That sounds like a healthy boundary.
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I think it should be one after today. Iām glad you showed me that (
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PS Iām happy you enjoyed your dinner out with friends last night 
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My garage is full of sparkling. I have cut down a bit but I always have back ups for my back ups. Been getting into the Spindrift lately. Fun sugar free 0 cal flavors. I order them at Walmart. Itās nice to change up once and awhile.
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La croix and bubbly have been my go-toās. I like spindrift too 
I didnāt realize I was going through them so fast- like 24 a week 
Maybe itās time I buy a soda stream to make my own sparkling waters.
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Ty.
What I have learned is that boundaries are not set in stone. So something that you stand firm with now you may be able to be more flexible with down the road. Make sure your life is safe for you and your sobriety first and foremost.
You did a great job today. You know, days like you had today remind me of being taken down by waves in Hawaii. Everytime I came up for air another wave nailed me. There were a couple times I thought I would drown!!! There were a couple days like you had today I questioned if I could do it. But I made it through, just like you, and we proved to ourselves we can do the tough stuff. 
Soda stream is good!
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Over 100 check ins to read so Iāll just have to say well done to all of you. You may win some and you may lose some but your here and thatās the main thing
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That was a beautiful way to explain a difficult day. You are really lovely Stella. Iām happy we are here surrounded by so many people who keep standing up and fighting. Refusing to drown in the waves
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Checking in, day 54.
Today, not as fun as the rest of the week has been but im making the best of it.
I love this season and weather so much.
It makes me miss her more.
So instead of enjoying it and sinking into āwhat ifsā im going to stay inside with the little one.
An urge to drink that I must suffocate with being
grateful, distractions from my child and just keeping busy while in solitary confinement.
I learned my gym is 24 hours so after I put the kid to bed, im going to start late night workouts. This way I have even more time to spend with her during the day.
To my partner, I miss you. Wherever you are.
I adore you like you never left.
Please keep me in mind.
I love you, K.
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Thanks Rob! Definitely, feelingsnamd situations will change amd transform, but drinking and drugging will only affect that process negatively.
@Mno yes, together we can. I am happy to be here and share my life with you. You are important. Hugs 
@Alisa thank you for reaching out. I was able to pull through and was able to be kind to myself and others.
@CATMANCAM thank you and I am so glad to see how many days you are stacking. I hope you will be able to fin a balance for self soothing and bingeing, I know it is not easy. Hugs.
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Is there such a thing as depression sobrietyā¦? I just feel unbearably low for no apparent reason latelyā¦ It feels like Iāll never overcome my ptsd, after seemingly coming so farā¦ Itās gotten to the stage where Iām maybe no longer even necessarily craving from addiction but mostly consider relapsing now to somehow try to temporarily numb the depressionā¦ I donāt know what to do or say famā¦ It feels like itās origins are from a deep void left behind by my addictions, mixed in with a lack of self-worth from ptsd and excessive subsequent isolation. Any advice (except medication) for working through a depression would be nice. 
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It takes quite awhile for our brains to recalibrate.
My suggestion would be to go see a Dr. be open and honest about how you are feeling. Maybe some therapy would help, maybe they might suggest meds. If you arenāt feeling right Dr is the best bet.
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Definitely have been through this and hate to tell you but it took an actual psychiatrist and high doses of depression meds to help me (though I have had depression since childhood).
If you donāt want meds, then thereās the conventional depression advice about getting lots of exercise, meditating, vitamins (B12 and D are especially important), and not isolating.
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Youāre welcome Jenna, Iām super proud of you!!! 
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OMG!!! Precious. What an amazing way to spend your Soberversary Eve!!! That sweet angel will never know her grandfather as a guy who drinks alcohol. How cool is that?
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I do agree, I did tell her mother I support her with whatever she feels safe, it is a roller coaster ride in my mind, part says yes, part says no.like I always say I have a very hard time interpreting things so keeping up with all this stuff on social media is very hard for me, I just want my baby girl safe absolutely
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Pooh Bear is great!! My boys loved the Bernstein Bears, Arthur, and anything Suess! When they got older? Captain Underpants. Good grief. 
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Wow! Amazing Carolineā¦ you deserve a medal for this one! But your reward will be how amazing you will feel tomorrow with no hangover and no extra anxiety and depression. Wish I could say the same about your friend.
Really proud of you! 
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One of my nieces today asked me if I wanted a girlfriend again.
Straight away my response was no!
I have always struggled on being with someone Iād never had a relationship before my ex and I donāt want a relationship ever again.
Not because I donāt deserve it
Doing recovery has taught me alot about myself and one thing I have learnt to accept is I am shockingly shit at understanding other peopleās emotion!
So the moral of my story is I will never love again and Iām happy with that being stated.
Least I know then I will Never hurt a person again with any of my actionsā¦
My mind wonāt shut off as my visit is fast approaching, I think Iāll be happy to just travel and meet all you wonderful people xx
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Thank you for the kind note Sarah I wouldnāt have made it without everyone here. My friend is currently passed out on my couch and I do not envy how she will be feeling in the morning.
Ps. You and your little look so sweet and happy in your profile photo 
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I received one as a gift from my wife earlier this year and it has been a life changer. My recycling used to be fulllll of plastic bottles from bubbly water - now there are (almost) none. Itās simple to use and the bubbles are great! There are flavourings and other things you can add too 
Iām happy that you shared about your day. The hardest thing for me about that knock-knock-knock addiction voice is hearing it in the echo chamber of my head, and not being around other people to talk it out, share my feels, and get that missing human connection. It takes courage and commitment to do what you did today, reaching out for support.
Youāre a courageous person and you deserve a safe, sober life where you can be your full self 
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