I’ve been sober for 22 days. I just moved out from my apartment which I was living in with my ex since last november. It was getting too hard and toxic to stay there, a friend offered me a room in her apartment.
She won’t be there until Friday, so I’m on my own. I feel exhausted and like shit. I want a drink so bad but at the same time, I would be so disappointed in myself to ruin my 22 sober days.
Please give me any tips or motivation to not go and buy a bottle of wine. How can I handle those emotions by myself ? I’m so lost and tired…
Congrats on your 22 wonderful days. Maybe have a read of ‘This Naked Mind’ by Annie Grace as I find it a great source of inspiration and reminder of what alcohol does to the mind and body
Don’t think about the now, think about the tomorrow. You said it yourself how disappointed you’ll feel.
22 days, I’d love another 20 days sobriety right now, to feel that well and healthy. Alcohol tricks us into believing it’s something we need, an emotional support, all it really offers is disappointment and a feeling of emptiness.
Join an online meeting! There are hundreds of them in this list, running at all hours of the day (including nighttime), there’s probably one starting online within a few minutes from now:
You just listen if you want. I spent my first meeting listening. It is reassuring to be in a space listening to other people talk about the same problem I have
If you want to join that specific group I would try again; their group description specifies that everyone is welcome so I’m sure the exit was a technical error. (I’m assuming that you were joining at the correct time, 2:00 PM Pacific Time / North American Time.)
If you still can’t get in then email the group leader here and check in about it:
I am sure this is not intentional and there is a mistake behind this somewhere; probably a mistake by a host on whichever day you tried to join; I would suggest emailing the coordinator to ask.
But the important thing is you are continuing to look and you’ll find a meeting that works for you
Have you tried going to meetings? Being around like-minded people that are also trying to stay sober might be beneficial and it’ll get you out of your head and around people who understand. If not like @Matt suggested you could try the zoom meetings there is so many different ones online. And there’s also audio ones on YouTube. The main thing is to play the tape out of what drinking is actually going to do. Our brain/ thinking wants to tell us that drinking will help but that is delusional thinking and the truth is it’s going to create problems and cause heartache. It’s just a temporary solution and a bad temporary solution at That. If you’re struggling as far as being in the house by yourself you can interact in this community a bunch and keep reaching out and try to help others plus read around. You could do some writing or make a list of the negative aspects of drinking or using. You could go for a walk or do some kind of exercise which will make you feel better. You could find a movie to watch or listen to a podcast related to recovery. Basically anything that keeps your mind occupied or staying busy then you have less time to think about drinking or bad decisions. It’s about accepting the fact that drinking is not a solution anymore and it’s only going to create a ridiculous amount of problems. Let us know how you’re doing and don’t be afraid to reach out as much as you need. We are here for you! You just have to get through the next 24 hours sober and then repeat tomorrow.
Find a concerned friend and watch a movie on a warm couch. Just being near someone who knows how you feel will help you temporarily. Remember “this too shall pass” 22 days is amazing. Be proud and strong. I’m praying to my higher power for you to get thru this
