Day 81: migraine 
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398 days sober and im finally listening to the big book during my commute. I wish meetings were an option for me but they just arenāt right now. I lose 41 days a year in my car driving to and from work plus i work a rotating schedule of days, nights and afternoon shifts.
Can you get sober and work recovery without a 12 stepā¦ of course you can i did But Iām willing to bet itās easier with a 12 step group. I will work the steps when i retire if i canāt find a way sooner. The way i see it weāre at war with our addictions fighting for our lives so it only makes sense to use every weapon at our disposal.
ODAAT my friends.
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@Girlinterrupted Nice to see u pop in! Congratulations on 6 months!
@CapriciousCapricorn Almost the big 12 months!
@anon28001181 Hereās to accepting kum ba yah bullshit.
@RosaCanDo Migraines suck, hope it is short lived.
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Day 13, oreos and milk kept me sober this eveningā¦not the healthiest but whatever works at this point is fine lol!
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Day 109
Busy day of taking daughter to a playdate, son to his regular appointment and then their cousins come over for a sleepover. At some point gotta fill in a Japanese version of my cv and send that. Probably will pick up those extra classes, it seems like they are keen for me to do them.
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checking in just doing me tonight decided to go out tonight see what i get into you know ? Its better then being in a big old house alone 
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My wife isnt feeling so good at work so i decided to go out and buy her flowers and sweets to cheer her up at work she always loves when i show up unexpected like that thats how im ending my night
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Day 19. I am so tired. Like, I donāt think I have felt this tired since I had a baby who didnāt sleep at night. We are still just laying low, waiting on test results. Negative, or not, I remain quarantined until December 7th. You just watch how far ahead I am going to get on my school work! 
Glad to be alive, available and present to my kids and friends.
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I pray you are negative. I actually said that to @anon79808082 today in PM how I havenāt been this tired since my kids were babies. Get some rest. 
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Thatās a good hubby!! I hope she feels better soon.
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I try to be everyday and not take any moment for granted between us i always make sure even when im at my lowest that shes feeling her best . Thanks !
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I often have to skip or skim through this thread because itās sooo long. But it has so much good stuff too, and Iām so happy itās there, and that all of you are out there. Thank you so much to everyone who congratulated me on 365 days. Iām really touched.
@Jennajen asked what the biggest changes are. I think the biggest thing is mindset: of not constantly feeling Iām missing something or needing something, and getting much closer to being comfortable in my skin. Itās been a few years now that Iāve been trying to recalibrate my relationship with alcohol, as well as working on anxiety. But total sobriety has made a big difference to my ability to be present in the moment, and not always wishing I could change how I feel (by having a drink). Itās small and big at the same time.
My life was very good before I quit drinking, so the changes are subtle externally. I was already doing better in my relationship with alcohol than in some earlier phases of my life. I already had a great, sober partner, and 3 great kids, and a great job. I was doing fine. But I was also sometimes drinking a lot, sometimes drinking less, but consistently drinking most nights, and when I wasnāt, when I managed to take a night off, I was thinking about it constantly. If there wasnāt alcohol in the house, I was anxiously planning how to stock up. Now, Iām not thinking about it, beyond reminding myself to be conscious and grateful. Iām not craving all the time. I donāt wake up in the night feeling headachy and guilty. I donāt worry that Iām setting a bad example to my kids by needing a buzz of wine or beer in the evening. Some days Iām grumpy or tired or bored or sad or in a bad mood for any number of reasons. But I feel my feelings, and Iām not trying to numb them with a drink. Itās a good path to be on.
Some things that have been helpful for me personally in sobriety:
āthis forum
āthe smart recovery workbook
āyoga
āwalking/ running/ being outside
ā other exercise, kickboxing, weights
āhaving a dog
ā chocolate
ārethinking and recalibrating my attitude, reminding myself I donāt need alcohol
ā waiting out cravings, remembering they last much less time than you think
ātaking one day or one minute at a time
āmaking conscious decision to be grateful
ā reminding myself that drinking doesnāt fit my values and what I truly want in my life
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15 days sober.feels pretty good.have a long way to go to get bac to the four month where i first fell off but itās getting there
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WooHoo! Just got our results and they are all negative!
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Wooohooo!! So happy to hear this!!