Winning my fight against pornography and masturbation

Sadly, im 16 and i dont even have a girlfriend. So I dont have any way to have sex.

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My ex-bf is very similar. He admits to both as a problem. I tried to understand, he was open and honest with it. We broke up 3yrs ago (drinking and insecurities) he would text me pitcures of his computer, what he was watching, etc.
We stayed friends for a while. He still sends me pictures …
This is a real thing people. I hope you find your peace. :relieved:

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Hmmmm, don’t feel bad about not having girlfriend now. I think it’s even better for you to fight this fight now that you are single.

I was in your shoes before, and I remember lying to myself that once I get girlfriend the habits will stop. No, they, did not. Then I changed it to “once I marry a beautiful woman, it will stop”. Guess what? They never stopped. I later changed it to once I start having kids, I will stop as I wouldn’t ever wants to do dirty things like that around them. Your guess is good as mine, the lies never stopped.

Now I’ve decided to stop lying to myself, or rationalizing the behaviour, something like I will only do it JUST this once because of so much stress that I recently went through.

It’s getting easier now. I believe we can go through this battle together and come out victorious.

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So sorry to hear about how your former relationship ended. I can bet you the guy never wished to lose you to the habits, he just couldn’t help himself.

I could remember how my woman forgave me several times and tried all she could to help me get over the issue and I kept letting her down.

A time came I couldn’t even tell her the truth again. One of the reasons I decided to seek help. I can’t stand lying to her.

Hope you can refer your ex to this site, who knows, he could possibly find the help he needs here.

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I used to talk to a friend and he always said gitting a girl would stop the withdraws. Me and him are not freinds anymore because we got into a big fight. But eather way it is nice to know he was wrong for many reasons, mostly because now I know that geting a girl is not the solution. Sorry for this long text, but thank you for reading.

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I’ll second @Optimistic on that. Sex will not stop the addiction. If anything sex amplifies it, because it makes an unhealthy vent for the issues you have not dealt with. The pornography abuse will not stop. I have a wife and 5 kids. Its still a daily focus to remain sober.

Abstain until you are in a healthy committed relationship. I would even suggest until you are married. Research backs it up. Premarital sex and cohabitation increase risk of divorce in the future. Treat sex as though it were a piece of glass china. Highly breakable and if youre not careful, you’ll ruined it.

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Thanks, I’ll definitely keep that in mind and moving forward. I will follow this advice if it’s the last thing I do.

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U r just awsome :blush:

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Yeah.i,m going to get away from porn and masterbute and erotic movie.its my first day.i know that if we make decision to be better god helps us.انشاء الله

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Woke up to big 90 this morning. I’m extremely grateful for this!

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Congratulations on 90 days!

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Great work! Way to go @Optimistic!

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Amazing work! Congrats!

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Thanks for your sharing.

Hey Last-hope,
I definitely wouldn’t let being single stress you out. It definitely can help. I’ve been really grappling with the mental effects of not being able to perform for someone when she and I were 17, so that’s not too far off where you’re at right now. I think another thing to keep in mind is the fact that you don’t want to approach “getting a girl” as a tool or solution to your issues. I’ve seen many of the guys in my life do that and it never goes well. Always always from a place of care and genuine interest. That’ll make taking that next step with them all the better.
I wish you all the best strength. I wish I’d taken this step at your age. It’s really great to hear you’re making the change. -J

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Hey can you be my colleague to help me quit mustarbation

Id like to help you out however i can. Im not going to sign up to be a sponsor or anything though. There are a lot of Pornography and Masturbation addicts here that have good advice. Stick around and participate.

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Masturbation to porn or masturbation all together?

Either way I have a pretty good idea on what to do, to handle it well.

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What is your idea? Please share.

It’s based on building the lifestyle filled with positive, productive activities.
This definitely requests self discipline, but that’s obvious, I suppose.

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