I know that feeling, or something similar. I used to “erase” it / mask it in my addiction behaviour. I’m not sure what to “do” with it, but I guess it’s kind of like gray weather and I’m the tree waiting for some sunshine (anyway that’s how I experience it). Sometimes the gray times are long 
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But… Do you get through it without a drink or drug? How long does it last?
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Yes!!!
If your are female are you keeping track of your cycle?
I use a free app called clue. It has really helped me to correlate the lazy and bored but not wanting to do anything feelings with certain parts of the cycle.
It’s doesn’t always work but sometimes I can relax into it and just rest.
Other times is hard! Like this weekend now I’ve been restless and wanting things but also too lazy to do anything. I’m not sure if the answer. But your are definitely not alone!! Maybe social media is the cause! Seeing all this hyped up stuff we’re you get a feeling of FOMO
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Thank you 
Okay. Thank you 
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I haven’t much in the past, before recovery. In my recovery, yes I have. I achieve it by working the steps of my program. Personally I have chosen a twelve-step program, and the psychology of it - the daily meditation, the meetings and friends and community and mutual support, the psychological work involved in making progress through the steps (for me I find step 4 especially valuable; I do some of that reflection in my journaling almost daily) - all that psychological effort pays off with resilience that I’ve developed over time. I am not alone and I will never be alone interpersonally or, more deeply, in my mind and heart.
I can’t plan this. I look at it more like exercise. If I’m going to climb a mountain or do an extended hiking trip, or if I’m going to scale the stairs in a tall building, I have to train. That training helps me prepare for the climb, but it has other effects too, based on choices I make as part of the training: it improves my diet and my body strength and resilience; it improves my psychological state of mind.
24 hours. It’s always 24 hours. I never plan any recovery stuff more than 24 hours. That’s the horizon of my existence: what am I doing today? 
I have Zoom meetings programmed in my calendar on my phone - 3 meetings most days; 4 meetings some days - so I am never farther than a couple of hours from getting myself to a meeting to recharge my batteries. (I don’t attend every single meeting on my calendar, but I have the Zoom codes there every day so I can get to a meeting quickly and find time for it regularly, sometimes daily.) That interpersonal experience makes me feel very seen and helps me see that my addiction is nothing compared to the good feeling I get from connecting with other humans.
There are many good resources in the thread Sassy prepared here:
I know it’s hard and it seems overwhelming. Remember you’re not alone and you have support you can find. In addition to recovery programs, maybe you can also visit your doctor and get your doctor’s opinion about whether there may be some physical or psychiatric elements to this too? (In my case I get treatment for my ADHD and my depression, and take medications for both, as prescribed by my doctor. I have also worked my recovery, which improves how those medications work. It has made a huge difference in my recovery.)
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Thank you. I have also been diagnosed with ADHD. The meds did help until they didn’t anymore. So I stopped taking them. I believe they stopped due to me grieving over my daughter’s death. I also have some autoimmune issues going on so that could be a factor.
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How are you doing today?
Yes. How fortuitous to see this post. I’m feeling a little down today. The weight of decades of selfishness, bad choices and substance abuse that has wrecked others’ lives and wrecked my life is hard to live with. I also feel lonely. Noticeable lack of any real close friends (that live near me anyway). Lots of regret and shame over how I got here, with no time machine to go back and fix things.
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Do you have a sponsor? Have you worked the “steps?” It helps you to forgive yourself and make amends to the people you have hurt. It’s so important to forgive yourself, if not it may cause a relapse. How much sober/clean time do you have if you don’t mind me asking. Do you attend AA/NA meetings?
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I try to keep myself out of a funk by having a routine. When I quit drinking, I got a gym membership and now I go literally every day. I don’t know if I could make it through without it. I also drink a cup of herbal tea every night to unwind. Probably not for everyone, but it works for me. Sometimes I miss that euphoria that comes with being drunk, but I never miss the hangover the next day. It gives me joy and pride to know I can live life sober.
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I’m at 103 days.
I have my second meeting with a sponsor set up for this Fri. to start working the steps. I do attend AA meetings and outpatient drug/alcohol group as well as 1:1 counselling.
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Any suggestions for energy? I have absolutely none. 
Perfect!!!
Yes. I have found myself in a funk from time to time. This is when I rely on self-discipline. I know what I should do and I get after it…even though I don’t want to. Don’t want to get up? Get up, make your bed, go for a walk or work out. Make your favorite wake-up drink, coffee or tea or whatever, and read for a bit. Now the day has only just begun, and look at all you’ve accomplished. Then pick the next positive thing you don’t feel motivated to do, and do it. The satisfaction of doing it, even though you didn’t feel like it, hits harder. Now you’re moving forward, leaving the funk behind.
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Im there now. I get it. Totally in a funk. Hang in there. Im here with you going through the same.
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I’m sorry you’re feeling this. But at the same time I take comfort knowing I’m not alone. I hope you feel better. I’m here for you 
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I love the promises in the AA book. Some how some way financial debts seem to work out when we’re doing good and staying sober. Jobs come out way, or people help out or something unexplainable happens. I’ve seen it happen to people and have experienced it myself. Don’t stay in the “funk” “this too, shall pass” 
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Assuming this is about child support, I personally believe that you have no choice in the matter. Not after you chose to have kids, their financial support is your joint responsibility no matter what.
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Sending you hugs and de-funking vibes 
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