Advice for the Newcomer and Constant Relapser

[SassyRocks]

More great suggestions…

Things hard to hear in early sobriety

When in crisis an addict has the tendency to blame everybody else but themselves. Any criticism or well ment advice might be directed to the bin right away. And the messenger…gets the looks. If you come to this forum you have acknowledged that you have a problem with addiction. I searched the internet for about two years (maybe way longer) before going to my first rehab. It took me another 3 and 10 years to come to this point. Why so long? Maybe I’m just a stubborn pain in the ass. And did I re…

[Bettyface]

I dont have someone i can phone or turn to.

[Cjp]

You have us here

[LeeHawk]

You do, Betty. Here is a good start. You can look up local AA meetings and other sober communities to connect with.

[Here.I.am]

I love this.

[Dazercat]

Your #1 tip for sobriety (over 2 years sober)

How many days sober are you and what is your #1 tip for people if you could only give 1. I’ll go first. I have 1137 days sober today and my best tip is work on your sobriety every single day. If that’s spending time here, going to meetings, reading sobriety literature, listening to sobriety podcasts whatever it is do it every day.

[Dazercat]

What's YOUR plan?

If you hang out on Talking Sober long enough, you will undoubtedly see someone, usually one returning from a relapse, being asked, “What’s your plan (to staying sober)?”. While this question may often be rhetorical, it is an important one to answer for yourself. I feel that sobriety has 4 distinct phases that you should plan for. The Pre-quit phase (days/weeks leading up to quitting) The Withdrawal Phase (Day 1 to Day 30) The Post-Withdrawal Phase (Day 30 to Day 90) The Sustain/Recovery Phase…