@Res1978 Glad you’re here! Congrats on starting your sober journey. This is a wonderful and supportive place
The anxiety passe.i had It lots when i stopped . But It lessens and talking helps .
You can so do this
You don’t sound like a toddler at all. You have every right to be emotional & angry. It’s healthy to vent that. Hugs to you!
Congratulations Deadman. This is excellent.
You ARE a good daughter, he WAS a good dad. It’s important to make that distinction. Hanging on to things that were in hopes that they will be again can be a big source of resentment.
Maybe his grief and his anger at the loss of his wife made it too difficult for him to be around the people that reminded him of your mom? Maybe he directed it at the wrong people?
It’s not a super productive way of moving on, but it is a way of moving on. Strange as it may be.
I think therapy would be a great place to start. Hope you have some sunshine in your life soon.
I’ll shut up now too. Unsolicited advice isn’t cool sometimes. I hope I didn’t overstep.
@anon86726034 Just got my book today!!! Thanks for the recommendation
I have 1.5 books ahead of it, but can’t wait to read it!
Congratulations!!
Winding down on day 26…going to have some hot tea to wind down from an emotional day. My 30 day mark is coming up this weekend and I’m already starting to mentally prepare. I’ll be alone this weekend as my husband will be out of town with my youngest on a camping trip. So I have to keep myself from buying & consuming any alcohol. I need to find some things to do to keep me busy. Any other tips on how not to relapse?
Sorry @SoberWalker…my mom passed away seven years ago, my dad remarried and one day just called and said to stop by and pick up everything. It was difficult, some days still are. My mom and dad were both very different people. I don’t fault my dad, he’s just the person he is today.
Checking in.
Just white knuckled it through 24 hours.
1 day sober!
I will not drink tonight, I will make it to 2.
You got this!! One day at a time.
Thank you so much
Day 37. Trying to learn to just be and not worry about everything.
Day 337. I’ve had a reprieve from feeling depressed today. Feeling satisfied that I accomplished most of what I set out to do today. Grateful for friends.
This is a hard thing to learn! I’ve made a little progress with it so far (still got a long ways to go though), I’m confident you will too if you keep at it. Certainly a valuable skill.
When worry attempts to grab hold I find it comforting to focus on my higher power. I have faith everything happens for a reason and as long as I keep doing the next right thing all will be as it should. Maybe not what I wanted or thought I needed but as it should.
Yes! Trust in my HP is an important source of strength for me.
313 days sober for me. @DrunkNoMore huge congrats on 1000, @Deadman likewise for a year, man. That’s awesome. And @SoberWalker I’m so sorry about this roller coaster that your dad has put you on. It’s not fair and you don’t deserve it my friend. I hope you have the chance to someday hear a reason. Not knowing is incredibly painful. @ifs I like hearing this James…a lot!
Thank you although I had to reset once again but I’m at 48 hrs in about an hour , i struggled alittle this evening but used a few new coping skills I acquired and got through