Honestly, if I were u I would message them:) Does this nurse know u from 6 years ago? I think it would be a good idea either way to say something… just to sort of plead ur case a bit 
just to say thank u for their time and to mention a few things about how well ur doing, how serious u are about ur this career path, how dedicated u are to helping people and making a difference… that sort of thing u don’t need to go into full detail but i feel like if u don’t say something, then others can say their piece and maybe it won’t go as well. Idk. I don’t know the whole exact situation. I would hope that what u sat wouldn’t be taken the wrong way. But I also don’t know the entire situation or what these people are like
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I would wait. Check in with them, like you tried to do, just following up on the application before trying to explain anything and if she has reservations then it could be helpful to have some response prepared, particularly what you have done and are doing to maintain your recovery. It’s not a good look to try and make excuses or give reasons for past behavior, keep it forward focused and you’ll be good.
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Wow, what a nice idea! I would really like to do this by myself.
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Good morning everyone just getting out of AA hope all are well today. Enjoy your day God Bless you all.
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Extremely grateful to be back on the east coast . Grateful to be sober and not sick or withdrawing. I have to protect my sobriety and that means staying away from Certain people places and things. I’m not willing to throw this hard work away or all the Tests god has given me or things I went through … to what go back to the bottle !!! I don’t think so !! Alcohol is not a solution anymore for celebration or bad days . It’s not medicine. It’s not life .
Goals for today
- Apply to 10 jobs on indeed
- Transfer contacts to new phone
- Update passwords
- Create a gmail account
- Play guitar for at least 1 hour
- Go to beach and swim
- Pray and be ok with my feelings
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that looks like the south of France…
Checking in on day 346. Today my wife started a new job. I will be working mostly from home this summer so I will be home by myself until picking up the kids. The weather is getting warmer and lighter. I had a small twinge of, “what if I…”, but I’m feeling that and letting it pass. Jumping onto an online meeting now. Hope everyone has a great start to their week.
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Yes I’ll probably just wait it out. Wouldn’t necessarily give excuses but just let the person know I’m not who I once was. But messaging someone on fb is a bad look as well trying to prove I’ve changed through a FB message can be perceived so many different ways. I’ll go down and check in again tomorrow, my goal isn’t to show anyone I’ve changed but just help the elderly and fill my passion for caring. Hopefully they will see that, if not then it would t surprise me it’s how Tupper lake is. Lots of judgemental bull crap…
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She definitely seems to want to give you a chance. Best wishes for you! You’re good at just being yourself and that will help.
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Daily check in.
Day 65 
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Congrats and well done on one week!!!
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Because today I’m a creator of a mess or wonderful things. Because today I move forward seeking solution, safety, communication, hard work and mindfulness of acts of love over reactions. Because today I am a creator, I move forward and don’t stop get get it 
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Struggling a bit today… 3.75 days in and my first weekend without a drink for as long as I can remember which I really really enjoyed, but I really fancied treating myself to a pint after a long day at work just now. Picked up a 0% can but not sure if that’s even ok? Any experiences with AF beer and if it’s a good thing or just making you lean into cravings?
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The FA trophy final at Wembley, was a fun experience
I’ve had a few AF beers especially if other people are drinking. Allows me to give in to some of my habits without the negative effects. I made a very clear choice when I started this journey a couple of weeks ago to keep going to the pub, be in social situations where others are drinking and now I can even have alcohol in the house without worrying about it. I treat alcohol like an allergy and KNOW that I can’t have it. I find that binary way of thinking helps me, but certainly may not help everyone.
Day 4 and 5 were really tough for me too but it’s definitely a lot easier now. You got this. One day at a time. Just for today I will not drink.
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Thank you, that is really helpful! I will try that way of thinking 
Hi, checking in on Day 4. Someone mentioned Day 3-4 are rough, I can see that, for me not the withdrawals, because I was on Day 21, but the sadness. I don’t want to drink and I always put a positive spin on things, but honestly, I’m lonely. I read the entire thread on ‘affected by a love one who’s an addict’ and brought up memories of my 1st marriage, ended after 15 years because I was the sober one. I’m sorry @Dazercat and all going through it, it’s not easy. I finally packed it up after my mom died in 2005, just couldn’t take the stress anymore.
Sometimes I wonder if I should have stuck it out, mainly because 2nd husband was a drug addict, alcoholic, and a con man who hated to work, almost ruined me financially. (Yep, I have a huge sign on my head ‘Calling all Losers’) I opened up to him because I knew him years ago in HS and our 20s, he pretended to be who I wanted.
So now it’s just me, Max & Riley. I rarely see my son and grandkids, there’s no riff, he’s just busy. My heavy drinking really took off with #2, and even though a HUGE relief was lifted since he’s no longer in my life. I’m still digging out of debt but can now pay my bills too. The drinking drowned out the sorrow of fucking up my life and wasting away so many years. I get jealous when I see people in a decent marriage, or can visit with their parents and such. I don’t go on social media because I know that’s all BS, this is as social as I get. Pretty rare for me to be open, but I’m trying. Thanks for reading, I am grateful for all of you (I know, wrong thread, lol) and I wish everyone the very best sober day! 
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I have 0 beer at times however that was after 6 months of no alcohol or beer. But now I have 527 days sober and enjoy a AF once a month or so.
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Day 3 - Today has been ok. I’m feeling a lot of emotions whirling around inside my soul today. It’s like I’ve gone from only seeing in black and white to full colour. I need to embrace it but I feel a bit rattled today. Day 3 has always been tough but this time I feel like I am really opening up to how I’m feeling and the noise of it is almost too much to bear. So much guilt at not being in the same house as my children, so much loneliness that I can barely stand it. Sadness for what I have lost.
Yet in writing this, in chronicalling these feelings the storm of emotion has eased a bit.
I’m still a work in progress, I am only human but I am working towards being a better man. One step t a time, one day at a time.
I think I’ll go and think about what I am greatful for now as that seems to help.
I hope all of your days have been easier than mine. You are all so strong for every step you take forward. For every time you get back up after relapsing. Embrace your strength.
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