I’m on day 3 of sobriety after my being taken to the ER by ambulance because my long time drinking shut my body down. My gf always teased me and called me a drunk. Now I’m on day 3 of sobriety so I’ve not been feeling well but still working and now my gf decides to break up with me. I got sober for me but I figured she’d appreciate it to but instead this happens. I’m not thinking about drinking again but just looking for some hopeful words of advice
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She does drink but no where near like I did. She’s not talked to me in a week and we live together and I’ve just got sober 3 days ago after being taken to the emergency room due to my drinking. I’m gonna find something to occupy my time. I don’t know many people around here I moved down here with her cause this is where her family lives all of my family and friends are over an hour away.
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Everything happens the way it’s supposed to.I like to imagine life as a puzzle. You move a few things around,trying to make it all fit. Sometimes you come back to a section to realize there’s a peice that doesn’t fit it just looks like it did, in fact it belongs to a section where you’ve been missing a peice like that all along. It suddenly makes so much sense that you’ll laugh.
All for the bigger, beautiful picture you are creating.
You continue your sobriety for yourself.This is for you, you deserve this change of pattern.Time will pass and one day you will realize why .For now take all the support that you ARE getting and run like hell with it.
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I’m also going on my 3rd day, this morning I told my wife of over 20 years, no support there, she is a bartender and most of our friends are from the bar, I’m lucky enough to have my sober son to talk with & other then that it’s the people I’ve meet the last 2 days at AA, I think this trail is only wide enough to walk single file anyway… with time both ladies will appreciate the decisions were daily working on.
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@marty my husband told me yesterday that " you will have noone to thank but yourself for your soberness, and you should be proud of that since it was your choice" and it’s funny he says that because I’m almost 18 days in now, but at day 6 he didn’t have much to say about it.Maybe because he was so used to me drinking he didn’t realize how serious I was.
That’s okay though.
We do it for ourselves, hold onto whatever is working, each day at a time.
@Harley
Don’t be so hard on yourself or your girlfriend. I know your 3 days sober, but don’t expect the wreckage you’ve dragged around with you through your drinking days to just dissappear. I’m sure she has a lot of resentments you never knew about or were too messed up to see. Our loved ones are usually just as sick as we are (spiritually and emotionally) and they need just as much love and understanding as we do. We are really the lucky ones because recovery is so mainstream now that we have tons of support. Be patient with her, give her the space she needs and you take this time to stay sober and become a living amends to her for your part in all this by staying sober and getting mentally healthy as well. As the fog clears and with the right recovery program and support system you can do this, we all can! But you’ve got to want to stay sober MORE THAN ANYTHING! Keep reaching out and sharing your struggles. You have helped me by sharing. .thanks! You are in my prayers…
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