I’m not big on giving relationship advice so feel free to ignore as it’s not advice so much as just observations from my life experience. When I or most of my guy friends act this way the correct play is typically for the girl to explore independence in various ways. This can be the artistic hobbies, gym/diet, hanging out with girlfriends, outdoors activities like hiking, etc. Do not hang out with someone where there could be romance such as a guy. I let someone really special get away because I was behaving the way your significant other is. After a week broken up I came to her and told her I was very unhappy without her. That week apart made me realize I got so much happiness from being with her. She had already moved on. I don’t know you or your significant other so take this as it is just my experience.
Not to shoehorn this in but I started praying, reading the bible and following Jesus and it has completely changed my life. I was a drunk for 20 years. I tried a lot of things. Nothing worked for me personally except repenting to God and accepting Jesus as my saviour. I went from being a drunk and at times womanizer to reading the entire bible. I am hopeful to meet someone who believes the way I do some day as Jesus has completely transformed everything about my life including my outlook, attitude, thoughts and behaviors.
In reference to the debt, lying and weed…
So i’m getting old (in my 40s now). I’ve never met a well adjusted, happy adult who lives a life that doesn’t cause conflict or strife that smokes a lot. Everyone I know who tokes from the time they wake up til they go to bed lives what I would call the Diet Meth lifestyle. Is it as bad? No. Is their life messed up and it doesn’t have to be? Yes. For the longest, longest time I saw it as a harmless drug. I thought oh it grows out of the earth. The thing is… that doesn’t mean we were meant to use it that way, all day, every day. Everyone… everyone i’ve known that tokes a lot has very serious problems that are directly caused by it that they can’t seem to understand. I can think of four people i’ve known that appear to have Intermittent Explosive Disorder but don’t realize it (I’m not a doctor, just what i’ve observed). They likely tell themselves the herb is helping. As an outsider observing it’s not it’s making it worse. It’s like giving a rabid animal a tranquilizer then asking why it is aggressive when it wears off. The underlying issues are never addressed because they are constantly out of it. Again I do not tell other people what to do nor do I want to say this is every case as some people with seizure disorders etc have seen benefits. I’m just saying i’ve seen the negatives far outweigh the positives for most people.
cool. Easy online process bam. Strolled into the grocery store and treated myself to a coffee. Like hell i was stressing out about time pressure and having to get all this shit done and my higher powers like how about i let you coast into your destination safely and you slow your roll. Check. Tow truck only took 20min. Some shoppers were inconvenienced for a few minutes, some gauked, some snarled, some found there way around us, and then my higher power sends this sweet lady. Shes staring, she sweetly says thats unfortunate to happen on a holiday weekend. Can i give you a ride somewhere? (How fricken sweet) humankindness. Beautiful. No thank you maam. My husbands on his way. Godwink. Grace. Idk i had this peace in a very stressful situation and it was like im just gonna do the next right thing…roll with it.