The biggest party night in America, also the biggest domestic violence night in America (I wonder if it’s related 
). If you’re here reading this TS people, stay home tonight 
. Great advice:slightly_smiling_face:
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Being an American pretty much all my life, I’ve never heard of this, so naturally I looked it up. Is it an east coast thing?
Regardless, stay home! You don’t have to go!
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Not sure. I just know it’s when flocks of young adults return home for Thanksgiving and head to their favorite bar from when they lived there. It’s like a high school reunion of sorts.
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We had it in Michigan. 
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Same here. I’ve heard Friendsgiving. I don’t have friends. Nobody wants to invite a sober guy.
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Probably a good time to bump this.
Just a reminder that no, you are not “strong” enough to go to bars in early sobriety.
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Nor is there any good reason to.
Say you don’t want to go, then don’t go. If someone gets upset, the problem is their expectations of you and taking it personally, it’s not the fact you didn’t go.
Want to make sure your friends have a sober driver when they go out? That is what taxis and public transit are for. Or one of them can choose not to drink.
Want to make sure your friend feels supported when they celebrate something? Show your support verbally, or with a gesture or small gift. In return, they can support you by accepting your decision not to go on a specific outing you don’t want to go to.
Want to spend time with your friends? Plan something that isn’t at a bar.
Just want to prove you can do it? Prove that you can avoid going to the bar. If you can’t say no to the bar, how can you be sure you can say no to the drink?
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Seems like a good time for the ole bumperewski.
If someone told me I could go over Niagara Falls in a barrel 100 times and I would only die one of those times I still wouldn’t go.
I don’t take unnecessary risks with my sobriety and I’m almost 7 years sober. Life is full of challenges that are unavoidable, why the hell would I want to add to that.
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It’s like my grandfather’s grandfather said… a fool and their sobriety are soon parted.
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Simple answer - naivety!
When I first joined, I thought I knew how right I was, and how wrong everyone else was! Big lol to that one.
I was a fool. Every trap I was warned about, I fell into.
Pro-tip for anyone new - listen to the veterans of these forms, they know exactly what they’re on about!!
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I probably would die the first time and not get 99 more tries. Something to ponder. NO NIAGARA FALLS IN A BARREL. 
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Our old nemesis the ego… 
. I’m glad mine is mostly in check.
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Everyone has an ego. Its the ability to notice it, and course correct that is a challenge. You my friend, seem to do a great job at that.
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I don’t have an ego, but that’s only because I’m better than everyone else.
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Just sold my marital home which is completing on Friday
I’ll have £48000 sat in the bank
What should I do?
- wait and put it towards another mortgage
- have “one drink” and be under the illusion I won’t spend it on the best binge ever. I could even rent a Ferrari and pretend I’m a player
Think I’ll be sensible as that one drink would lead to me losing everything, not just the money 
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Bump.
In case anyone else besides me needs a reminder. 
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‘Tis the season…
To not hang out at bars
To avoid the boozy holiday party at work
To give back the gift of a wine basket
To avoid your toxic family
And
To make sure you protect your sobriety at all costs
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This will be my second sober Christmas and I am actually really looking forward to it.
I’ve declined two party invitations just because… I pencilled in the gym Christmas dance party in my calendar instead. I am excited for Christmas specials on telly. I will be able to remember all of them the next morning!
And no visiting family or family visiting at all!
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“I feel like there is no time for days off with my recovery.“
Gold.
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