I understand.
There are threads on TS that I don’t view because it’s a violation of my boundaries.
It’s better that way.
It’s easier for me to avoid them altogether then to view them without lusting
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Day 43
Friday, finally. Early tomorrow I go away for a week. I am.a bridesmaid for my best friend this weekend 
followed by a week away with friends and family.
I’m very, very lucky to have this trip planned. And I cannot wait for quality time and explorations with my loved ones. But I need to stay sober. My first wedding. My first holiday. First fancy celebratory meal. All sober. I want to be back here next Sunday reporting Day 52. Here is what I’m going to do:
- I’ve bought a LOT of ginger ale but also some alcohol free fizz and gin for the fancier moments
- I have signed up for an 8 day free course via Soberful that starts while I’m away. An hour online training at 8pm each night. I’m going to sneak away for an hour of alone time to do this either on the evenings or the morning after if I miss it live.
- check in here every day
- take my journal to do each day
- stick with morning pilates and meditation to keep grounded
- I’ve had honest conversations with a couple of close people about my desire to not drink and having these in advance should ease awkwardness in the moment
- try remember that the week will be so special that it isn’t worth ruining with even an ounce of regret. Even if I have just one drink I will regret it. It isn’t worth it.
Wish me luck, all. I will keep checking in.
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Congratulations on your 43 days. Your list looks like a really good plan. Enjoy the wedding and the days off.
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Well, well, well. If it isn’t day 290 come and gone. Good night, forum friends. 
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Hey there, I am back on the track, on day 5 again.
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That’s a great checklist, and especially that you have told and set expectations with others. I will check out Soberful. Sounds interesting. Have a great time!
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Just imagine how great you’re going to feel in a week with all of that under your belt. Not to mention all of the hi-def crystal clear memories. Really hope it goes well and look forward to hearing about it.
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Beautiful boy, love the hair🤭
Keep sobering on Menno, odaat!
Blessings and sobriety!
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Checking in in day 936 and 15.
Sun is shining weather is sweet. Couldnt value the weather now if it was always like that. So I am also okay that it is raining as now everything is green and growing. (except for my avocado trial).
Have a good and sober day everyone.
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Fabulous preparation, I am impressed! Gold star🎖️
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- Coffee. Just one day of work followed by a true weekend off. Spring started last night. I was lucky and happy to witness it happening downtown. Feeling pretty good this morning. The sun is shining. Therapy was good. I’m sober and clean which is the base of all other things happening. One day at a time. Have as good a day as you all can friends. Clean and sober. Love from Amsterdam in spring.
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Great plan! Looking forward to your checkins. Have a great time!
Congrats on 43🙏🏼
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Congratulations @Hopeful777 
months is massive! It’s nice to have you here, you are so surportive to others. Thank you 
@Rockstar24777 that’s so sad. Such a young life. I’m sorry you have to deal with such a big loss.
A bit late but congratulations with the 
days @apes2020, I wouldn’t reccoment Mars…such a boring environment 
I hope you stay @Olivia and I hope your message helps reduce that kind of pictures. I think you deffinitely have a point.
Keep going @anon53116147, you did it before 
Those grouchy days will pass, you know it. Remember how you felt at 3 monts sober? Push trough.
that made me smile @M-be-free49
You made a solid plan @Beforemy30s, that will work! I hope you will enjoy the time away as well, keep us posted!
Nice picture @Mno, like always Are you looking forward to the good weather coming up as well as I do? Reservated 2 seats at a terras near the forrest with a friend of mine. Going for a walk and a lunch and some good conversation. I have to work today too and also have the weekend off. Enjoy yours!!!
Day 982 
I had one of the weirdest days for a long time a few days ago (wednesday). It’s hard to explain in English so I keep it short:
- I got attacked by birds during a walk before work, it was very scary!
- surprised by my boss and co workers as employee of the month of our region.
- got a photo send by my brother from my dad who we have no contact with for 15 years. So he’s still alive and seems happy, so that’s a good thing. But it made me sad and angry as well. He does not want to see us.
- had so many mixed emotions I could hardly deal with it, but I kept it sober. Normaly I would have drink to cope with it.
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Thanks Paul means alot… I have literally woke up and smelt the coffee 
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Your not real when your using Mike… worse than grouchy follows, we know that… you can get back in the groove you have done it before, just a matter of full acceptance… well done for getting through the first day it’s the painful one…
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And all this fantastic preparation and planning will mean a fabulous 10 days with no regrets… enjoy every moment…
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Morning everyone day 109 for me and after work today we have a bank holiday weekend so 3 days off . Going for a long walk tomorrow somewhere nice and a nice pub lunch after it where they sell amazing non- alcoholic beers which I’ll have one of . Got loads of garden jobs to do for the rest of the weekend which will keep me busy.
Hope you all have a lovely sober/clean weekend
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Day 825
I’m completely exhausted. I knew that this period would be difficult and stressful given that my house move is just around the corner and a few projects at work are hitting critical stages at the same time. And both have produced some unexpected problems which is far from ideal. I don’t feel like I’ve stopped this week and have found it really difficult to relax at the end if the day. I’m pretty sure my sleep is all messed up because of the stress. But I’ve done everything I can, must try not to worry and create disaster stories around all of it. I’m sure it will all work out fine.
Met up with a friend last night and had a good chat. After I explained my troubles he said ‘thank god you arent dealing with this as a drunk, that would have been a disaster!’. I agreed and appreciated him acknowledging this. Then we had a chat about how sorry we felt for people who have been locked in there homes throughout lockdown struggling with addiction, and how we both think it’ll be a huge problems that no one is really addressing yet.
Anyway, lets get today done and catch up on some rest over the weekend.
Have a great day folks 
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Thank you for your share, I don’t understand much about sex or porn addiction, and your posts help my understanding a great deal. I hope this forum can be safe for all.
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