Congrats on your freedom from that abusive cycle Sienna! On we go. Onward and upward. Hugs friend 
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Hugs right back On we go! 
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The only consolation here is that you know that you no longer want to ‘have fun’… In that way.
Big hugs. It feels lonely, I know. But remember that your brothers are the flying monkeys in her attempt to divide and conquer. We are better off alone than abandoning ourselves to fit in.
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Hugs 
Thank you
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I was listening to NPR recently and they interviewed a Vietnam Vet. He had grappled with his PTSD solo, until he got older and got professional help. He stated that his children would always ask why he watched so much tv when he retired from truck driving and he said it was a way to obtain his quiet and peace in his head. I couldn’t help but to think how that has manifested itself in my life as well. Sitting in my home with little chaos, and maybe a bit too much tv lol, is essential for my mh at this point in my life. It’s to the point where I guard that peace by not accepting certain things or people into my life. Some think it’s inhibiting self growth. But, I know it’s for my feeling of safety, comfort, and happiness.
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I don’t think protecting yourself from people or situations that disrupt your peace is inhibiting at all.
You deserve it after years of having your nervous system disrupted and manipulated.
I’m sure you find your own ways to grow as a human being that don’t involve putting your mental health at risk. 
And I couldn’t agree more! Be picky AF
Your energy is sacred and not everyone deserves access to it. 
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Absolutely 
thank you 
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I think its an important safe space for you, and I absolutely get the importance of that to you. You feel centred and relaxed and able to still your breathing some. I think I used to crave alone time in my bedroom reading books by the dozen in the same way. Escape, fantasy, safety and comfort in my warm bed. It got me through everything in my childhood. If I hadn’t had books, I honestly think I wouldn’t have gotten thru.
We design our sacred worlds after a lifetime of abuse to ensure we stay safe. I believe we know what’s safe and what isn’t. We can trust ourselves. We don’t have to like people we don’t trust or even respect. We deserve to curate our happiness and how and who we spend it with.
Nice to see your lovely face again 
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Just lost my little sister about a month ago to a possible OD. I blame my alcoholic father for the abuse she endured as a child. She used those drugs for a quick escaoe from her own mind. Can’t change it but it pisses me off that he gets to outlive her. Just wanted to share those feelings somewhere.
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I’m so sorry 
She deserved so much more
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Thank you Sober Sassy she sure did.
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I’m so sorry 
big hugs. It sucks when a family member is such a victim, it takes its toll on their life. I always think about how I should have called my mother out on her bs more then maybe my father wouldn’t have left us so early (41 yrs old). But how much is really within our control when the person is a parent? I think we are the victims of damage control in our own lives at the end of the day. I pray for you with your pain and certainly pray for your family. Please know you’re not alone in this struggle. Take care of you 
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Thank you Rebecca
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