Hi Dragonflygirl 
Thank you and yes it does feel awesome. I see your trucking along as well which is amazing 
Hope your having a brill weekend and enjoy the rest of your Sunday 
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The big thing for me is continuing to have faith in sobriety even when the chips are down. I’m not especially religious and I’m not particularly fond of terms/ideas like ‘higher power’ etc. It doesn’t work for me. But I can have faith in my choice, in myself. Do these feelings falter, of course, but it’s working so far.
Getting sober is certainly a journey, I wish you all the best on yours 
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Thanks Eric, I’m confident that it will be smooth sailing. For now 
That Mark Twain quote sums it up perfectly
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Aww. You’re so sweet to ask.
Checked in here this morning.
I think I’m doing pretty good. Just waiting for wifey to get up and get these dogs walked and get the day going.
And if I’m tired during the day, now I know why.
You have a fantastic Sunday.
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Good morning everyone. Checking in sober, Finding that I’m right where I was before my relapse which was sleeping all the time, unmotivated, and just miserable all the time. It was part of the reason I relapsed…I also started to have a couple drinks because I thought it was going to loosen up my nerves when I was doing my tattoos which it did help with that a little, my mind just started believing it was going to help me with all that. And obviously it didn’t but my mind believed it was, and now I find my mind trying to say it was helping. Im finding it easy to get through these last couple of days, just hate feeling like I’m right back where I was before my relapse, so idk I gotta try to find a way to get motivated again and do stuff. Idk much love
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Thanks sweet Laura
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Checking in at the end of day 140.
20 weeks. Unbelievable. 
Life is so much better now now.
Have a great sober day, wherever you are.
Goodnight. 
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I’m so glad you can relate but I’m very sorry to hear about the toll alcohol took on you and your family. It sounds like we had the exact same relationship with alcohol.
The night I had my last drink, my wife was packing a bag and getting ready to literally walk out the door. That was the last time I touched alcohol because it was such a wake up call. Now I can honestly say our relationship has never been better. I’m just lucky that I was able to stop in time to save everything.
All the best friend 
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Great stuff mate, never gets boring seeing people win. Well done you deserve it
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Checking in on day 38.
Went to my parents house for dinner yesterday, oh boy. We haven’t lived im the same city for a decade, so when I moved here I was aware that we would need some time to figure out our relationship and to set healthy boundaries. I’m really trying here and I’m empathetic of the fact that they are happy to have me back, but they don’t understand that we won’t be doing EVERYTHING together, just because I moved here. There was also a a lot of screaming and crying because my mother feels.“neglected and left alone by her children”. Sigh. I’m used to a level of autonomy they are not comfortable with (what did they think I was doing all the time whem living abroad? 
). I think many people have the same conflicts with their parents and I try to be patient, but it’s so frustrating, our communication is so bad. They sense that I’m going trough something, but I’m not comfortable to share about my alcoholism or depression, because we’ve never been close like that. I always hoped we would be one day, but not quite there yet.
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‘WHOOP WHOOP’ *Now I’m excited * Well done mate. 
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Ooo you little devil you Well done!!!
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What I’ve learned from the literature about recovery is to see a perspective and thereby keep hope to stay sober is one of the most important things. (I read a lot literature for my work, somewhat ironic to apply all of that to myself). I’m not religious either. Reading and learning here gives me so much hope. If so many can do this, I can do this too.
Thanks for your wishes, you have a great journey too.
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@Will3 congrats on your soberversary 
@WCan congrats on 250 days
@RetainKingII congrats on 6 months
@YeeYeeViking congrats on 4 months
@Seb congrats on your week
@Desire2ChangeToday congrats on your devilish number 
@Truckinmonster21 congrats on 2 weeks
286 days no alcohol.
254 days no cocaine.
9 days no binge-eating.
Went swimming again today, the only slot left was at midday but I took it, there were 4 of us in the slow lane, which must be the maximum as the slot I booked said it was the last slot remaining, it was a little awkward because at some points I was having to slow down to stay 2 metres behind the person in front whilst having another swimmer right behind me, but I’m still glad I went and I imagine it may be quieter during the weekdays. It’s definitely something I want to keep doing every day, it doesn’t cause me any pain at all, apart from the walking there and back.
I have a bit of an issues with a teenager gang that seem to favour the alleyway behind my lounge and bedroom as their hangout spot, and they are so obnoxiously loud, shouting the whole time and blasting their music out, and doing whatever the hell they keep doing to the metal gate because it keeps making really loud grinding noises and slamming into my wall. It’s evoking rage in me and I am having disturbing thoughts. I won’t confront them as I know this could escalate their behaviours and make things much worse, I’m just trying to be grateful that it isn’t happening late at night. Once I’ve built my fitness up a bit from the swimming I may add in some cardio in the gym in the late afternoons when the teenagers come, that’s the only way I can think to eliminate the anxiety it’s causing, it brings up some PTSD panic feelings because of their volume and all the shouting and banging.
I tried to use the washing machine for the first time today and it won’t drain or spin, so that had me swearing lots. The landlord has said if I can get it sorted he will reimburse me but I’ve asked him if he could arrange it as the only plumber I knew passed away a few years ago sadly. Due to the time I spent trying to sort the machine out, I missed the cut off time for the supermarket so I don’t have any real food for dinner which leaves me vulnerable to ordering a take away and bingeing, but I plan to just have an extra diet product and then go shopping first thing tomorrow morning to stock up.
I hope you’ve all had nice weekends 
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@CATMANCAM Your actions, both consciously and subconsciously, make me smile. I’m proud of you. Nothing changes if nothing changes and you’re changing.
@Beforemy30s For me it was always salty snacks until I got sober and then I snacked on anything and everything sweet. Now I’m 300+ days in and starting to lose weight. Sober while chunky was still worth it. Thankfully I’ve been able to change the snacking habit but someone once told me here that if I’m safe & sober it’s okay.
@Misokatsu I so feel you on the “I just can’t win with my brain” and often need to work through my mind’s contradictions.
@Jennajen I’m so excited for you and your upcoming trip.
@Desire2ChangeToday Eeeeee I love your numbers. Awesome job Shay.
@Nordique (screwed posting somehow 
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I’m so grateful for the life that sobriety has given to me, it’s a totally different world now. I still can’t believe I made it out of that hell.
[/quote] I absolutely LOVE this. The sober lifestyle has opened up a new world and we’re living in it.
@Truckinmonster21 Congratulations on 2 weeks
@anon53116147 ODAAT bro and the early ones can be a bitch. Listen to your body. This too shall pass. Sending love and strength.
@Singtone Congratulations on 20 weeks.
341 days. Woke up way too early this morning and have been stuck in my head. Going to clean up and go driving and walking and then off to the drive in tonight.
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Working on 9 months this is the longest I’ve ever stayed clean and sober. Went dancing last night crazy how much fun I had dancing sober didn’t think I had it in me! Having a lazy Sunday got a busy work schedule coming up so trying not to feel guilty for relaxing today. Pretty excited my next job is only 20 minutes from home instead of 2 hours won’t no what to do with all the extra time on my hands lol feeling blessed to be sober and content
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Hi Everyone. The weather is just terrible, we cannot go anywhere in this long weekend. I just finish 5 weeks of herbal detox therapy, feeling very good, but I do not wish to see big volumes of greenish liquids for a time, except maybe some smoothies. Day 35 booze-free.
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You need to do different things now…let me list a few things that I am pretty sure you haven’t tried yet.
Dharma Recovery
SMART Recovery
Yoga? (maybe you tried yoga but I’m pretty sure you havent)
Running? ( I think last year you were feeling insecure maybe this is your year to start)
We can not slip and start our recovery doing the same thing and expect to have different results, that is the exact same insanity as addiciton. When I relapsed if i had just tried to barrel through on my own again, white knuckling, using my own will to get me through I can assure you I would have not gotten very far. I MAYBE would have gotten a couple of years, maybe. I want a lifetime of recovery, I do not want to suffer anymore, and I am willing to do anything and try anything to make that happen, are you?
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