Congratulations on triple digits @Mbwoman!!
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Wow. This brought me back to my recent divorceā¦how uncanny alike the situations.
I always thought and we had talked about doing this separation together. But the day I met her to do the final inspection of our apartment (we were already living separately)ā¦I was also met by her attorney. She hated to do it. But she felt like she had to. Not because I was vengeful or hateful. It was to protect herself. She was tired of competing with the āotherā woman in my life. Alcohol took top priority. It always did. And I paid the price. She drove offā¦slowly. Watching me clutch the divorce papers in my hand as I wept. It was over. But I couldnāt blame her. She needed to do her and live for her and be free from co-depence. Sheās a whole new person now in so many waysā¦and Iām happy for herā¦but at the same time, Iāll aways keep a piece of my heart for herā¦
So good for you. I know what itās like being on the other side. But if it means bettering yourself and loving yourself and learning from yourself?? Than all the more since you deserve itā¦this in this short life 
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Triple digits! Congratulations!
About to finish day 1 in 3 more hours.
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Congratulations on one year Rob. You are so incredibly strong 
So proud of you! 
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Checking in on 16 months AF today~ Today was a beautiful day here. Spent the morning doing some cleaning and errands for the shop. Later spent the day on the boat. It was nice. Sun 
was out and it felt like how a Sunday in mid June in New England should feel like. We had my sons girlfriends graduation 
party tonight. My husband decided to drink. Remind you he hasnāt drank since I stopped. Heās never been much of a drinker. Iām not gonna lie Iām not really a fan of it but I know I only have control over my own self and my own choices and actions. I was quickly reminded why I hate when he drinks. Frankly once he starts he wants to keep going. He asked if I would run into one of the local restaurants to get him some Mai tais to go. Apparently they do that since Covid. I told him no. I do not feel comfortable doing that. He tried to make me feel bad at first like oh come on. I had to be stern and stand my ground. I explained how I donāt care if he drinks but I do not want any part of it. That includes ājust runningā in for him to grab the drinks. I did not feel comfortable doing that not because I was afraid I would want one but more because thatās not me anymore. I do not want to associate with alcohol at all. Thatās including buying it. He seemed annoyed about it at first but I didnāt care. I feel proud of myself that I stood my ground. Tonight was ironically the 16 month anniversary of when I began my sober journey and shown how far I have come. Iām a changed woman in so many ways. No matter how badly I want to please the people around me I cannot sacrifice my own boundaries or standards I have for myself. I live for myself first. The best part of it allā¦. Is that the people around me are learning I will no longer sacrifice my own peace and happiness for them or put their needs above my own. Itās a hard lesson for all but one that is so valuable. Sobriety has given me so much more than my voice back. Itās given me self respect, love, peace, and happiness.
Make yourself proud because at the end of the day you are living for you. Itās your life. Live it for you.
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Day 349.
A good day. Lots of thoughts as I puttered, about approaching one year. Alas, Iām full of good fatigue after the day! Will continue to ponder. For now tho, itās time to turn in.
Looking forward to sharing another one with you all tomorrow.
Gānight friends, sweet sober dreams and days to all. 
@C_8 yay! congrats on catching those numbers! oh, and on 600 days of sobriety tooā¦! 
@Mbwoman yay triple digits! way to go, friend!
@Soundlab two weeks! yer getting your sober surfing legs back, friend!
@Becsta one week + and no cigs! youāre doing it! 
@icebear and @Fnkychic and @Jdiaz Good to see you all here. Facing forward and into the day, away from the yesterdays, letās do this togetherā¦
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Fabulous! Congratulations 
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Super proud of you on your One Year and going forward! I wish you continued success, and for your days to be the best that they can be. Lots of admiration from here. @Rockstar24777
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Itās hard to relapse. But Iām glad you are here and working hard to try to understand the āwhyā.
Like someone else on this tread already mentioned: if you learn from it, itās not all for nothing. Writing it down can clear things and you can read it back when you need it. Maybe put a copie of it in your wallet so you can read it when you need it?
You are a strong lady, so get a toothpick and go for it 
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Fabulous! Congratulations @Dragonflygirl82! Your transformation over the past 16 months has been amazing to watch. Thank you for sharing your journey. Itās been a pleasure getting to know you and Iām happy to call you my friend. Love you Sis 
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That is one of the most adorable things Iāve ever seen April! How cute!!!
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2 weeks sober!! 
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Awesome job standing your ground Courtney and congratulations on 16 months!!! 
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Day 60!!!
Iām thrilled. Though I slept in just now and have missed time for morning pilates - must have needed the rest. Have great days!
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2nd check in today for cigarettes. Day 8 and really struggling. I know they are āonlyā cigarettes, a relapse wonāt impact on my life the way alcohol did but financially they were killing me. Over here they cost $28 for pack 20. Times that by 7ā¦ ridiculous. Sooooo hard though. I hate em but miss em sooooo much argh!!!
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