Well, you dont owe them that story. You can be casual, here are some more options!
“I havent been drinking and feel much better/thats been really working for me”
“No, Id rather keep a clear head tonight”
“No, im craving ice tea”
You could also offer to DD if thats not too triggering. But really you dont owe them reason after reason, and “no thank you” is a full response that doesnt need elaboration.
Sometimes I make the mistake of seeing 400+ days sober and assuming its easy or not as bad a problem anymore. Which is the kind of thinking that would hurt me at 400+ days if unchecked. So seriously thank you for sharing.
Oh Dana, I’m so sorry what you’ve been through with your little dude . I’m rarely on this thread but I saw your last ones and I went backwards. Way to go Super Bad Ass Mom, making sure your son gets what he needs. I know the feeling when medical or school staff sometimes brush a parent off and we need to trust our judgement and stand up without being a dick. Bottom line, we do know our kids medical conditions often better than most medical staff since we’ve been living with it 24/7.
I’m SO happy you’re home! I’m sending tons of love and hugs for both you and him.
Even though we’ve been on different threads a lot, you’re in my heart always. You’ve helped me Dana, please never forget how far you’ve come and how special you are!
I’m sorry I was away from the thread and didn’t get to read as the situation was taking place but I’m so happy that everything worked out. That must have been so scary and I’m glad you were able to share here.
Thinking of you❤️
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Coffee. Was asked to switch from late to early shifts this weekend so here it goes. I’ll be done with working this weekend eight hours sooner so that’s cool.
Was very early in bed last night so I did get a good night’s sleep. I was rather exhausted from the second intake for my second group therapy, the therapy dealing with childhood trauma. The therapist rather cruelly asked me to read out loud the bio I wrote beforehand. It was really hard reading the hard bits. I guess it’s therapy. I’m sure is part of recovery. It’s hard work. But it’s so worth it. One day a time.
Have as good a weekend as you all can friends. Make it clean and sober or nothing will come of it. It’s why we’re here. We’re on a journey together. Love from Amsterdam.
#Day 1453
I try to eat less sugar but it seems impossible. I had 8 days but reset yesterday. I ate less than normal, that’s a small win.
I work a lot this week and so I crave carbs and sugar. It’s not easy. Yesterday I gave in and ate all (chocolat, cookies ànd icecream )
So here’s to day 1 for the sugar daycounter.
Today last day of work from this week and then 40 houres of work done. A normal week for some of you but not for me it is.
Picture from an old church I saw a few days ago with an “all seeing eye” on it. I’m intriged by it. I even have one tattooed on my kalf.
In this situation I guess it means “God is watching us, ore is watching over us” Ore something like that? I’m not religious, but consider myself spiritual and open minded.
Day 50 free from alcohol Day 31 free from toxic relationship
Heeeey… It’s weekend!
First week sober with work…
And I maaaaade it!
This is making me stronger in my decision to stay sober and very proud.
I established a morning routine starting with my coffee on the mat, short meditation and some natural yoga movement, nothing special.
In lunch break i did a walk each day and gave focus on easy but healthy and filling meals… My favorite go to is oatmeal, vegan protein shake or salads with protein or carb toppings… Like a bowl.
I did not give a shit about negative people and negativety and just focused on having fun with productive work. Many colleagues said, that they are very glad and happy that I am back.
Resting and sleeping could be better… Will give a better focus on it next week and have a lot of naps on the weekend.
I even managed to swim every (!) evening …
So i already have 20 km in September.
The vision board is veeeery helpful. Looking at it during my morning routine and during the day… And repeating my positive affirmations
I can’t believe how much I changed during the last 50 days. The toxic guy with friendship plus on Off shitty relationship is past… I won’t ever get back in contact. And I even made another decision to quit with a friend who used to talk to me inappropriate and in a bad pitch! This is negativity I don’t want in my life and against myself anymore! It’s hard sometimes… But changing these things is making free space for new positive and healing relationships. People ask me about my new charisma and many people smile at me! That’s so cool and pushing forward to more positivity.
Okay that all sounds a bit like high
Maybe sobriety is my personal real high!
Thanks for having this community to share our experiences, problems, success experience and thoughts. Without this community I would not be sober!
Sending love and positivity
Take care and stay sober
Happy for you with the piano lessons… sometimes it is not so much about being perfect reading the music but just enjoying being “one” with the piano and going with the flow… You Rock!
Can not believe ( but yes, I do believe) that that woman was allowed to have children. How awful that was for you.
Had my meeting with HR yesterday about my situation. It went quit well. What helped is that I took the driving seat to determine the setting of the call outside office.
She went right away to the horrible phone call we had some time ago. It was mentioned it is no topic for over to phone, I vented what feelings it brought up with me, and that I held myself back sending a very impulsive mail. The feedback she gave was that I could have done that, since it was her’s then to deal with that. I learned that but Tim’s still hard to put it in practice. Tone of voice was more a less a role she played as an employer, rationally I knew that but we don’t know each my other that well yet. That was a acknowledged and not really handy of hers. So in short both learned some lessons from it.
She brought to the table that my work might be no fit anymore after my process. Honestly said I don’t know, if I think about that I become way to restless. That was understood, also rationally HR people tend be people oriented in the Netherlands nowadays). Explained I need time and that I don’t want the feeling I need to rush things. She doesn’t know what I have to “deal” with but obviously has an idea what it might entail. Had a nice lunch discussing some life topics, among others she brought socials to the table. Said I had got rid of them all, except LinkedIn which I was doubting about do I consider it so called “business” oriented. Lame excuse of course, since it’s not. I’m in Business Intelligence, also within marketing. Always suprised, kpi’s are just measuring views, clicks etc. How dumpass, solely my opinion here . Just creating click bate for what? Representing the firm just as realistic as life’s on Facebook. Gonna stop, can’t control that. So in short LinkedIn is also hibernating now, no excuse but there is still useful information there.
So only footprint here, somehow by using social media it looks always somewhere else better then we’re you are. Need to go to a meeting, enjoy your day.
Remember; “eventually you’ll loose everything you put in front of you’re recovery”
By definition there is emotional suffering under an addiction, until you reach the core push forward, being sober is just a first required step. A tough one yeah, but needed
Checking in 162 days AF.
Feeling quite sad today. Feeling isolated and as though everything has changed and something missing.
I have so much to be grateful for too and I hate I get like this when I am blessed.
Thanks for talking me down @Twizzlers@DLS@Imcrafty@Minatasha@Misokatsu. I’m feeling better about it thanks to you all. I’m so grateful to have found people who really understand the struggle. I’m grateful to be on this journey with everyone here. Let’s do this.
Hi, days like these luckily do pass, the feelings your feeling are temporary i know it doesnt make it much easier when your full of low emotions but stay strong and this time will pass.
I hope your day lifts up soon and you feel better
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i know it doesnt make it much easier when your full of low emotions but stay strong and this time will pass.