Deep in our hearts we all know this, if you think logically all of above things you mentioned are so true about alcohol its a common sense but again common sense is not so common these days 
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Everyone has explained things so well through these posts and Iām a little bit late chiming in but wanted you to know that thereās another one just like youā¦ And thatās me.
Oh Iāve tried and tried to just" control" my drinking.
It doesnāt work. It never will. If I start to think too far ahead yeah it freaks me out thinking I can never enjoy a cocktail with my girlfriends or a rum and eggnog at Christmas, but I canāt. So I donāt worry about the future, I worry about today and then Iām okay.
If I have one it leads to so many moreā¦ and so much lying and hiding and sneaking. I donāt even know who that person is! I donāt want to be that person.
I donāt blame myself though. Iām am alchoholic. I believe it has to do with brain chemistry and genetics coupled with stressors in my life and a gradual build into becoming absolutely dependent on alcohol.
I like who I am better without alcohol. Finally admitting that Iām in alcoholic has set me free from blaming myself. In the moments that I think about craving a drink I remind myself that those good feelings brought on by alcohol last for only a fleeting moment before it turns into feeling of remorse and anxiety which lasts for days and years. Alternately, those hard feelings when Iām trying to beat a craving only lasts for a fleeting moment before it turns into a feeling of flying on top of the world because Iām in control of my life and alcohol doesnāt control me.
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From what Iāve learned. We all have 1 thing in common. A phenomenon of craving. Once we start. We cannot stop. Thatās what separates us from regular people. Not only are our bodies abnormal. So are our minds. We cannot ingest any alcohol safely. Because of the allergy and phenomenon of craving.
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While going through your words it felt like i am speaking to myself, cause every single thing you pointed out is so true and so related to me, Next time i have a craving i do remind myself of this
Thanks for these words, i wish you a very happy and healthy life 
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You are describing the phenomenon of craving, not necessarily the craving to start drinking, but the craving that comes when we begin drinking. There is an excellent writing on it in the book āAlcoholics Anonymousā, excerpted here: https://aa-netherlands.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/en_bigbook_foreworddoctorsopinion.pdf
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Interesting Book , i need to get my hands on this one, Thanks for suggesting 
Thanks
None, alcohol is a big mistake which is glorified by our societies, social platform and movies,
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This sentence totally defines the way i have behaved most of the times after relapse, breaking this chain this time with help of all great friendās i made here
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Sadly, no. Let experience be your answer.
If I look back, I was never a ānormalā drinker. I drank to get drunk, and wouldnāt stop until I achieved my goal.
āA couple of drinksā to me meant 4-6, easy.
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Totally agree, we all learn from our experience, in case of alcohol our memories of past experience is a bit short lived despite of every hangover and self pity we forget that alcohol is not what it seems to be branded and glorified its a quiet opposite substance which destroys not only your body but your soul
Deep Indeed 
I used to have to drink until there was not one drop of alcohol left in my house. There was times i would take everything out of my fridge just to see if my wife was trying to hide some from me. And id do that 2-3 times a night sometimes. Id also walk around drinking what was left in other peoples cans/bottles. We will never be able to drink like the ānormalā drinker. I, to this day, still wish i can just have a drink or two, but i snap back to reality and know i canāt.
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Realisation is the most important step of being free my dear friend and we have accepted this fact that we are not 2-3 drinks type, so we have decided not to take at all ā¦and guess what now we are even better then those with 2-3 drinks so keep up the good work
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Until that glorious moment when we surrender and accept that we can never drink again.
Alcohol means struggle. I struggled with Life when I drank, and I struggled against my self in early sobriety. I donāt struggle with anything now.
I wonāt drink, because I donāt drink. I am a non-drinker.
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Best ONE 
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I want to thank all of you from bottom of my heart for giving me direction, motivation and courage in this beautiful journey of sobriety.
Also I have deducted a successful answer for my question - i have accepted the fact that i am an alcoholic for me because of my mental structure its not possible to have a normal drinking life and i am not ashamed of this fact now because i have found a lot of friends in this group who are like me.
I will change my identity, i will become non drinker and i will help as much people as i can to achieve the same, Love you all 
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Iām a binge drinking. I have no drinks for a couple days then if I start, I just keep going and donāt know when to stop. I know I have a problem and today had a good discussion with me spouse about it. Iām going to stop all together because I know I canāt have just one drink like a normal person. So today I have made up my mind to stop for good. Iām also going to go to a meeting for support. I think deep down inside we know if we have a problem. We just have to take that first step to recognize it and want to do something about it. We are not normal people. We have an addiction and the sooner we recognize it the better off we will be.
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