Checking in daily to maintain focus #47

#Day 1461 :seedling:
Thank you all for the wishes for my 4 year milestone!! :pray: :pray: :pray:
Had a good day with nothing special actually. But having a good day was enough! Made a offer for an old Maria statue I saw on a second hand online shop and she accepted. Itā€™s ā€œtheā€ Maria from Lourdes and because I was in Lourdes twice it attracted me. Iā€™m not relegious, but open minded and spiritual. Still thinking about that Maria statue in that Mexican restaurant where you could light a candle. I want such a place in my house! So Iā€™m going to find a small serving plate. Going to put sand in it, my Maria statue and some tealights.


This is the statue I bought. Itā€™s old and a bit worn out (hope thatā€™s the right translation) but I like her face :blush:
Today? Work! And all alone in the shop because of lack of staff. I will survive :upside_down_face: It doesnā€™t help to worry on front about it. And this time I didnā€™t.
Have a great start of the week! :facepunch:

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Day 145 af
Cruising around olympic national park with my dad and son. Went whale watching. Going to drive down the oregon coast tomorrow and check out a bunch of beaches. My dad (also an alcoholic) hasnt had a sip on this whole trip. Had made it easy on me. Im grateful for these memories made and ones we will make. Going to see Roger Waters when we get back on Tuesday which will be icing on the cake. Lifes good. Much :heart: yall!

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Miranda im really proud of you, 18 days :purple_heart::purple_heart:

@HappyDays congrats on 3 days and 2 days!
I quit smoking and drinking at the same time too.
I had to they went hand in hand so i knew for me to really succeed in being sober i couldnt smoke.
I also would leave straight from work and go to your safe space, it does make being sober and smoke free a load easier when you really dont want a drink or smoke and being around it will just punish yourself and your mind will try to trick you into thinking its okay. Your doing great :slightly_smiling_face:

@Butterflymoonwoman congratulations on your 216 days, i admire your strength towards sobriety and to life itself. Im just catching up here so hope all is well :purple_heart:

@Hayleylujah congratulations on your 100 days, loving seeing your paintings your very creative its nice to see you showing us your talent, also your hair looks beatifull curly - i love the curls i have them too :slightly_smiling_face:

@Bluekoolaid 6 days is amazing, breaking the viscous cycle is the hardest and you have basically done it. Give it a little bit if time and you will be feeling more positive and back to yourself.

You relapsed, and your getting over it, so say goodbye to all the feelings that came along with that relapse that your holding on too, let them all go because you dont need to be carrying those low vibrational feelings around with you.

Your 6 days sober now you dont deserve to feel all that crap. Once you throw those feelings off your shoulders see what your left with, usually anger or frustration we carry around is pointless because it usually comes from the past something we cant change, so throw those feelings off your back, anxiety now is more a feeling about how we feel about the future or what we worry about day to day, use this feeling to help you stay sober while its there, work out what feelings you need to hold on your back and what ones are dragging you down which you cant change or do anything about, get rid of those feelings. The ones you cant get off your back are because there is still something you can do about them, there is still room for change so use the feelings your left with to make the neccasary changes- this isnt going to happen over night but will only happen as fast as you let it too.
You got this, you have done it before, just because you relapsed doesnt make you a bad person or any less of what you acheived, it just means you need to learn where that weakness came from to use, and make sure you make that a strength.
I know you can do this, i watched you go through stuff a person shouldnā€™t have to go through, look at where you are now Trevor.
Look at where you are and look at it like this if it helps- your 6 days today thats amazing, look around you, be mindful of where you are and your surroundings, the way you can live now properly, look how far you have come and pat yourself on the back because its far.
And the thing you need to think of while your looking around at what you achieved you need to remind yourself that you didnt do any real damage this time your really lucky, and your on day 6 thats something to be feel really happy about, that everything you got through, everything you acheived is still there, you havent ruined yet. Theres so much for you to lose, that you didnt lose this time, theres so much to be proud of yourself for. :hugs:

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@HeyImKris thats right, keep coming to the community here instead, it will soon be your natural reaction to come here and share and get support.
Im so glad your here with us, it really is nice knowing we all have eachother for support but not only that, its that the support comes from a place in all our hearts that we actually really do understand how hard it is, have either been there or are still there, together we are stronger and you do have us all here, there is always someone around.
Your doing so well, im glad you reached out here.
Sorry i missed your 30 days so congratulations on your 31 days thats a huge milestone.

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15 almost 16 months clean from meth.

Life is so much easier now tbh. Now I no longer have to watch my back worried about losing control and having a relapse. Now I feel like whenever I have a pang for crystal that my conscience is strong enough to remind myself why doing it is a bad idea. Still doing 2 meetings a week and daily readings to keep me in check.

Hope you all getting some progress in your recovery too x

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I actually bought one a few days ago. My heart rate is all over the place. 115 and then will go to 70 in 15 minutes

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Hey,
Thanks so much for the lovely comments and support :blush: very encouraging and I appreciate that. Enjoy your day x

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Day 201 of no self harm.

I am sick. My throat hurts so bad I havenā€™t been able to swallow my medication in a couple days. So that is probably the reason behind these feelings. I just have this god-awful sense of dread. It feels like nothing is ever going to be okay. Like this is just how I have to live my life. Iā€™m so goddamn sick of fighting and struggling every fucking day to just function. Iā€™m not even really functioning fully. I havenā€™t had a shower in a week, eating meals is near impossible, I havenā€™t brushed my teeth in months, any sleep I get feels useless because I wake up more exhausted. I donā€™t know if anyone else gets this, but when I feel this bad I get full body chills. I donā€™t know if itā€™s the despair or dread or what. Nothing has even happened. I just feel like nothing gets better. Iā€™ve been struggling as long as I can remember, and even when I have made tremendous progress things still feel just as bad sometimes. I know I probably need to call my friend but he just went to bed and I canā€™t bring myself to bother him with my existence right now. I donā€™t even really want to bother with my own existence why should he

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I am sorry you are feeling so awful. It almost sounds like you have Covid. Maybe you should get yourself checked if you havenā€™t checked yourself already? I hope you will quickly start feeling better where you can eat and take your medicine. Iā€™m proud of you for not harming yourself. Keep us up-to-date

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They do. Sometimes they do. I know. They do for me too. Still we keep moving. We make progress. Ever so slowly but still. One day at a time. Hugs.

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Triple Digits Lady! Thatā€™s amazing! Astounding! Astonishing! Huge congrats!

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Finishing my coffee. One day off, switching to early shifts from late ones tomorrow. Thatā€™s OK.

Glad I worked three days. It went a bit better each day after the aggression incident Wednesday. Still I noticed a small relapse in how I handle things, a bit of a reversal to old times in how I tend(ed) to hide and avoid and procrastinate. Thatā€™s not the way to handle this job and not the way to handle life.

I did not drink or smoke or have to urge to do so, so thatā€™s good. And I can reflect and learn and grow I hope. Three steps forward and two steps back. One day at a time. Have as good a week as you all can friends. Make it sober and clean or nothing will come of it. Love from the Strawberry Mountain Wilderness OR 4 years ago today.

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Aw thank you so much :blush: Iā€™m feeling good about myself and people here are so supportive which helps a lot :+1:t2:

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Each day each week each month will get easier stay focused and pray you know what to do you been doing it a while God bless you journey

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Hi, Iā€™ve just seen the news about the typhoon. How are you? Are you affected? Stay safe :sparkling_heart:

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Oh what a hard day to get through yesterday but I did it! I made it to one month today. And the very best part, the very very best part of all the tears and anxiety and struggle not to pick up through yesterday, is my son sent his support for my recovery and his love! Oh I am so grateful I made it today. Thank you for being here everyone. :heart:

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Hey all, checking in on day 827. I hope everybody has a good one!

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Day 769

Typhoon still on its way, but pretty windy outside and the odd blast of hard rain. It seems to have overshot the land and going along the north coast. The poor cat keeps jumping at the bangs of things out side. All looking safe here tho. :+1:

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Ah thatā€™s good, glad kitty is safe too :sparkling_heart:

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Great job, well done for making it :sparkling_heart:

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