This will probably ramble a little, and I apologize. I just need to vent a bit….
A few nights ago, I was going through my Facebook and “unliking” inactive pages of bands, companies, etc. Then, I started to comb through my friend list, which inevitably led to unfriending about 20 people. I got a few messages like “Why?”, “Are you mad at me?”, and the like. I’m thinking to myself I don’t need to explain anything, to anyone. So, no response from my end. I think the few who were my ex’s friends probably understood, and knew it was just a matter of time before that ax came swinging.
I let this sit for a few days, and I’m noticing more and more people on my list just annoy me. Everything offends them, even if it’s a minuscule thing that has no relation to them, everything sucks, no positivity anywhere. Friends, or better yet, acquaintances, who make it a point to post about how big of a misanthrope they are, and how they “hate everything”. People who just shit on everything that their friends like. Sports, music, a TV show, etc……sure, I may think a TV show is dumb, or a band “sucks”, but I’m not going to tell you you’re wrong for liking them. I get shit ALL the time for the music I listen to. I don’t care. Music is my therapy. You don’t have to understand why I like the stuff I like.
One guy, I met at my band’s first show last year. He’s since been to all (7) of our shows. At the last show, he made this comment to me: “Hey man, so, what’s up….you post pictures of all your guitars. You post videos of your workouts. You post all these food pics…and now, you’re wearing a Death Row Records shirt. Are you in some kind of ‘man card’ validation contest with someone?” Man……we’ve had seven interactions over the past 8-9 months. You don’t know shit about me. Where do you get off thinking that kind of stuff is ok to say to someone?
I look at all these people on my list, and like, I don’t feel like unfollowing them. I’m rebuilding my life, and they’re not contributing anything to it, so why unfollow when I could just unfriend? If I see you out and about, I’ll say hello. I don’t hate you, I just don’t need to see you or your negativity in my online life. I’d hope that someone would understand, or at least respect, the fact that I am creating a new life for myself, and the elements that don’t contribute positively are getting cut out of the places they don’t need to be.
TL;DR: Social media is such a weird thing. People take it so personal and let it affect them so much, when it doesn’t need to be that deep. Myself included.
/end rant
they shit the bed a lot.