I’m sorry Sarah that’s terrible that happened to you. Glad you are here with us. 
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Yeah I want to go back to AA but I really dont want to be hit on or judged because then I would never say a word in there.
But I cant remember the last time I was hit on so maybe I would just take it as a compliment these days 
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watch the 13th step on amazon prime and it will freak you out but its not AA its the individuals that do this, there is good and bad in every walk of life.
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Absolutely I agree. And ya I was told about that documentary. I dunno if I wanna watch it.
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I hear you! I think AA helps so many and this is probably something that doesn’t happen all the time. If you think it could help you I would say go.
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it’s very anti AA but no one has to go and can leave anytime they want the problem is the court system tells rapists and murderers to go to AA and you don’t know who they may be.
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Oooh thats a scary thought!
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It’s real. Predators…its highly suggested…woman stick with woman men stick with men. They do have gender specific meetings of course. These rooms are a mix of people. You have to be on your toes constantly I have found in my experience
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Yeah I am definitely gonna try AA again as soon as there is a meeting close by… the closest in person meeting is like 35 min away.
Plus I need a babysitter. One day!!
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Geezuz…glad your not with him anymore
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Seriously! I would be dead if I was…
Thats an amazing idea @Conor689908!! I will definitely look for a womens meeting, thanks for that!
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There’s some pretty good woman only meetings on intherooms.com. Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday nights at 7pm eastern so that’s probably 4pm for you Sarah. They also have one Saturday afternoon. They’re not AA specific and welcome women from all recovery programs.
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I will definitely check it out tonight! Thanks so much.
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ABSOLUTELY TRUE just saying.
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It’s not a real thing but they say to stay single the first year of sobriety, it’s probably a good idea. They call it 13 stepping if your dating. I’m guilty of doing it, and all it did was hurt my feelings when it ended.
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It definitly is a “thing”. I’ve experienced it more than once when attending 12 step meetings. Down the road I ended up attending all female groups due to this reason. Myself being in early recovery at the time (and still sick) lost sight of my recovery and even ended up relapsing due to being 13 stepped and spending time with guys.
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The “13th step” is a joked about (not recommended!!!) mistake/no-no in the program.
It’s true people might naturally find healthy new relationships after getting some recovery. But actively pursuing people in the rooms is as encouraged as it is on TS: Not at all!
It happens enough to have a name, but a baaad idea and not respectful. In my group at least, we don’t take kindly to 13th steppers. We’re there for recovery, not hook ups.
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It’s all very real. But both parts defenitely have there part to play.
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Yeah my story’s same as yours butterfly but we both have our parts to play as individuals. My perception on men n sex is warped so I really have to be careful. X to be the 13th stepper and or be 13 th stepped if that makes sense. 
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That’s kind of fair, too. Early on we’re all still scrambled. We might not clearly hear the advice, “Focus on your recovery right now, not a realtionship” straight away.
Someone who’s got time, though? They best be respecting other people’s programs/recovery. Especially newcomers.
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