I wish I didn’t have to struggle with this. I’m 46 years old and I’ve acted out with porn and MB for most of my life. I’ve had periods of sobriety in my life ranging from a few days to a couple of years. I’ve been in various support groups and 12 step programs. And I just needed to share that I’m coming off a huge binge on porn and MB that’s lasted for over a month. Today, I have more clarity. So far, this is my third day without acting out.
Just saw this site today, and I like the support I’m seeing. Thanks
Hi @KevinesKay and welcome. This site is really great. My current addiction is alcohol, but years ago is was more porn and strip clubs. There are not too many people on this forum for porn, but if you us the search function with keywords, you can find them. Also a user here told be that the App/site rTribe has more members with porn/sex addiction. Best wishes for you.
I have the same addiction. I’ve been struggling with it for over 10 years off and on and I’m ready to give it up. I’m giving this a try with the hopes that continuous tracking will help me overcome my triggers.
Thank you for the welcome and support. Perhaps my behaviors are not the same as others, but it feels like the same addiction. The highs, the withdrawals, the struggles, the relapsing. I’ve been to other sites that address porn addiction. But this site is really encouraging for me because of so many people here that can relate to the struggle. There is much that we all have in common than what meets the eye
Yeah @KevinesKay, I’ve had both addictions, and they do have very much in common. Another way to find people/topics here, is to use the magnifier glass search icon, and search for keywords like “porn”, “masturbation”, etc.
You know what finally snapped me into clarity? I went on Shelley Lubben’s website and witnessed a video showing a porn actress getting abused pretty bad. I heard that’s not uncommon. To me, it doesn’t matter how often or seldomly this occurs. Physical, emotional, or sexual abuse is pretty bad to witness. And everytime I click on that site and act out with porn, I’m contributing to the madness. Just thought that today would be a good day to make a different choice.
I have the same addiction here. I using porn when I Junior High Scholl until 26 years old. I never thinking that this is a problem in my life until someday I find a forum KASKUS in Indonesia talking about porn and fapping. Wowww that’s very mindblowing when that’s forum direct me to www yourbrainonporn com site
I read every story of that guys who success through 2 weeks, 1 month, 3 month, etc. I did’t realise before that this will become my problem affected my social life.
Now I still struggle with relapsing every 2 weeks. But I already not too interest with porn. It’s been two years since I tried to fully stop from anything like this. I still optimism with the progress.
Sometimes I tell my friends in my circle that still didn’t realise what negative effect from porn and fapping fom their life.
I see a patern here, when I relapse, you will more struggle to keep clean. You will fighting again to not comeback to old habit.
So I read today a really sad letter from an ex porn star to her soon to be born child. She’s getting ready to be a mom and she is facing the ramafications of her previous life decisions. And I’m shocked to discover that this was someone that I followed in the porn industry. This is really hard to take in. That I contributed to her trauma. I was just kidding myself into thinking that all the girls were doing this for fun. Such a lie that I bought into.
It’s very challenging for me to change my thinking. for most of my life, fantasy and MB to the fantasy has been a compulsion. And undoing all of this unreal thinking will probably take a lifetime to master. It was tempting to entertain fantasies last night. I’ve done it for years. But dwelling in fantasy will creep me into considering porn as an option. Plus, my fantasies are unrealistic. In fact, they are downright pornographic.
I know this stuff is bad for me. I know the harm it’s doing. But that didn’t stop me before. And I understand that this addiction is going to take a lot more to stop permanently than simply having an epiphany that it’s promoting violence towards women.
My marriage broke up… Massive part was him keeping visiting porn sites.
No more, i couldn’t handle it anymore.
The double life, the narcissism the selfishness.
Now he’s alone.
He sees his kids one overnight a week
Dealing with a BF who struggles with this issue and I just want to say that as difficult as it can be on the other side, I really commend those of you here who are working hard at making a change and who are committed to it.
We’re struggling quite a bit right now but over all I can say that he is a much better boyfriend now. More involved and in touch emotionally, more honest and transparent and more motivated in many areas. It’s been 5 months porn free and a month and half without any masturbation.
It gets easier and the “reset period” really give you a chance to reevaluate your life values and the way you see the world.
Once again, congrats on taking the step and please stick around and keep posting.
There aren’t enough people sharing their experiences with this but there are soooo many people struggling with it with or without realizing what it is.
@Dutchiekiwi, that is really sad what happened to your marriage. I’m truly sorry that your marriage was a casualty of your ex’s porn use. It happens a lot. As porn addicts, we get so caught up in ourselves and what we feel like we need that we fail to see the pain and harm that we’re causing.
Yes @Decided, this issue is not addressed enough. I honestly got tired of the sites that address only porn addiction. At times, I was the only addict there. It can get pretty lonely. But hearing the experiences here on withdrawing from our addictions on this app? Well, that hits home for me. There is a lot of similarities. I’m doping myself up just like the rest of us here. And withdrawing from this is just as hard. I’m really addicted. Thank you for being supportive.
The feeling of
Not being enough on all levels.
Age, pretty, kinky etc etc
No normal person can compete with a porn actress.
And when you have children, especiallly girls, and then you catch your spouse watching porn which includes a girl really could be his daughter that’s when repulsive feelings start. The disgust you start feeling is un describable.
The respect goes, disgust and repulsive feelings take over. When you get to that point, there is no turning back.