Happy New Year Addeline.
And HUGE congratulations on your 16 days not drinking.
Your early sobriety sounds so much like mine. I know exactly what you’re going through. I do hope you have a good read around this thread.
Just want to share 2 things today.
I dug this up from one of my post for you.
Edit: Ok maybe just one thing 
Ok so I’m behind here and catching up. Question? Did you have to lay down on your belly to get that picture? Any trouble getting up? You know I tease.
No advice as the others are so wise.
yes, this is exactly what I did!
as i’m well stretched atm getting up was no problem besides the usual moaning sounds of a 52 year old
This was such a good read , saving to my phone! Thank you so much. It feels really good to hear the relativity to your early sobriety. I am hoping to find Al anon meetings online ~ along with me AA too
that made me laugh. Sorry! Yeah I get it and I wouldn’t want you to do something that would create a bad environment for you.
I understand the hurt feelings and wish you could get your boundaries respected. Keep working on your sobriety friend. I do hope things get better for you at home 
Grateful that venting helped. We are here for you friend. 
Do think the Al Anon meetings will be very helpful for you too 
Gotta have a bit of humor !!! Gotta keep smiling and laughing 
I hope they get better too, if not hard decisions & harder work are around the corner. We have to do what is best for us! We only have one wild & precious life:heart: Thank you for the support & just being here for me. It is appreciated beyond words!!
Good morning Addeline
Just wanted to share my favorite reading in my favorite daily reader with you.
So much to unpack in this one.
I just started reading it again this year.
Oh that is a beautiful realization and you do deserve alive a happy fulfilled life in this precious life.
Grateful you are here. Much love friend…you are most welcome …you are not alone 
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Wow this really hit me deep! Thank you so much!
I’m struggling with that I know there is no perfect person & perfect partner & accepting that my expectations won’t be met😕 I am by no means perfect , especially when I was drinking. I did some really horrible stuff that hurt my husband & diminished trust and respect.
Sooooo much to unpack here!
Had to come back to this tonight. Husband showed up at home with alcohol. I asked him to be honest with me, about his offer of support. That if he feels he needs to drink at home, to please let me know so I am not left feeling disappointed. He says he forgot about his offer & will finish what he bought tonight (because I will be tossing whatever is in there before he goes on an 11 day night shift streak & definitely do not need to see that everyday). It’s not much. It’s difficult to manage these expectations with false promises. He said moving forward from tonight he will keep his offerings,except for special occasions, but at this point, what can I really do but lower my expectations ? How can I keep alcohol out of the house when I’m trying to maintain my sobriety. Day 19 here
Day 19 is a big deal, especially with how hard this is. It’s understandable to feel hurt and frustrated when promises don’t line up with actions. Wanting alcohol out of the house isn’t unreasonable, it’s about taking care of yourself. You’re doing what you need to do to stay sober, and that matters. Proud of you!
It’s a learning process for both of you. Keep your boundaries up and stay off the booze. Leave the room. Pour out what’s left after the evening. Speak up that this behaviour is not supportive. And move on. If it’s too triggering: leave the house. Go for a walk, to the cinema, if necessary stay at a hotel where you first ask them to remove the minibar. Come here. Share. This too shall pass. Go to sleep sober, early. Sending strength and kindness
19 days! That’s fantastic 
I am sorry to read that hubby brought alcohol into the home. I am so proud of you for confronting him and having that talk. I know it couldn’t have been easy.
For many of our loved ones they don’t see the struggle of sobriety. It registers to some degree but not fully. I am grateful that he admitted to having forgotten and will do better. This is new territory for him too. Not that you need to keep excusing him. Hope he does stay mindful going forward. Stay focused on your journey. You are strong.
I put all the alcohol in the garage when I was living with my brother. Also had a mini fridge just for me with my sparkling waters and ginger beer. This may not work for you but just throwing out ideas.
We are here for you friend…keep pushing forward 
Thank you!!! 
thank you so much for the reassurance and support
This is exactly what i did last night ! I ended up retreating to the bedroom to read & go to sleep early . I had let him know that I was going to pour anything remaining out today & he did drink all of it. Thank you so much. Coming here is helping a lot. I look forward to my daily check ins & sharing with everyone & hopefully I am giving back to others here too!! This thread is especially special to me
You are giving back a lot 
Thank you!!! The whole thing is weird. He went to visit his mom last night & she offered to give him alcohol to bring home & he declined (he told me because he was being conscious). But then brings home another alcohol. He got sober before & didn’t maintain it (I was still heavily drinking & he said it was hard with me still doing so). I just don’t know. I just genuinely feel unimportant to him or maybe he isn’t taking my sobriety seriously or something . He may just not care & is going to do what he wants to do.
He is working on a mini fridge for his man cave. He did mention keeping alcohol in that. Still doesn’t align with not keeping alcohol in the house or drinking at home, but at that point, I guess I would just have to take what I can get & stay away from him and that area.
that means a lot !
Yeah it does seem like mixed signals from his part. I do hope you are able to figure out a way to keep away from. The alcohol and have a safe sanctuary in your home. Or a space to call your own. Sending love and strength. You are kicking ass and should be proud of yourself.
