Checking in daily to maintain focus #19

[Dazercat]

Great job on six days. Giving up the cigs too? You got your work cut out for ya. I stopped smoking awhile back and posted this for anyone trying to quit. It worked for me. Might help in giving up the booze too. If you feel like it check it out. Checking in daily to maintain focus #10

[Galen_82]

Thanks. Yea I wasn’t sure whether doing both at once was going to be too much. However i think one is a trigger for the other so both at once maybe easier. I read your post and im already doing some of those but ill try the others if and when i can.

Thanks for the encouragement

[Dazercat]

You’re definitely right about one being a trigger for the other. I’ve read you can get that nicotine out of your system in a week or something like that. Then it’s just habit. I always had a nice set of worry beads to play with. It helped keeping the hands busy.

[Dolse71]

We never give up that’s what makes us special even on the days we don’t think we are. You said it fucked you mind, well now it’s time to stop thinking and start acting bc thinking is our problem and we can’t solve the problem with a problem.

[Dolse71]

Great to see this mate

[Joy]

[Seb]

From early reports, surgery went well. Full results back in a week. Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts.
Thanks @Chiron

[Dolse71]

Have yourself a blessed day joy and may it be as beautiful as you

[Tomek]

Don’t give up, man, you’re doing so great! First just clap yourself on the shoulder and think about what you have already achieved. I’m sure it wasn’t easy, but you held up. Your persistence is a great model for everyone. Every sober day is worth the fight, no matter if it’s someone’s 2nd day or 32nd.
Second of all: set another goal in between 30 and 90, and figure out some reward for it. It can be just some bagatelle thing, just reward yourself, because you have a lot of work in your sobriety and you deserve it.

[Hailstrom]

Milestones can be tricky mate, I hear you. Try playing the movie forward. What will be the end result, the consequences of picking up today? It’s worked for me so far.

[Olivia]

Take a closer aim. Like nailing this day sober. Staying sober for the rest of the week. Ultimately it’s not just stacking days but learning to live healthier life. What could you do today to get there?

[Tomek]

Oh yes, and deliberately distract yourself if you’re alone at home.

[Olivia]

Congrats Tomi! Well done! Have a great day!

[siand]

That is a very fucking cool number

[siand]

If it were me I would say something about not drinking before you go so it’s out there. Otherwise you will get offered a drink and then have to turn it down or you may cave under pressure. I have done that with drinking, smoking, food… Easily done, especially in the early days!

In terms of what to say, it really depends on the nature of your relationship. I’m not drinking any more works. Or I’m taking a break from the booze. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. If they ask, you can make a judgement on the situation as to what’s appropriate, but it doesn’t have to be a whole conversation about the intricate details of how alcohol is fucking up your life. Keep it simple. They might be impressed, they might have questions, or it might just be a bit awkward. But that’s literally the worst case scenario, it’s a bit awkward. I bet you have been in tons of situations more awkward than that, you will get over it. More likely though, you’ll have a great time!

[Misokatsu]

@Mephistopheles

[Galen_82]

Glad to hear dude!! How are you?

[Luckyredz]

Day 115, trying my best to remain focussed on my goals, doubling down on reading and meditation, and working 1 day at a time, as currently that is about all I can guarantee, whilst I ride out this current wave of feelings.

[Thirdmonkey]

928. Just hired a lady who stepped right out of the Army. Money is extremely tight for her. She was going to quit and move, because she didnt have the money to pay her rent. We as a country shit on our Veterans. The transition to civilian life has been rough on her. So, I paid her rent. Drunk me, would have never done that…that would have been a lot of booze I couldn’t buy. Sobriety brings gifts every day.

[Mno]

486. You all made me think of my parents and my relationship with them. Still a lot of unresolved issues in my head 6 (dad) and 7 (mum) years after they died. I really didn’t confront this issue yet. There’s a lot of resentment in me still. They were so busy with themselves. Still they were my parents and they did do their best in their own ways. Not sure how to tackle it now after drowning these feelings out for so long. I need to do something about it though.
     For now one day at a time I suppose. Sober and clean for sure. Have a good day all. The heating’s on for the first time this season. Luna immediately took her place on the now heated windowsill. Love from a gloomy wet Amsterdam.