Ya, i wish i had a sober friend with me tho lol
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You will find sober friends. It seemed impossible at first…however, for me, I found that drunks attract drunks…sober people attract sober people.
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I sure hope so. I dont feel confident in that at the moment tho. 
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Truth be told, probably most of us didnt in the beginning. Stay sober, it gets a lot better
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Thank you.
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We all need connection, we’re human. Actually that’s a good sign because connection is a healthy activity (the opposite of drinking & addiction, which is numbing and running away). Meetings are nice for that because you can meet people - check some out, just listen - you’ll feel less alone:
There’s also:
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Hey @Bertoozi
Interesting I felt the same made it worse that I would work nights.
When I started my sober journey, i lost everything my house my job my live in girl I was in a different state, still am. I knew no one guess what I got a new group of friends, job etc. is it perfect no.
But I wake up in the morning no headache, no hangover no regrets.
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I know i will feel good tmrw but in this moment i feel like im missing out on fun.
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I did too, like wtf I’m not having fun.
But how much fun is it, spending money on overpriced alcoholic drinks, making yourself sick. And essentially poisoning yourself? I did it for almost 25 years… your ahead of the game you just don’t see it yet
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Ya i def wont miss spending all that money… Im always the one thats like shots for everyone! 
I hear neighbors boom booming with loud music they probably drinking. I dont really feel like im missing out though. Did you drink when you went out to be social? I still felt awkward even if i drank most of the time.
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Also remind your self and give your self permission to feel shitty it’s OK day 7 rearly is amazing but such early days try not to listen to that negative inner dialogue to much if possible BC it’s changing and your growing and changing for the better all the time, I’m 40 in May if I could go back and tell my younger self if I carry on this will be my life desperately getting worse BC addiction will always get worse never better I’d tell her, your worth love, your worth a happy life and good ppl that want good things for you, I’d tell her I loved her and I’m sorry its taken 20 years to finally understand.id tell her it’s not gona be easy be it’s all possible if you want it that bad you would stay clean a day at a time. All the best and I hope you can embrace that feeling when you open your eyes on a week clean, have faith that it will pass and it does.
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How ya doing this morning?
I would drink every day if i was alone or to be social honestly. But it makes me wanna dri k more if all my friends are doing it as well. And ya im doing great today. Everyone is hungover and i am ready to go 
and i had a job interview today which i nailed and got the job! Its a good day today
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Well done on staying strong! Very very proud of you. 
every time you don’t listen to your addict voice it gets a little quieter. Congrats on the new job!!! Awesome!! 
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You probably avoided Covid 
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You aren’t missing anything. I went out with some people to a bar one night about 6 months into my sobriety. I quickly realized how miserable being at a bar really is and how much I wasn’t missing. The best thing I can tell you is to find something that will occupy your time. Find something that you really truly want to do or like doing and start doing it. You’ll realize very fast that you aren’t missing anything with your friends.
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And to be really honest, if they’re your true friends, they wouldn’t want you there in the first place. They’ll want you to remain sober and they’ll support and help you to maintain sobriety. If they don’t, then they aren’t your true friends.
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You may not know this, but this can be an exciting time for you, if you choose it to be.
Your friends are out partying, which I assume is their preferred social activity. Take a good hard look at them. Are they exciting, educated, dynamic people? Are they doing things that change people’s lives for the better? What kind of legacy are they building?
You can choose to be better. Not “better than them”. You can be better today than you were yesterday, and tomorrow better still. You can get better physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, mentally, financially. You can set bold and audacious goals for yourself, and go “all-in” to achieve them. When you become this person, you generate a certain gravity that draws dynamic people to you.
And one day you pause, happily realizing you are where you are, because you chose a different path than your old crowd. They chose the easy path. They went to work, got together on weekends and happy hours. Maybe a few built pretty decent lives, but will always wonder what “could have been”, had they chosen a different path. What would they have in the bank? Where would they be professionally? Would they have run that marathon, or built that business, or written that book, that instead remained an unrealized dream? Where would they be, had they not had that drunken incident that ruined a potentially great relationship? Where would they be had they not gotten that DUI?
You can choose the hard path. I chose it early in life, and it was a great trip. Unfortunately, I chose to get off the hard path for a time, and it took many years and great effort to find my way back to it. But I am back on it, and it is a better path.
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Hey @Bertoozi nice to meet you I hope you stayed in because I went out last night and I’ma tell you something it’s not worth it it was not worth it at all because I woke up feeling like shit this morning with a bad hangover it’s not worth it stay strong strong when I say this I’m also speaking for myself whenever you get the urges do a prayer or quickly meditate on the good and bad that comes from going out
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