. A member speaks about their journey for about 20 minutes and then people share. I heard all this stories, some more extreme than mine, some less, but I could relate to something in all of them. I realised that I was not some freak, there are many people who felt the way I did, and tried to cope in the way I did. And moreover, some of those got better. It gave me hope.
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Welcome to the community 
One of the hardest parts of getting sober was realizing I had emotional damage and no coping skills. As you continue your journey you’re going to get to know yourself and sometimes it’ll be easy and sometimes it’ll be hard. Most important thing to do is accept where you are and be grateful for all the minutes that add up, because they Will add up.
I’ve relapsed a lot and held on to deep shame because of it. I stopped doing that because the other side of the coin is that i’m trying.
Keep trying
Keep your head up
You can absolutely do this 
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so glad you’re here sis 
you’re not a statistic and you’re not a failure. you’re a human being and you’re working on something that’s really tough! i’m so sorry about losing your brothers - you turned to something at the time that seemed to be able to help you cope, which is totally understandable - it sounds like now you’re ready to shift your relationship with not only the substance, but perhaps also the grief that you weren’t able to process. be oh-so gentle with yourself, remember your 70 days and how great you felt, keep reminding yourself that you want this and you can do this, you’ve proven it! come on here to this forum, (which is fantastic group therapy, i’ve discovered!) try some meetings (especially if you haven’t yet - i’ve found them really helpful too!) addiction can be such an isolating experience, so definitely lean into community, then you won’t feel so alone & you will get the inspiration, motivation, and connection and feeling of being seen and understood that are just so necessary when you’re on the path of recovery 
like you said yourself, you can do this girl!! 
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This is pretty much identical to both of my relapses. They seemed soooo much worse than when I was just using. Once I got a taste of sobriety the active addiction felt so much worse. But the silver lining is that the pain you feel now can really drive your desire to regain sobriety. I know I was hurting so goddamn bad that I would have done pretty much anything to not feel that way.
Not long after I found myself back in treatment. But treatment is only a 30 day reprieve. Once I left rehab my ass found a seat in AA. I have not looked back since. My life didn’t get better overnight, but at least it wasn’t getting worse for a change. I stayed the course that was suggested to me and eventually I woke up one morning completely shocked at how my life had turned around
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On day 38 here. I have found that this app and daily rituals of just staying focused on my sobriety with podcasts and reading. At least 30 minutes a day reminds me of why i am staying alcohol free.
The stories of relapses help me remember why alcohol was making me make awful decisions. I keep an open heart and my ears open as much as possible to stories. But still there is always that little voice saying you all good man have a drink, that is why i gotta keep focused no matter the sober day count.
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Well done for coming back!! If you’ve done 70 days before, you know you can do it again. And this time you’re coming at it from more life experience, and with a greater will to succeed than ever before! So I have every faith you’ll make it stick. Keep at it! Give me a shout if you’d like to chat. Not that I can offer much advice, I have never got to 70 days!!!
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Thank you all so much for all of your encouraging words, this has helped me a-lot today. I woke up with so much shame, regret and felt defeated. It’s nice to know I’m not alone. Thanks for welcoming me to the community 
this is almost like therapy! You guys rock.
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I found navigating recovery and sobriety was like learning the piano without a teacher. Sure, you could press the keys and find some things that work but until you get a teacher to learn from, you won’t really be able to make beautiful music, and more importantly, understand why it works. I found my teachers here on this forum and have been making beautiful music for 1,830 days now.
As they say, we can’t do this alone; we need teachers and mentors and examples of how its done.
Stick around and find your teachers too!
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Hi Honey. I’m Shelly. I am 1 year, 2 months, and 4 days sober now. I am getting through it with the extended family of AA and a strong support of friends and family. When I have my ‘stinking thinking’, I look at old photos of when I was drunk or high and also think about the withdrawal from alcohol I had to endure. The pain and suffering I was doing to myself. The constant struggle I put myself through for alcohol. When I need motivation I look at my son. The pure innocence and happiness in his face, let’s me definitely know I NEED TO BE SOBER. I am on this App a lot, especially at work (where I am now) because most of the employees smoke weed or drink alcohol. I have to exclude myself from there conversations, because I don’t drink anymore, and even (sometimes) motivate them to not drink or smoke weed. You have to remember that the comeback is far greater than the struggle. You have to endure the strength you have and not the struggle you go through with alcohol. I hope this helps and stay strong and fearless. You can do it. #godspeed 
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Yes, I’m terrified of my kids seeing me as that person, then and God are my purpose and I know I can do this! Thanks so much for sharing. It’s very encouraging. that’s super impressive you have been sober that long! Proud of you!!!
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Congrats! That’s such an accomplishment!! Great job!
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Thank you very much! You got this also!! I believe in us!
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Thank you! Keep up your good work, and the words of encouragement are so appreciated.
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