Hello @SadMemeQueen
I’m glad you got my comment 
It’s very late where im at and I just finished work. I’m exosted but in good spirits
I hope you and your partner can help eachother like me and my partner
My partner seems to just ease my pain. No matter what, she is there for me
Relationships are tough
It’s not always rainbows and lollipops as she says. I hope you and your partner can understand eachother. And are easy on eachother.
Have good dreams
Goodnight
We are currently long distance but she is moving back soon (hopefully) she makes everything better even if we’re both not in the best mood. Sweet dreams 
Hi Kat here checking in Day 16.
Things are going well I noted today that every day I gain in sobriety makes me feel that much better about myself.
Trying to go to meetings every day.
Love you all and wish you a sober and happy 24. Each hour we are sober, each minute is precious.
Glad to see u and those numbers going up!
Evening Check in
Day 129
I needed to just check in bcuz I’m feeling very defeated or upset or something. I have been doing so well on my keto diet and I’ve noticed some really positve changes. My hubby I guess can’t wrap his head around that and got angry bcuz I was “wasting food”. We made chicken breast for supper which I ate and I made some boxed mashed potatoes for him. He got upset bcuz I wouldn’t eat the potatoes. I refused to eat them bcuz I don’t want to eat them. He was being very contradicting, saying 1 thing (Go ahead and eat what u want), and then when I replied with, “well then why are u mad?”, he would say something else (your wasting food and I work so hard for it). I offered a solution about getting sides for him like real potatoes so I can make enough just for him and not wasting food and he brushed it off. I said it would be nice to have some support and he doesn’t give a shit quite frankly. Just like about our clean time. He doesn’t understand how important those milestones mean to me (so to save myself a damn headache I don’t mention them. Only to u guys). I feel so unsupported for the majority of stuff that means alot to me. I hate feeling alone sometimes in this relationship. Maybe he is having a bad day idk. The only good thing about this all is the fact that he didnt walk off for a smoke mid-conversation like he almost always does, only for us to never talk about the argument ever again… literally. So today I’m proud I stuck to my guns and refused to eat something that I feel is not the best for me and honestly didnt even want to eat anyway (given my health situation and my BED). So I’m glad I stood my ground and I’m glad I did it in a good way (I think). Just frustrated about the lack of my hubbys support 
That sucks your partner isnt being supportive. Theres like zero nutrition in a box of potatoes and arent they relatively inexpensive? Sounds like he was just in a confrontational mood. Good for you for standing your ground. We are here to support you and celebrate your successes, even if hes having a dickish day
Ur probably right honestly. I have to learn to not take things so personally. As much as it sucks sometimes, I find having the “f*ck it” attitude for certain things (the not so important stuff… I’d never say this about recovery), actually helps me. It helps me to disengage from things that could potentially hurt me emotionally but I just need not care about. Idk if thats healthy honestly… probably not. But he’s a generally negative person to begin with so he finds fault in alot of things unfortunately 
Good for you, maintaining your boundaries! In that particular circumstance I’d just save the excess potatoes for him to eat another day.
But this goes beyond potatoes. You absolutely deserve to have your husband in your corner always. You can’t control his behavior though, so I’d recommend just keep it civil and come here when you need someone to talk to. 
That’s a good number, 1111. Make a wish!
Late Check In, Day 19. I turned in my Final!!! Very, very happy about that! I took my daughter to a play date and the host offered alcohol, I declined. It wasn’t a big deal to anyone I was just reminded about how many years of play dates I took my son to and got hammered. I feel pretty terrible about that.
Even with how busy I was today thoughts kept creeping in, flashbacks really, of my drunken antics over all of the years since I first started drinking. I have been pretty sick to my stomach all day. Shame is an awful feeling. I have actually been unable to feel much in recent years. I don’t think I cried for 3-4 years, unless I was drunk. I am glad to be feeling my feelings again. I am working on processing it. And I’m not going to drink today.
Thank u for the response. I definitly pick my battles with him and ur right about it being civil. The other option leaves me mental and emotionally super upset. I do deserve his support. And I know that. But I honestly dont know if I will ever feel during my lifetime, the kind of love and affection that I want in a relationship. I want to be complimented and appreciated and supported. It’s so rare that he shows any kind of affection honestly. But the positve side of things is that I have been forced to love myself and to find my strength and my validation from within me. I have become stronger bcuz literally every relationship I have ever been in, has been with a man who has either been abusive or withdrawn or whatever. I sometimes stop caring bcuz it hurts too much to give a shit quite frankly. I love him and very much care for him. But I don’t like how things are sometimes which ends up me comparing my relationship to other couples
Thank you! And you will, love the positive attitude. What I have learned is ODAAT is really a necessity. I didn’t take that too seriously the 1st time, but after relapsing, I realized the best way is truly only worry about today. Then tomorrow repeat 
They’re really important and will help! Coming from someone who only has a couple days on you 
Awe ur doing so well girl! I’m really proud of you for listening to ur heart and turning down alcohol! And also to be able to sit with those feelings and do something with them other than numb them out. Proud of you!!!
Hello my friends. Checking in on day 377. Today was fairly good. My parents are visiting and I finally had a chance to talk to them today. We don’t always see eye to eye, but they have always been incredibly supportive of me. Went to dinner at a place I used to drink at. There were some old familiar twinges, but I am happy to be going to bed sober.
You know something? I’ve been off the booze for one year and twelve days, but I think that I still have quite a bit of recovery work to do. I think there are deeply broken parts of me that must be healed, and that couldn’t happen until I stopped running away with drink. Hope everyone has a good night / day.
That sucks, you shouldn’t ever be guilted into doing something you don’t want, I’m glad you stood your ground and sounds like you handled it well. Hopefully he was having a bad day, I know so many are struggling with a partner that doesn’t understand. I’m glad you can come here and share.
I hope your evening gets better 
Welp…I’m on around 7 x trying to sober 🫣…longest I have gotten was 45 days! That was about 3 years ago tho.
You beat me, longest for me was 22 days. But this time I am doing ODAAT. I didn’t drink today, I don’t know about tomorrow, but I plan on not drinking then either.
Thank u Maxine! I know that no relationship is 100% perfect but I do have some expectations. But even when I voice them I dont feel like it often makes a difference. Sometimes he does surprise me with something sweet or a nice comment about something but it’s rare. He is the type that needs to think about what happened and sometimes does apologize (but again thats rare). I always hope for a better tmrw. And I’m glad it didn’t turn out to be a disaster night anyway. Just crappy. Thanks my friend for ur support
I think lots of couples argue about food and waste. My husband likes to bulk buy, and then when I get sick of it or it goes out of date and I don’t want to eat it, he pulls the same “you’re being wasteful” act. But he bought it!