Very sorry for your loss @Charlie_C! My heart breaks for you and your family. I have sisters that age and I can’t imagine getting that phone call.
Keeping you in my prayers and thoughts.
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Oh Charlie! I’m so sorry. Is this the brother that lives near your Dad? I can’t imagine how hard this is for you - we’re here, reach out whenever you need to.
I know you can do this sober - I believe in you.
Sending hugs and strength to you and yours. 
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U right brother …thanks
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Awe Charlie I’m so sorry. Sending condolences to you and your entire family. 
May the memories help you get through this difficult time.
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Damn Charlie I’m really sorry
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I’m so sorry for your loss Charlie. Thank you for sharing here. You have been such an inspiration to me. You keep going, you keep trying and you are here continuing. I’m so sorry again.
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@Dazercat Sending strength. You always support people on here, I hope our support now helps you.
@Charlie_C My deepest sympathies. How shocking and sad.
@Singtone Upcoming milestone, end of term, heat… a perfect storm for drunk logic to rear its ugly head. Glad u recognised it and knew when to reverse it.
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Check in on day 27 nothing to report really so that’s how I like it, off to the beach for the night as kids have broken up for summer holidays, so making every minute count, they’ve had to share me with that other world for too long, today I can be precent in there lives, they don’t want things or toys or gadgets they want my time. Have a blessed Thursday 
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Checking in sober.
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Had the plumber come over this morning. Again.
Last week his trainee put in a new sink stopper (heavy duty kind you push down on instead of using the leaver in the back). I noticed a couple days later that it didn’t work, so I made an appointment for the plumber to come by on Monday to fix it. Not an emergency so no problem. On Saturday I found that beneath the cabinet had a bunch of standing water. Awesome. Cabinet is warped on the inside. Kind of concerned that water might have gone under the whole vanity through a hole in the back.
Plumber comes Monday, finds that the trainee didn’t put any pipe tape on the threads, but also the popper was defective. He fixes it. I tell him I expect the company he works for to have someone come check out the vanity, which they arrange. Restoration guy comes yesterday, and there is a bunch of water again. 
Plumber insists through text that he ran the water and it didn’t leak but of course he would come back (he’s a good guy and experienced, but this is just the wtf that has been my life recently). I decide to check the pipes. I run the water. Nothing. I have basic plumber training so I consider the situation, then splash the water with one hand as if washing my hands (because generally people do things with the water). Bingo. Water starts coming from the threads in the back.
So this morning the plumber shows up, and I tell him the issue I found. He checks it and… nothing. So I get down there and feel where it’s just barely starting to get wet. Plumber checks. Nothing. 
Apparently they’re shy and don’t want to misbehave in front of other people. Finally he can start to tell where it’s leaking too. (Edit on this paragraph to rephrase)
Anyway, finally the leak begins to get bad. Not sure why, but it just needed a while to become a problem. It wasn’t an expanding or contracting issue because temp didn’t matter. So he tightened it and it seems to have worked so far? Now I will contact the company. Yes, the damage is cosmetic, but also… it’s my stuff. So we’ll see.
After the new water heater failing, the nice garbage disposal I got failing and getting water everywhere, the kitchen faucet being defective when they put it in and having to replace it right away, the storm door I had put in last fall now warping and won’t shut (they’re ordering parts to come fix it), the wiring in the kitchen lights I had put in being defective and having to get fixed, etc., (this is only the recent stuff).
Am I haunted by the ghost of Bob the Handyman? Maybe. Somethings we’re just not meant to know in this life. 
On second thought, go toward the light Bob. I’m done with your shenanigans.
@apes2020 Oh man I can’t handle it when it gets that cold. Right now it’s hot AF where I live, and I think I would still take the heat over cold like that. btw, great full moon video you posted in the other thread. I’d forgotten that I put him on 1.75 speed though and half way through I was like, man this guy is really excited. 
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Day 207
Morning, another sunny warm day in the UK making the most of it as it does not last for to long… went river swimming last night perfect.
@Ooooops happy sober birthday 
@lizak good to hear you doing well, and the kitten has cuteness overload
@Girlinterrupted will look for it now thank you
@Charlie_C so sorry to read about your brother my thoughts are with you all, keep strong and reach out if you need to. So sad.
@Rockstar24777 yippee so happy for you, and a quick start date. You have done amazing and will be amazing… Congrats 
@Dazercat virtual support pinging your way, your strength will guide you through 
Have a good day all
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1st thing I read this morning. Fuck shit bollocks… And yet the way you said it made me chuckle. Yes Bob needs to find peace 
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My deepest condolences for the loss of your brother @Charlie_C
Yay to the new job @Rockstar24777, it’s about time. Onwards and upwards!
Blessings and sobriety!
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@Bomdhil gutted for you. Any specific reason/trigger? Did you plan that retreat? If not could you? You have the strength and determination to never give up, its now working on the tools to maintain your recovery… i know you can do it. Could you reach out to your sponsor or group before ?? Please full admiration for getting straight back… sending strength to you
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Maybe I should cleanse the house. I’ll invite all the handymen who have had to work on my stuff and we’ll sit together in a circle and try to urge him to go toward the light. 
If nothing else that would make for a great Friday night activity.
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You are amazing Joy… you are so steady in your recovery journey…
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Lmao I up the speed aswell in some videos because there so long and dang who has the time to listen to long videos lol but I do like that guy victor tho, his videos are pretty cruisey and easy to listen to and he makes his points clear without rambling nonsense you know? 
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Day 387.
Got some news on Sunday afternoon that was hard. It kicked me back to a different time and place, and the before time too - when I used to drink away the hard stuff. It was the first time in a long time that I could actually picture gulping prosecco. (I had myself convinced for years that it was the only thing that could settle my emotionally upset stomach). It’s been three days since the news. Things will be hard, and I have some work to do around a lot of this. But things are good, too. Other things. Mostly, that I’m different now than I was then. Especially the last 387.
I know this is all rather cryptic, but I’m exhausted. I went to in-person yoga tonight. Lovely. I didn’t get a bottle of prosecco, or anything, on the way home. Double lovely.
Lets do the good and the hard again tomorrow, hey friends?
G’night all - big love.
Happy Birthday @Ooooops !
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I literally laughed out loud reading your whole post not laughing at you but at your cheeky pipes are you brilliantly humourous writting
I pictured you standing at the tap , splashing the water with hand as washing your hands, because thats what people do lmao 
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