When I wasn’t sober, in the before times, I knew exactly where I fit, somewhere between the parties, the bars and in the closet drinking.
Sobriety required me to remove myself from that lifestyle, and it left me wondering, where do I fit in now?
This sudden social change often brings out new feelings, like
- FOMO
- Mourning
- Boredom
- Loneliness
- Sadness
- Depression
I felt all those things at times, to some degree.
It’s not easy not knowing where you fit in anymore, and if you are feeling lost, you’re not alone.
I spent most of my life in active addiction and while I had my own family, hobbies, a career, and non-party friends, that carried on into sobriety, I still felt a uneasy with where I was heading; it was unchartered territory after all.
I think that, for me, the bigger question was, what is my purpose here? What did I have to offer the world? If I could figure that out, I think I’d find where i fit.
I found my purpose in my family and in my music, and to some degree, in my work as well as my community. That is where I fit in now.
We all have something in common, the desire to overcome our addictions. That could be your purpose; to overcome, and share your story to those who need to hear it. That is where you can fit in, even if it’s temporary.
If you don’t know where you fit in, let’s talk about!