Hey all! I joined this last night, and I am glad I found you after, literally, hours of searching. I quit drinking a couple days ago and on the first day it wasnt so bad - probably because I was still feeling the affects from the previous night - but getting to sleep is the worst. Day 2’s irritability wasnt fun either along with the foggy brain syndrome that hasnt cleared up yet. I’m hoping to feel better and have more energy tomorrow, but it was certainly hard motivating myself to do anything other then eating and laying in bed.
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Hi and welcome here 🙋
I’m addicted to alcohol too, I found the first 2 weeks the hardest physically.
I slept bad, was irritated and angry, had night swearts, huge cravings, etc.
After that 2 weeks it started to be better day by day and after 3 months or so I felt more “normal” again. But that all is different from person to person. It depends on how much you have drinking, how long and how your body reacts on the detox. So hang on!! Come here if you need us! Life is deffinitely better sober, almost 19 months sober myself.
So hope to see you around often, it helps to be here much!
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Thank you! I appreciate your support and it’s good to know I’m not alone in this. I haven’t really reached out to any friends or family about this yet. I can admit to myself I have a problem, but so far I am finding it difficult to share this with those I am closest to
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Welcome here JSR. You’re amongst friends and peers here. A great safe place to share, to read, to learn.It’s been so helpful to me in the past 10 months. Hope it can be to you too. Right now keeping your sobriety is the no. 1 priority in your life so it’s only logical you’re not motivated for anything else. Keep going, keep talking about it. Together we can do this. Alone it is too hard. Welcome again and success!
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Thank you for the kind words and support!
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Welcome @JSR to this awesome community. You can’t do this alone. We’re all here to support you. Reading a lot and posting will help. Join us on the check in thread, it’s a great form of accountability. Here’s the link:
Checking in daily to maintain focus #11
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Hey there, and welcome! Glad you’ve found us. Stick around, and read lots. I joined for the counter, but after reading a ton, I decided to join and it’s been immensely helpful over the months. 
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Welcome JSR how is your day 3 going? Remember when you start this journey it’s not a walk in the park but it does get better. One day at a time man take it easy on yourself, I remember when I first started I had no energy and lack of motivation for whatever reason. Try to stay busy if you can and stay sober think of all the reasons you want to be sober. You got this
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Hey!. Thanks for asking… only got a few hours of sleep. But i’ve been much more productive today. So far so good. I did make a list of all the pros and cons to remaining sober. And Ill keep looking at it every day and adding to it when I think of more.
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Welcome JSR. Great group of people around her with lots of good advice. I kind of started off like you too. I suffered a 2 day hangover where I didn’t drink and found the Sober Time app. I didn’t even tell my wife for a couple of weeks I was getting emotional support. My wife still drinks. It was a problem for me but I’ve learned with help from a lot of people here that I’m only responsible for my sobriety. I even made it through my 60th birthday sober thanks to all the fine people here that supported me and celebrated my sobriety with me after my 60th. Anyway… Keep checking in. Keep getting those feelings out there. Check out my daily gratitude list. I feel it really helps get the day off on the right foot. Along with quiet mornings with God and devotionals. Keep up the good work. Your worth it. And it does get a little bit easier. One day at a time.
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To both you and OP id urge to consider honesty as an option. For many off us shame and guilt consume us. When you are ready to accept you have an addiction and you want to treat it.
Dont do it solo. We need hugs… Well post corona that is.
Honesty… Blunt honesty.
My grandmother was surprised i told her i used for 20 years, and then she said she was proud of how i am dealing with life now. Thats the gift of honesty people can tell ypu they are proud.
And yes they can also tell you they are disappointed… Well fuck so was i so i get that.
Good night i am off to bed
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9 months coming up here. No shame left about me. Forgiveness is whats challenging now.
Ill make it!
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You got this, M!. Approaching day 5 now and feeling so much better!. You will too! Last night I slept much better and much deeper… Head’s getting a little clearer and I’ve been moving around today and found myself motivated to clean and throw out a whole bunch of things I’ve been meaning to that I otherwise wouldn’t have. And, btw, yesterday I opened up about my decision to a recent friend of mine, who then shared some troubles and struggles of his own with alcohol. Many people, whether they are on here or not, can probably relate in some way or another to what we all go through - especially the difficulties in the beginning. I am so grateful to have everyone here to share with, however. I think, part of why I haven’t told my parents yet and even my close friends is because I don’t want them finding out that I have or had a problem - even though they maybe suspected it. I know my Dad has a problem with alcohol for sure. He drinks daily - he’s been settled in his ways, but the 72 yr old still functions and is clearly content with where his life has led him. My Step-dad is a recovering alcoholic for 34 years and is happy and successful and truely someone I admire - but I still haven’t shared with either of them this critical decision in my life. Perhaps there are two parts of me which are afraid of letting them down in different ways. Maybe I’m afraid I’ll have a set back, and feel guilty about in different ways. I don’t know yet. I apologize if it seems I’m rambling. Just some thoughts. Anyway, I’m so glad we all have each other’s backs here.
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That’s a great post Emm; I haven’t read the prior posts but this tells alot about your awareness…? I can’t find the word I’m looking for, lol.
Anyway, stick around! 
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Hey, M! Yeah!. Still going strong!. How about you?. I had some urges today for sure. I was hanging out with my brother, who drinks the same as I did. We live together, we are twins, and we usually just hang out and drink when it when the clock strikes a certin time at night - and so it’s a little weird now that I don’t partake, so it makes sense that I would want to drink some beers with him, right?. I continue to choose not to, however, as I approach my 1st week. What made it a little harder today is the fact that he informed he was moving out at the end of the month. I know it’s a little strange, but we’ve lived together practically our whole lives and I knew this was eventually going to happen, and soon. He got married recently and is expecting a baby in September which is awesome. I am not sad about the sudden change in circumstaces, but it is an end of an era (“Friends” reference). I’ve wanted us to separate for a long time and I think it’ll be great for both of us, but it does make me anxious when I think about the future. Getting roommates, etc… I’m excited, but nervous at the same time. I can do this though! Stonger everyday. Thank you for checking in!. Let me know how you’re doing. -J
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Such a great thread! Thank you @M-be-free49 & @JSR and welcome! Your positive, “can do” attitudes are great tools to have on this journey to recovery this forum is great, it’s helped me A LOT in my journey and I am now 295 days without alcohol 
sober life = our best life!
Please stick around and keep posting your journey and read lots! It helps. Wishing you both all the best.
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Welcome! We been where you are. For me it was like two weeks and started to feel ok… the sleep came and my mood improved. I hated the sweats and tossing and turning in bed. It gets better day by day. There is a wealth of information on here. Be well.