Good job taking care of yourself this week. Oohhhh I really miss having a fireplace. A fire can be very meditative to watch.
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hard work well done. Thank you. Oh it is . Its nice being able to appreciate it sober. 
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Day 222
Loving the clean day number today lol its very soothing in an odd way 
I am feeling tired today but I did get to work. Very quiet day today at work as my client went home for a family visit. So its literally me in a quiet suite doing some tidying up around here, laundry etc. I have been feeling down about my mom and her situation. She is pretty depressed and confused right now about her marriage to my dad. I wont go into it too much but shes missing that passion in the relationship. She is also about to start DBT (my mom also has BPD like myself) and shes been having alot of 1 on 1 therapy beforehand. I think stuff is coming up for her. But im finding myself having a hard time being supportive (i know thats awful to say). Everyday we chat and she asks for advice or my opinion on things and i help her in the ways i know how thru what ive learned over the years. But im struggling to not let this effect me mentally. It bothers me. Brings me back to my childhood when she would get upset about her and my dads relationship or about other things and then confide in me. Heres little miss counsellor 30 years later doing the same thing i was at age 7. Im sure this sounds awful but her mental health does effect me in a way. Idk. It really is not my role/responsibility to fix my moms relationship. Just like it wasnt my role as a child to be hearing the stuff i did about my father. I can be there as a support for sure but i may need to back off a bit so that im not jeopardizing my mental health. She also has some support now and will be starting DBT soon so there will be help for her in that sense too. I just havent seen her like this in a very, very long time so its worrying me honestly. I worry about something bad happening (which i wont mention). I want her to know that im always here if she needs to talk about stuff. But i guess im struggling with boundaries on what is and isnt okay. Idk im confused.
Recovery wise… im good. No issues there. I actually prayed this morning on my way to work. I needed that connection 
Health wise… so far today has been good. Have been eating healthy at work and not going into that toxic relationship with food due to my tiredness or emotions.
Hope everyone is having an addiction free day!
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Hey there. Thanks for checking on me. Still sober. 37 days. Life is about as shitty as it could possibly be. But … I’m here. Taking my meds. Seeing my therapist. Going to my doctor. Holding on as tight as I can. One day at a time, right?
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Checking in.
1,000 days substance free
520 days self injury free
136 days sugar free.
Service keeps me clean today. 
Edited: I felt like that was too vague, I will explain how service keeps me clean.
- Sponsoring women and going through the steps with them shines lights on my own recovery, character defects and assets.
- Sponsoring women who work their programs differently show me in black and white what works and what does not.
- Opening my homegroup gets my ass to a meeting even when I am not feeling like being around anyone.
- Doing service work with area and becoming a part of H&I (hospitals,detox and jails) helps me work through massive resentments I have with the opposite sex. Sitting with them in a circle, humbly as addicts in recovery is the most powerful way I could ever see being healed for those crimes against me.
- Speaking at speaker meetings pushes me past self obsession into a level of humility I had not yet experienced.
- Giving up my service positin at homegroup level to another addict so that they can also stay clean keep the circle of healing going.
I would not have the life I have today if I did not continue to give away what was so freely given to me.
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No way girl!!! Oh my god. I am so beyond grateful for not missing ur 1000 day mark substance free! Ur in the 4 digits now! Very proud of you! As i am for your other achievements that u listed! I am just BEYOND proud of you! Big hugs!!!
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Checking in on day 400. Got home at 1130 from work last night. Me and the wife fought again before my boots were off. She went right to bed. We both had stuff to do this morning separate and we’re fighting as soon as we woke. We finally got down to the details and it was said that neither of us are happy and we agree it has become toxic. She agreed to help with the move if that’s what we decide to do, but I agreed to couples counseling as long as the sole focus on the appointments was not my alcoholism. I know it will be brought up and should, but we are trying to move forward, not dwell and I don’t think it should be all about my drinking as we have many many other problems unrelated. But it was relieving to actually talk it out instead of arguing. And we came to a solution which we haven’t been able to do yet. Also have a job interview coming up next week for a CASAC position, my schooling will finally pay off and I may get a position I’ve been waiting for! But still have to tackle the interview! Hope everyone stays safe and takes care.
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Congratulations on your 400 days 
I hope you and your partner can work things out.
its great that you have both spoke about you relationship, thats moving forward in itself as there isnt arguing.
@Its_me_Stella huge congratulations on your 1’000 days that is amazing, so nice go see you see you celebrate this brilliant mile stone 
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Congrats on 1000 days!! Being of service is a fantastic idea and I can see how that would help yourself just as much as others. I’ll be goad when I get to a point where I have something to give back!
Enjoy your day!
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Day 1362
After a very, very, very long time i had a dream about drinking: At a special occasion i was offered a drink and thought:" Ah, ok, no worries. I did not had one for such a long time. One is ok" Afterwards i felt really uncomfortable.
That was more or less the end of dream.
I will take this as a reminder to always be aware what to do and “not just have the first one”
Stay strong and sober!
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Congrats on 400 and congrats on making progress in your relationship. As well as on the interview and possible job. Some things are going right yes. Good on you man. Keep going.
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Thank you Dana that is really helpful to me, I shall give it a go.
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So sleepy! Anybody else find themselves always yawning and wanting to nod off? It is overwhelming sometimes.
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Day 195. Sometimes life will crush you. You will crave your addiction. Keep in mind: there is no escape from reality. No drug will turn your life into a fairy tale.
Just carry on.
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I like it!
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Checking in 120 day AF
Still willing, grateful to be alive and willing to be sober. Still working the steps of the program that shows me how to stay sober, still struggeling a bit but as long as i remain willing then i think its a good day.
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Hello friends. Checking in on day 470. I love reading everyone’s shares and hearing about the triumphs and the struggles. We’re all in this together.
Congratulations @Its_me_Stella on 1000 days substance free! You rock!
Great numbers @HillbillyChris and @Shaunda!
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@Imcrafty Congratulations 
@Its_me_Stella Congratulations. You deserve it ,
@HillbillyChris Week done on your days. Marriage can be tough.
@Shaunda Great job
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