Who do you open up to about your addiction?
Work?
Family?
Friends?
Anyone or nobody, why, and how?
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This forum 
Everybody i know, knows i drank. They dony know the extent though. I just had a co-worker ask when i was going to start again. I just shrugged knowing the answer is never . So i guess it depends on you. I really havent told anybody how bad i was, my wife doesnāt even know.
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My girlfriend and 3 close friends know Iām an alcoholic and in AA.
My mother knows I no longer drink, but doesnāt know Iām in AA.
My coworkers and other family members have not been explicitly informed that I no longer drink and Iām kind of dodging that conversation so I donāt have to answer the inevitable āwhyā (it gets tiresome).
When I meet someone new, I just tell them I donāt drink, plain and simple. If further down the road I end up closer with them as a person Iāll tell them about my addiction and past, but I donāt lead with it.
I do this less out of shame per se and more out of
a) a desire to preserve my professional reputation (I work in a sector of human services where any history or hint of alcoholism is very frowned upon), and
b) a conscious effort to remain humble and act in before I act out (I donāt go telling everyone what a great job Iām doing with my sobriety because I know with my alcoholic mind thatās a slippery slope to making others responsible for MY sobrietyāi.e. āI was happily sober when you were praising me for my sobriety; therefore, if I relapse, itās your fault for not praising me enoughā).
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I havenāt told anyone as yet. I have in the past and the āhere we go againā and eye rolling really put a negative spin on things.
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same hereā¦ well, I told some people that Iām not drinkingā¦ but I donāt think anyone thought I had a problem (?at least I donāt think so). I have been more present in peopleās lives, Iāve only forgotten one school function (doh!) and becoming more confident and productive. Actions speak louder than wordsā¦ We donāt have to tell anyone anything about us, just show them who we really are:)
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Being Irish and a bar manager in Portugal itās difficult to keep a secret. 80% of my customers are Irish on holidays for a cheap drinking holiday. I get offered by every customer all day everyday to buy me a drink I just have to say I donāt drink. Then comes the same response every time āyour Irish and you donāt drink,whatās wrong with youā. I realised itās easier to tell the truth. I always say ā itās suits some it doesnāt suit others. Iām a messy drunk. I will however take the price of that drink and put in my tip jar.
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Told nobody how bad it was. I tell people - if asked- I donāt drink for now cause I want to (health)and not specific I cannot drink just the one beer/wine.
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When I got off booze, I told pretty much everybody. A lot of folks were surprised, but I was a very high-functioning alcoholic.
With porn, Iāve told nobody but this forum. Iām not sure I could breach the topic with my SO, and certainly donāt want my daughter to have that image in her head. I think thatās why this one is so hard for me. I lack the in-person support network I had with booze.
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If it helps any, I found porn on my husbands phone and confronted him about it. He told me that he hates looking at it but canāt stop. It was awkward for us and embarrassing for him, but I respect him so much more now for being open and honest about it. He hasnāt looked at it in months after that. Hopefully your SO can show you the same respect and love to help you through it. If so, tell!
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I have to tell my 2 best friends too, but we all have families so its a different situation, but i donāt think either will have a negative reaction. Im pretty confident theyll be very supportive.
I wouldnt worry about telling your best friend, they usually dont get the title of best friend on accident.
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I tell everyone. Lol, but really. I lost a bunch of weight since getting sober. People notice that and ask if I lost weight and how did I do it. All I did was quit drinking and the weight fell off so thatās what I tell them. And Iāll tell ya, in almost 8 months I have not had one person say anything that wasnāt positive. Most people donāt care one way or the other.
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I told family and friends first. Its very important you let the closest people to you know about your addiction and your decision to live a clean and sober life. You need to know who will support your decision so you wont get into bad situations or situations that might pressure you.
NA always helps me as well 
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How do your family support you? What ways? I think this app has been my biggest support.
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This app definitely supports me. But getting support from my family is really important to me. My family supports me by not bringing alcohol or drugs around me. They donāt pressure me at all to drink or go out to the bar with them. They always ask how my NA meetings are going and encourage me to get more invovled in activities that donāt involve any drugs or alcohol
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Keep on strong!!! 
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Thatās really nice. I remember when my sister left rehab, going home was not an option because my mom was unwilling to make her home alcohol free. She ended up going to a friends parents house, whom she barely knew. Sometimes family systems highly contribute to how people get to where they are.
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Other recovering addicts.
You are lucky.
Very true. My family all drink at functions. My family always have alcohol in their hand. Great at telling me not to drink. But always seem to be doing it right in front of me. I find it really hard in the early days. Maybe itās part of my frequent lapses. I find it confusing. I feel hurt by it. I have mentioned it to my family. But time and time again itās the same thing. Iād feel guilty if I told them not to drink in front of me. Itās not my choice. But if it was my daughter who was struggling with addiction I wouldnāt drink in front of her. But thatās just me.
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So confused as to how to tell my husband that I want to quit drinking forever. A couple of years ago I quit for 3 months. Then we took a weekend trip and I relapsed. Now , in the past month, Iāve only drank 2 times and only had a couple drinks each time. Going on 2 weeks with no drink and feel really good about it. But I donāt know how to tell my husband. Heās witnessed me in some bad drinking related situations for sure. Iām afraid to tell him I want to quit. I am a very health conscious person and am thinking that I will say itās for health reasons that I want to quit. Donāt want him to think differently of me. Thoughts please?
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