Thank you very much @RosaCanDo, @Nordique and @Butterflymoonwoman!!! 
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Day 157
Doing better today but a new challenge of having to confront a family member we live with who is (probably unintentionally) derailing the healthing process weāre on with my 10yo.
Heās bringing home chips, corn dogs, bags of McDonaldās, and more after we all agreed on a plan with pretty clear boundaries for her sake. Iāll be as nice as i can, but firmly planted in the fact that we already covered this over a month ago so this isnāt new.
Itās been going really well with all this too, so Iām frustrated that heās starting to do this. Knowing where i stand as her mom, knowing heās agreed to this.
Iām not going to end up being a shitty toxic enabler bc it makes him feel uncomfortable.
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Hi guys Kat here checking in at day 95, first check in in a while, I have been on FB and not this app way too much.
Doing ok, still clean and sober, but stopped going to the gym a couple weeks ago need to get back. (My roommate has had foot cellulitis and hasnāt been able to walk the dog, so thatās taken a bit of time).
Also been having a problem getting to meetings I have been so tired and crashing about 6pm. Maybe that fatigue is from decreased exercise? Not enough caffeine? Too much caffeine? Gotta do something to change.
Anyway forgive my absence please and look forward to being on this amazing app more.
Kat
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1015 days without gaming
15 days without YouTube
7 days without TV and streaming services
Today was my second day of college. Also the second time I was late. I donāt want to be perceived as someone whoās always late again. Been there before when I was still gaming. Simply because I wasnāt getting enough sleep.
I donāt want to go back to being that tardy.
But I got out of bed on time the first time and today too. First I left my phone in the bus and had to take care of that causing me to miss my first train. Today my train decided have some issues causing me to miss my next train.
The first time was a dumb mistake, and the second bad luck.
Which is a lot better than being late because you had to watch Netflix until 4 am.
College itself was packed with information and tons of new assignments. But Iām slowly getting the hang of it. Although the homework is still daunting and depressing, Iām starting to get a small shimmer of hope. In a week time, thatās rather significant progress. Now that Iāve got my first handle on it, I can start climbing this mountain.
Adulting is hard, but Iāll get there.
P.s. I was sitting in my therapistās office like 6 months ago because I felt I was hopeless.
Amazing how much you can change in such short time 
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Day 590. This morning I woke up and I am making my kids french toast for breakfast, because I told them I would. The drunk me would have promised them I would do it, and then never follow through.
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Hope thereās some fun in your school and its assignments and homework as well Jan. School is school, whether it is level 1 or level 8. And school sucks . Still some of it should be fun too right? Proud of you youāre going for it friend. Proud of you for taking the train too. I know from experience how hard that is these days. Already saving for a car or a motor?
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Glad to hear you were able to work through yesterdays.
Going back to the basics of self care is sometimes just what we need.
I hope your day today is going better.
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I love this and I love that youāre reveling in it. As the child of two alcoholic parents I can confirm how THRILLED your kids are as well. I know people say kids donāt remember that stuff if they were young enough. But they do. I did anyhow. And I know that they see the contrast in you and are thankful and happy and feel extra loved cause sober you made them French toast. (Not that you needed any of that from me. A stranger. But I know kids arenāt good at articulating all that and you kinda have to guess at it. So I just wanted to make it real clear. They see you. And the good job youāre doing)
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I have my exam the 20th of September. If I make it, I want to buy a car asap. Something cheap, preferably sub ā¬500 thatāll get me through the next 3-4 months and then something nicer in the ā¬2-2,5k range. But I donāt think Iāll pass. My last lesson was one and a half week ago and I donāt have time for anymore lessons until the 20th 
kind of annoyed Iām a gaming addict now as Iād love to get in some more practice, even by playing a driving simulator 
My self criticism is decreasing steadily, so perhaps Iāll be able to stay out of a funk during my exam.
Only time will tell 
My school is indeed interesting and somewhat fun, but Iāve always felt big tasks are daunting. And that Iāve never really made any homework unless truly necessary makes it so that Iām a few steps behind on my peers and the expectations.
It is also very strongly focused on growth which is very useful.
All in all, my study is not all that bad
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I hope Iāll get there one day too. I think I still have some time 
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Good Morning, Everyone
Itās been really hot over here in California and sleep has not been that great.
I slept about 6:50 hrs last night but I feel full of energy surprisingly and I donāt drink coffee.
The one change I made this week so far is reading at nights.
At least 30 mins. I am actively reading 3 books. Lol
All good so Iām all in on all of them.
I am having some teen trouble with my son. He has (fallen in love) and is making some not so great choices. I was not ready for this as I still see my kiddo as a baby. I am only hoping that this shall pass soon and that he doesnāt make a mistake that will change his life forever. I am most certain he has already done the deed. I have moved this child to a new school hoping to put some distance. Social media seems to be a big problem right now which is how they communicate. I am actively going to pray on this so that this runs its course quickly. Any of the male guys here want to give me some advice please do so. How did your mothers help you when you encounter this as young man? What did help and what didnāt? My son is already active on weekend sports and schools sports so he does have that distraction.
Thanks for reading and hope you all have a great sober day.
ODAAT 
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Im really glad u realized ur progress over the past 6 months. I remember reading ur posts from even longer ago than 6 months and u have gained sooo much growth Jan. I honestly am soo impressed with u and ur journey! Really proud of u!
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My sonās 24 now, so I been there done that with all the teen stuff. The one thing I can promise you, is that short of chaining him up in the house, youāre not gonna be able to keep them from doing what theyāre gonna want to do when they hit a certain age. My wife wasnāt comfortable with it when he started messing with girls because like you said, she looks at him like her baby.Lol. My advice and the only thing you can do is make sure theyāre armed with the knowledge of what can happen if theyāre not responsible. I made sure I sat my son down and had a blunt no bullshit talk with him. I even went out and got him protection, because at that age theyāre either too stupid or too embarrassed to do it themselves. If you donāt feel comfortable doing it, than try and get a guy friend or someone to talk to him. They really need to know the consequences of certain things before itās too late. Good luck. 
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Checking in
Day 205
Feeling sort of off today. Things were good to start and now im feeling weird lol. I went to go do my workout, was all excited and ready to go, and 2 people were literally hogging thr majority of the weights, the bench press, the mat in front of the mirror, and had their music blaring on the phone. Grrr. Even tho it annoyed me, I wasnt rude. I had to go with the flow so i did my exercises that didnt require the bench or the mirror. Finally they left and I had a chance to use it. Realized tho that the few plates they have down here, went on the Rebar my hubby got me with no issue 
So i was actually able to do barbell exercises! I was soo happy about that. But todays workout was more of a trial and error workout bcuz i had to get into the groove with using a barbell again. So i dont feel like i really worked out hard, which is sort of eating away at me. Making me feel like i need to push myself harder and stay here longer than need be. This for me is an old behavior so im going to watch that. Im only going to finish my cardio now and then leave. Im not staying here any longer than that. Heres a pic of my setup! Im sooo happy I got a free barbell! Haha now to find some heavier plates!
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Noice ride, mate! 
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Great job Dana way to overcome!!!
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Thanks Dana, I really appreciate that
And honestly everything you said, right back at ya. You have been on this forum longer than I have. And those first 2 years your longest stretch was around 10 days I believe. Then all of a sudden something in you switched and as far as I know you only had one relapse after that when you were around the 50 day mark. Huge improvement of your previous record. And you didnāt let that relapse bring you down. And now youāre having just celebrated 200 days! Thatās truly massive Dana, and I, amongst undoubtedly many others, am very proud of you.
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We went through something similar but with my daughter. We too moved her schools. She ran to him for everything and had her brain so twisted up. I even sat him down as well as spoke to his mom (which was no help). Eventually it passed but we had the pandemic lockdowns that helped us. Iām sorry I donāt have any great advice other than just being mom and praying for the best.
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