Well today I finally go back into work. I’m now on day 3 of being sober. I feel a little better but now the anxiety of being asked a billion times by co workers where I’ve been is starting to hit, and I’ve worked there long enough to know that gossip is like wildfire there. On top of all that I work in an establishment that serves alcohol. Eve one of the benefits is you get a free pint after every shift. But I feel like if I walk away from this job I’m disappointing everyone even though I know I’d be looking for a better one in the meantime. Or should I power through it until a better job comes along.
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If ppl gossip, let them. Don’t feed them. It’s not your job to keep them entertained. So just say you took personal time or had a cold and leave it at that. You’re not obligated to tell anybody anything. You’re obligated to stay sober and that’s it for right now.
If you already know your job environment is toxic and endangering your sobriety, my advice would be to start looking.
Meanwhile work on your boundaries. You’re only responsible for yourself. And what other ppl think of you is none of your business. It’s theirs.
Good luck. And keep going in your sobriety!
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Tell them you had personal problems and couldn’t come in to work. It’s none of their business why you weren’t there. I’m not sure if you weren’t there because you had been on your bender or because you had been spending your time getting sober. Either way it’s not their business. As far as your sobriety goes hold it close to you and be proud of it.
As you will see as you continue to be sober the whole drinking culture is sometimes a little too much. People shouldn’t be expected to drink. It changes behavior in most everyone And causes problems in a good many people. Plus people drive when they’ve been drinking and stuff like that. At least around where I live. There is so much to be said for being sober. In previous post you have put all the reasons why you want to stay sober. Keep that at the front of your mind and don’t drink. As far as the other people it’s none of their business where you have been or what you have been doing. If you want to tell them you’re sober fine. If you don’t want to that’s fine too. Regardless of whether you had a big problem with alcohol or no problem with alcohol, it doesn’t matter and it’s none of their business. The only reason to involve them is to get support. Which could not be forthcoming. If they try to push alcohol on you say no thank you. As far as the pint or whatever they give you at the end of the day decline it, or Immediately pass it off to somebody else.
Having it in your hands on the way home is a lot for you to have to deal with when you’re newly sober .
Take care and stay sober.
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