So I had a 2 yr relapse after my farther and partner died, I was so unstable I moved my children to my mum, went through an 18mth court battle with my ex husband who lost custody, got a very good job a new partner and he’s currently on remand and this morning UK time I have a friend absolutely shit faced ex veteran calling me. I’m crying agree to pick him up (not yet done) and bring him to mine to sleep. I’ve messaged his Mrs before hand. I’ve been sitting here crying wondering why God would test me today? Earlier I couldn’t sleep because my partner is on remand in prison and I’ve been abstaining from sugars so went and got orange juice and coke plus cigs and had some random guy knocking on my car window to offer me a bottle of larger which I refuse 
. God works in mysterious ways. Anyway I’ve got just over an hour before I pick my friend up from the train station and he’s expecting alcohol at my house what do I do?
Forgot to say I’m going good now with recovery 
hence the post. I feel it’s jepordise my recovery since he asked me if drink was here 
Let his wife pick him up. You need to stay away from people who party right now. Focus on you and dont cater to other peoples needs. Start attending meetings 90 in 90
Your situation does not sound easy. But your sobriety should be your priority, instead of catering to other people’s demands. I don’t have alcohol in my house. If someone wanted to stay at my place it would be sober. Otherwise they have to choose someplace else.
The situation you are in is not your fault, but setting healthy boundaries is your responsibility. That’s what adults do. Stay strong 
I agree. As someone people always called for help bc I wouldn’t say no, being around those type of people when I was struggling to get/stay sober didn’t work out for me. I did feel bad saying no at first bc I’d been there and understood what they were going thru, but then I realized it wasn’t my fault for whatever situation they’d gotten themselves into. It was time to focus on myself for once.
I hope this encounter goes well for you if you did decide to go thru with it 
Hullo again.
I remember you and am saddened by the lengthy relapse - I wouldn’t have picked it to be honest.
Keep getting stronger, keep doing the next best thing.
Oh… and stay clear of losers who take you losing. That goes for all of us.
I agree with the others, let his wife take care of him. If you already got him, ask if she can come get him. And no, there is no drink at your place and there isn’t going to be. This is non negotiable. I know it is hard to say no to others, but you really need to take care of yourself first. Please keep us posted. 
Its your house, and you are non drinker. Asking you to have alcohol would be like expecting a vegan to have a ribeye on hand for you to eat.