That’s an amazing transformation. Like one of those stories you read in People. Good for you!
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Day 720. I haven’t been actively on TS for a few days but I’ve noticed I’ve been progressing in terms of self care which has been total shit lately If you read a few of my recent posts, you know my mom broke her foot about a month ago and for the past 2 and half weeks she’s been in a full cast up to her knee. She isn’t allowed to put even the slightest bit of pressure on her foot. Unfortunately, her house is basically all stairs. There’s about 15 stairs to get in the house, no bathroom on the first floor and to get to the second floor theres about 20 stairs, and the laundry room is outside down about 15 stairs in the basement. She is extremely unstable on crutches and while I got her a knee rover, she can’t use it to go up and down stairs. So, her mobility has gone to hell. I’ve been staying with her for the past 2 and a half weeks, taking care of her, the house, and the cat (who has always had IBS symptoms, so messes everywhere and there’s only carpet in the house except for the kitchen and bathrooms, and we just found out has lymphoma in his bones). I’ve been going through some health issues as well i have surgery on the 28th. So, it’s been rough.
Well, in the midst of all of this, I’ve been staying at the house with her instead of staying with my boyfriend (we don’t officially live together but I stay with him 99% of the time)and I’ve noticed some major shifts in my habits mostly around the morning hours. My boyfriend being a full time musician has a messed up sleep, eating, life schedule. It’s basically backwards from normal living (like those who work night shift - he goes to sleep around 2 or 3am most nights, sleeps til 10 or 11 but its totally broken up so he maybe collectively gets 4 or 5 hours a night, eats his first meal at 1 or 2 and has dinner 11/midnight or later, etc.) and I tend to follow many of these habits when I’m with him minus the sleeping, I just end up staying up til 2 and waking up at 7 which is completely against my natural way of life.
My new routine:
- I’ve been going to bed around 1030/11 at night consistently and waking up around 7/730 which has led me to create a morning routine- something I’ve never done before - normally I set my alarm, get in the shower immediately, get ready and dressed and out the door I go to do whatever it is. Im not used to getting up and having time in the am to drink coffee or tea, eat a small bite (i hate breakfast so it’s been an adjustment), and relax before I start my day.
- ive been getting out on the beach in the early am hours and been getting amazing photographs (one of my favorite hobbies)
- I’ve been consistently drinking at least 60 ounces of water a day (diet, however, is a different story- ive been too exhausted to make dinner so its been a lot of take out)
- I’ve started meditating at night before bed regularly (instead of being so tired by the time i get to bed I pass out)
I noticed the past couple of days, my mental health is majorly shifting. I’ve been extremely delressed, anxious, stressed, and irritated for the past 2 months but I think since shifting my routine and creating a routine, it has really benefited me more than I realized.
My boyfriend is very go with the flow, unstructured, spontaneous - his “routine” is completely backwards to mine and I while I enjoy the go with the flow, I realized that I was basically forcing myself to adopt his way and it’s just not a way that works for me… it’s not sustainable. I need my own structure/routine that works for me to stay healthy. My boyfriend mentioned that his goal for next spring/summer is wanting to get up at 9, grab a bite, go for a bikeride, and then hit the beach by 11. Which totally took me by surprise. And I felt that was his way of trying to be a part of my type of routine which I think is great. Whether or not it will happen, we will seee but I hope it will.
So, at the end of this long and rambling post, I’m curious, is there anyone that is in a relationship with someone who has opposite schedule? Like one is night shift and one is day? Or does your self care look completely different than your partners? How do you compromise, make it work, and spend enough quality time together?
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Good morning, checked out zoom meetings yesterday and so far one this morning. I’m looking for a sponsor, hopefully I will find one today
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We don’t have anything Pumpkin Spiced in Sweden unfortunately. So I have to make it myself. I might have found a homepage that sells Pumpkin Spiced coffee syrup online here, but I haven’t tried to order it yet. No candles found but when I was in US I bought everything I cold get over Pumpkin Spiced and Halloween themed 
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Checking in at 115.39 days…
Well, looks like I came out of this shit show of a week actually feeling stronger and better about myself. It actually occurred to me last night that I 100% do not give a single fuck what this lady thinks of me. I can’t believe it, I’ve never not cared what someone thought of me in my life.
Have a great sober Sunday folks!
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Awesome number 
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Then I was determined to capture 333.33
Got this far, then fell asleep 
The sleep meds I’d taken a couple of hours before didn’t help 
One day at a time folks 
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Day 58 without alcohol and made it 6 months without Ketamine recently.
Yesterday I went to a 3 yr olds bday party next door. All the moms knew each other and I felt like an outcast. I hate that feeling of being socially awkward and not knowing what to do with myself. I came home and thought about it for a good hour. Then decided I can either accept that thats just the way I am or I can try to change myself and make more of an effort next time to include myself. Its a 3 year olds birthday party… like who even cares? I even thought to drink a cider midway through the party but of course realized that thought was stupid and ignored it. Haha. But these are all the moms that live on the street and I have yet to become friends with them all even after a year. (A bunch of them are Mormon and are related some way so I feel even more like an outsider.)
Anyway next book on my list… How not to be an awkward ass introvert. 
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100 days clean and sober today yay!!! Thank you for everyone who pulled me through this far love you guys!!! Congrats @M-be-free49, little sis you’re right behind me!!! Have an amazing day today!!! 
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Good work you. I’ll be thinking happy sober thoughts for you. You can do it!
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I’m glad you’re here, Tara; we’re all in this together!
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August 23rd and you? Doesn’t the bike affect the knees?
Day 13! Almost two weeks in! It’s Sunday so that means football for hubs. I’ll enjoy his company while I read my book 
still lounging with the doggies. Few errands to run today. Starting exercise regime tomorrow morning. The gym opens at 4:30 so I’ll be there. Starting healthy eating habits tomorrow too. There are so many things I want to do I feel like I’m overwhelming myself. I just need to do SOMETHING. Hope everyone has a great day!
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Hello everyone! Another Canadian over here 
Day #10 for me. Last night my daughter had friends over for her birthday and during pick up one of the moms suggested we get together and drink wine. I wasn’t expecting to talk about being sober with her but ‘I don’t drink anymore’ just came out. I said it and I felt it. I do not drink anymore. I feel strong today. Woke up and made pancakes this morning. No hangover. Clean house so I have the whole day to enjoy with a clear head 
I read TS everyday and it has helped me. Hope everyone enjoys their sober sunday!
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There’s one full day in the books. I’m tired and my head hurts and I had 2 panic attacks yesterday. I wasn’t a daily drinker but I did myself in 2 nights ago so I suppose these are just the remnants of that booze working its way out? I’m trying really hard to not keep kicking myself and trying not to call myself terrible things and honestly just ignore my brain and make it through another day till I can check in again.
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I love this story. I love that you felt it and like you didn’t feel weird about telling her that.
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