Al doende leert men, meaning we learn as we do, in Dutch. It’s about mindset. Don’t try. Do it. Of course we doubt ourselves. We speak about it here or wherever we feel safe enough to do so. We all find our own ways and methods but there is always one bottom line: we don’t use. Whatever happens.
Numbing is also a way to deal with our feelings. In the long run it’s the worst way there is. I found out. Never again. You can do this. With the right mindset. With the right knowledge. With the right support. Welcome back to your sobriety Karen. One day at a time. Hugs.
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Day 1502.
I always see a lot of conflict between friends and family get described on this thread. Some of the conflict is between the same people over long periods of time. What I don’t see is a lot of posts where the person making the post is looking at the conflict from the other person’s perspective.
It takes 2 people to have a conflict and alcoholics and addicts love to play the victim. Just something to keep in mind as you are deciding how to present your story.
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Checkin in on day 13 baybii
Went to sleep very early yesterday trying to fight off this cold i have hoping it would be gone today because I’ll be out in the cold ringing the bell lol
I just woke up and feel ok enough to get to bell ringing
Take care everyone
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Trying again, day 1 for me again. Checking in friends, just feeling very shameful and very mad at myself. I can’t keep doing this it’s so draining in my so many ways…… so grateful for this community and the comfort of being totally honest. This sucks I need to make better decisions
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Your very brave for you admitting this and im very happy you came back 
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Beautiful Charlie…well done!!
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Oof. Great to see you, sober twin. It’s been a while. Hope you are well.
I’m just finishing up day 344 - at least I think I am. Time zones might account for one day, but not 2. 
Are we actually sober twins after all? I thought we were. 
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Day 24! Happy Monday Morning TS crew. Feeling good. Today MTG 16/90.
Found out yesterday it was my neighbor who called the police on me. Spoke to my Sponser and she worked me through letting the resentment go…still trying to work this through as I can’t help but to feel pissed as she had a DUI 7 years ago…she regularly drinks… snorts…I have told her I’ve been trying to get clean since we became ,“friends?” A year ago. Wouldn’t a friend stop you and sat hey you shouldn’t be driving…? Instead of watching you drive away and call the be police. Regardless owning my bad choices…that was my bottom and I’m 24 days clean and sober today because if it! Good Sober Day all! Breathe…
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Awesome Danni!
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That’s actually the crux for me. While in addiction (and probably even before that) I was never able to see the other’s perspective. Finally learning to look at another person’s side, after quite a while of being sober and clean.
For me it was not so much the playing the victim (although that certainly is part of it too), as it was the total inability to see the other person’s side of things. My self centeredness which was pretty close to total when in active addiction. Still learning. And still lots to learn too.
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We are…Thank you time zones! LOL. it’s like by 1 minute! So I still claim you even though I am technically the 4th not the 3rd.
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Hey all, checking in on day 547. I hope everybody has a good start to their week!
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It’s a new and beautiful morning on sober day 70 
The sun is shining and the sunrise this morning on my 2 mile walk was glorious!
@claire-lo 
1 year and 8 months is pretty impressive!
@anon27760155 
500 days!! You rockin’ it Danni!
@ShesGotMoxie 
4 months! Congratulations Carolyn!
@anon53116147 
60 days!!! SWEET!! I saw your 60 and felt a bit of motherly pride for a moment. How odd I thought…then I realized how I often think about how much you resemble my son Mike in many ways. Hope you don’t mind some motherly love coming your way. 
@anon86198612 Congratulations!! 4 weeks is super!
@CueBall8n9 20 days!! Congrats!!
@mamador @anon52066378 14 days!! congrats!! 2 weeks is great!!
@Aussie_Tiger 
10 days!! Congrats!!
Have a Marvelous Monday all 
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Happy Monday! Woke up super congested, sore throat, so moving a bit slowly this morning. But it’s a beautiful, sunny day out and my pup wants to get out for a hike, so I’ll get out and around shortly. I had a really fulfilling weekend and feel really satisfied by our activities, decorating the tree, setting up our new faux fireplace space heater for the basement and cooking lots of good food. I spoke to my family yesterday and everyone is doing okay, just really sad after the tornado disaster that hit so close to home. I did find out where best to make a donation so I’ll do that today. Grateful for a hangover free Monday morning.
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I’m glad it’s not worse too.
Last time I fell down the stairs I was pushed by Emily, the ghost at Amberley Castle. 
You know where that is? Broke my ankle, 2nd day in on a 2 week trip to your lovely country 
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Day 9 for me today…
Feeling good and enjoying my night
Have a good day or night guys.
Bbye and take care
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And to be honest, there are still a lot of stretches where it feels like a whole lot of ODAAT. 
That’s how we do it though. 
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Alcohol Free.
I must say I’m very proud to have made it this far. I remember how I would creep the forum before creating an account, continuously resetting my counter, thinking to myself “wow! 678 days sober! I don’t think I can do it but I want to try!” The day I signed up for accountability and motivation is the day I just “knew” I was ready for a shift. That’s why I chose Desire2changetoday as a screen name. “Today” was the keyword. With that said, I’m here to let you know that everyday sober is a milestone.
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