Checking In: 44/45. Work 3/3 tonight. Things might be over between the SO and I?- after an argument we had this morning. I didn’t ask afterward, only assumed. If I can’t ask you a question and you can’t reassure me AND end up getting really defensive, then those are many to me.
Feeling really fucking well and confident- surprisingly. No desire to drink, only to continue working on my badass self. No regrets either Anywho… that’s what’s up. Hope everyone is enjoying their Saturday!
Being overly defensive is a huge red flag for me. I speak from experience with doing it and having it done to me. Overly defensive doesn’t necessarily mean something terrible is being hidden but something is definitely going unsaid… Struggling with communication is the worst, I’m sorry @SteppingStones
Was up for dawn patrol this morning🏄♂️. Water 70° air 70° and a little drizzley. Doubled up for a 3 mile paddleboard sesh after. Time for my nap but watching kiddo.
@Bootz
Sounds like you know the area well. You are a long way away in the PNW, but always just a plane ride away. Hopefully things are going well for you there.
Time is going by so fast. I have just reached the “almost there” milestone. Even though i would prefer the 9 months milestone on Oct 1st it is definetely worth holding on for a sec and taking a deep breath. Nine months ago my whole thinking was centered around alcohol. In the morning i was always thinking like " oh man, it was too much yesterday, tonight there will be no alcohol". But then in the evening it was always like “what a day today, i have deserved a couple of beers tonight. I will not drink tomorrow…” Alcohol was always my escape from reality after a stressful day. I thought that alcohol is the only good thing that i do for myself. How wrong i was! The first couple of weeks were rough, but now i feel better then ever. Are there any cravings? Sort of. I often start thinking “a beer would be nice right now, come on, you havent had one for so long, that should be ok”, but then i think “will i stop after one beer?”. I know, i wont. Therefore i say no to the drink that matters. The first one.
Stay strong and sober!
@Hotic
You explained a conversation I had with myself just the other day. I also said to myself that it would not be just a couple. I and alcohol do not go together. I realize that and avoid for the simple reason that two will be 20. Additionally, one day will turn into weeks. Congratulations on your time sober. Stay sober and keep ticking off the days!!!