Can their mom talk to them about their behavior? Maybe tell them if they act like that there will be consequences, and it’s unacceptable.
They are big enough to know better.
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I know that feeling all to well, Mike. My daughter gives me such a hard time when we go out to the store. She wants everything, throws fits and doesn’t listen to a word I say. But never pulls that shit with her dad. All he has to do is give her a look and she immediately stops. I don’t know why. I must have done something wrong during the toddler stage.
Don’t get down on yourself! You’re a great dad and we all see it. Spending that time with them is more important than how they act with us.
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Good Morning Mike
You touch my heart so. I can completely relate
Echoing what others said you are a great father… consequences work.
Glad you posted how you were feeling. Glad you did your gratitude
You may need to implement other tools in your box for a while…maybe a chat with family Dr or thearpist about your feelings…maybe meetings? Sponsor? I have all of these tools in my box and they help tremendously. Alot of us have underlining issues that come up a lot more when we’re sober. They need to be healed for your growth on the journey
Prayers and Blessings for strength and serenity to you.
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Day 111.
Happy Friday
Hope everyone has a great sober Day.
Sober and Serene 24
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They’re mother use to be the same way to me, and I can’t be for certain or accuse but do wonder if she maybe talks un highly of me around them, I have caught autumn almost slip a couple times and say well mommy says your stupid. But didn’t really think much of it at the time bc it was a while ago. I do talk to her about it sometimes but all she says is they know better then to act like that with me. It’s bc you let them push you over, like no I’ve tried everything, sitting in time out, taking toys away. Trying reward system, yelling obviously never works but sometimes I resort to it, talking softly. I definitely will try to talk with they’re mother again we do get along better person to person and I still love the girl, but idk what she’s like behind my back. I know how she use to be but people change so I can’t say she for certain still is like that. She also is what caused alot of hate for me in this town bc she told ppl I use to beat her
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I’m sorry you’re feeling down today man. When I get into a funk like that I try to list 5 positive things that are going my way.
It probably sounds kind of dumb and sometimes when I make that list it’s stuff even as simple as “I’m still sober”, etc. it doesn’t have to be crazy accomplishments or anything.
Have you been able to try out your new machine yet? Sorry if I missed a post on that somewhere.
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Thanks I am waiting my my insurance cards and will be going to a therapist again, definitely do need more tools much love
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Day 623. Tired. I got a lot of new responsibilities at work this year plus working full time now. One of the responsibilities was to fix the final economic report for a project and I am in no way educated on economics or accounting or anything. I don’t have all tbe info for stuff. I am doing it as thoroughly as I can but doing something that should have been a continous work on the economic dimensioning is quite difficilt afterwards to just jump on and trying to find all the numbers etc. But accepting that this is a learning process for me and our whole organization.
I am also gonna get a small education on economics ro handle our everyday economics. Gonna ask for a nice raise later on.
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Thank you Lisa
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Thanks I will do that. No I was excited for it, but still have not touched it. I have a tattoo next Sunday. And a tattoo on the 22nd I do need to test it before then lol
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Yeah I remember you said you had to wait because you had the girls, that’s good though because that’s something to look forward too! I hope your day turns around
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Hey everyone. Day 12 here. Glad to have made it to another day. Today is one of those days where I really just have no will to do much work. I’m feeling a little down and depressed today. Even feeling like this I am not feeling the need to drink, more so the need to lounge around and just try to relax and take care of myself today. The hard part is, I still need to get some work done today, so I’m going to try to rough it out and get some stuff done. Today is going to feel like a struggle. I can already tell. Hopefully, I can get done what I need to and take an early quit to the day for some TLC.
@Sabrina80 Congratulations on one week. That’s awesome!
@Miranda glad you made it into the double digits! I am so happy for you!
@icebear That is awesome on the nine months! So cool to see that! 
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For sure, I’ve just been in a funk in general lately. Yesterday was first time I drew in a week or so, just listening to my body and taking the breaks when it says. Much love thank you
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I will not speak for your hubby but I can imagine if I were him. There was a point in my life where I had just given into the idea I would use forever. It had been my life for so long, the chaos was my normalcy. It would have taken a lot of love and inspiration from someone pretty special in my life to prove to me otherwise. Maybe thats whats happened here, you have helped him ride those waves of urges he never had the strength to do alone, you are helping him see that life can be better. He has hope now and it has a huge part to do with all the hard work and determination he has seen from you. You are not only saving your own life Dana but you are helping him save his too. 
#fuckaddiction
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Ah man… u always make me tear up lol in a good way. Literally all I did was focus on me and my recovery. I didn’t even tell him he couldn’t use. In the past (when he would ask), I would tell him that I didn’t want to and that I would be upset if he went and did it anyway, but that it was ultimately his choice. And thankfully he never did. But idk, maybe I did show him that there is another way to live. It’s almost like when I finally got past that 3 day relapse point or when I finally said no for the 1st time ever. I didn’t think I had it in me. And once I realized that i had a choice today and that I didn’t have to use & that living life clean was actually pretty cool… it has become so empowering
Its not always easy for sure…but it was just realizing that I could do it that made all the diff 
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Start of Day 5 and I have a busy day in store. The brand inspector is coming so I can sell some cows later this afternoon. Taking my youngest boy to the oral surgeon, dropping off donations to be sent to Ukraine, and need to take my second oldest to red rocks today to get her senior pictures done. Last night was pretty restless for me, but most nights are. I could be falling asleep on the couch but the second I go to my bed I’m wide awake. I know it will help when it warms up a bit more and I can start running again in the pasture.
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When my child said nasty things to me I used it as an opportunity to teach her about feelings. My child also mirrored my behavior at that age. So she was saying things like " how many calories are in that?" and other ridiculous things. If your kids hear your call yourself dumb they will feel it’s OK to say you’re dumb. I am in no way condoning their behavior but they do become conditioned to their environment its normal. Whispering instead of yelling at my hyper active child worked wonders. Sounds crazy I am sure but it really helped keep the volume down in my house. She had to stop to hear me…
Holding hands when we were out was a rule period.
Maybe that’s the difference between the houses? Do you have rules in place that you follow through with? Consistancy is imperative with children especially little neurodiverse kids.
Like others have said, you’re a great dad. We are not born with a parent manual uploaded into our brains. It’s sort of a live and learn thing and you’re doing a great job. The girls are safe, fed, happy. Think about all the other children in the world who don’t have fathers capable of fulfilling their childrens basic needs. They are lucky they have you and you are lucky to have them.
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@Miranda How are you today? Hope ur night got better.
@icebear Way to go Drew!!! Congratulations on 9 months!!!
@Sabrina80 Way to go on 1 week Sabrina!! Proud of you lady!
@Jennajen Sounds like a raise us definitly in order! That sounds intense!
@hillbillychris Glad to hear ur pup is okay. Hope ur day is better today
@Misokatsu Way to go Fleur on the amends!
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