Advice for the Newcomer and Constant Relapser

[Laura849]

Thank you for this Information. It helps a lot.

[Theanya]

Hi, I’m new here also, I just love the positive energy and hopefully I’ll recover and be truly happy with myself

[Lisa07]

Welcome Theanya! This forum has helped me tremendously and the people on here are amazingly supportive. I’m sure you’ll have the same experience. I look forward to taking this journey with you.

[Theanya]

Thanks…

[Alee9090]

[SassyRocks]

[DryIn785]

I know, right? People tell me I’m a stronger person for all the challenges. I’m not. I’m a mess! Constantly anxious and usually depressed as well.

[Butterflymoonwoman]

I realize this post is from 2017 but this really helped me right now. I have been struggling getting clean for 21 years now. And what I need to do is to stop trying to control my using thinking I can, and instead involve God. Thank u!

[kat261]

This thread deserves a resurrection

[Nadir_Kadi]

That’s so true!!!

[siand]

Going through that does make you strong IMO, maybe not in the way people mean (I.e. thick skinned). If keeping on going through adversity isn’t strength then I don’t know what is!

[Hazy]

Boost, boost, I was a constant relapser, I had to remind myself. Broke on thru to the other side​:notes:

[Sunshine50]

Gotta make some changes for my mental and physical health.

[SassyRocks]

More great suggestions…

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[Bettyface]

I dont have someone i can phone or turn to.

[Cjp]

You have us here

[LeeHawk]

You do, Betty. Here is a good start. You can look up local AA meetings and other sober communities to connect with.

[Here.I.am]

I love this.

[Dazercat]

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How many days sober are you and what is your #1 tip for people if you could only give 1. I’ll go first. I have 1137 days sober today and my best tip is work on your sobriety every single day. If that’s spending time here, going to meetings, reading sobriety literature, listening to sobriety podcasts whatever it is do it every day.

[Dazercat]

What's YOUR plan?

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